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How often do you user banned
3rd Dec '12

get off when you have sex? I can't even remember the last time I got off with my husband. He got off three.times last night and I got off zero. It just didn't feel good. :? I've even been.habing trouble getting myself off.

.t a y l o r. 3 kids; Indiana 3847 posts
3rd Dec '12

Every time. He makes sure I do before he does.




And now I'm reminded how angry I am that I haven't had sex in 3 months >:C

BrittanieY 18 kids; South Carolina 16634 posts
3rd Dec '12

If it's getting harder to orgasm, there may be a couple of things to try.



1. You may be psyching yourself out. You just keep thinking about it and why it isn't happening and it just gets overwhelming and frustrating. A little wine to relax you, perhaps? Make sure that you are in the mood and really want sex right then.



2. You may be over-stimulating certain areas. Try taking it slow and trying different positions. If you're relying heavily on clitoral action, perhaps try not using mechanical toys and instead just use touch.



I went through a stint where I was impossible to get there and it was frustrating for both of us!

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
3rd Dec '12

At least once every single time. He makes sure that I get to before we even starting having actual intercourse. lol.

BrittanieY 18 kids; South Carolina 16634 posts
3rd Dec '12
Quoting she nan igans:" At least once every single time. He makes sure that I get to before we even starting having actual intercourse. lol. "


I can't do that. Once I'm done, I'm done. Everything starts to get over-sensitive and swollen and uncomfortable.



I've never thought about it but I wonder if that's weird of me :oops:.

user banned California 36390 posts
3rd Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting BrittanieY:</b>" If it's getting harder to orgasm, there may be a couple of things to try. 1. You may be psyching yourself ... [snip!] ... and instead just use touch. I went through a stint where I was impossible to get there and it was frustrating for both of us!"</blockquote>




I don't drink so the wine is a no go. It's just.so frustrating because it's getting to the point where DH doesn't even.want to have.sex with me because it's so much.work. :oops:

BrittanieY 18 kids; South Carolina 16634 posts
3rd Dec '12
Quoting Jude the Super k******r:" <blockquote><b>Quoting BrittanieY:</b>" If it's getting harder to orgasm, there may ... [snip!] ... frustrating because it's getting to the point where DH doesn't even.want to have.sex with me because it's so much.work. :oops:"


That was us as well and it only makes it worse because now you're even more worried about it.



Try a bath and have him give you long massage and just see where it goes. Sometimes relaxing is the trick.

.t a y l o r. 3 kids; Indiana 3847 posts
3rd Dec '12
Quoting BrittanieY:" I can't do that. Once I'm done, I'm done. Everything starts to get over-sensitive and swollen and uncomfortable. I've never thought about it but I wonder if that's weird of me :oops:."

No, that definitely happens to me, too, lol! Thankfully, DH usually has held his in for so long trying to get me off, it doesn't take him very long to finish.

user banned California 36390 posts
3rd Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting BrittanieY:</b>" That was us as well and it only makes it worse because now you're even more worried about it. Try a ... [snip!] ... worried about it. Try a bath and have him give you long massage and just see where it goes. Sometimes relaxing is the trick. "</blockquote>




I don't like when he touches me.

TTC Queen Bee 82 kids; California 3505 posts
3rd Dec '12

Every time. He won't get off unless I do.

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
3rd Dec '12
Quoting BrittanieY:" I can't do that. Once I'm done, I'm done. Everything starts to get over-sensitive and swollen and uncomfortable. I've never thought about it but I wonder if that's weird of me :oops:."


Sometimes I'm like that, but then usually it just requires different positions that are less stimulating.

.t a y l o r. 3 kids; Indiana 3847 posts
3rd Dec '12
Quoting Jude the Super k******r:" <blockquote><b>Quoting BrittanieY:</b>" That was us as well and it only makes it worse ... [snip!] ... massage and just see where it goes. Sometimes relaxing is the trick. "</blockquote> I don't like when he touches me."

That sounds like a problem in itself :(

TTC Queen Bee 82 kids; California 3505 posts
3rd Dec '12
Quoting Jude the Super k******r:" <blockquote><b>Quoting BrittanieY:</b>" That was us as well and it only makes it worse ... [snip!] ... massage and just see where it goes. Sometimes relaxing is the trick. "</blockquote> I don't like when he touches me."


That sounds like a problem...

user banned California 36390 posts
3rd Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting T + T = A S G ♥:</b>" That sounds like a problem in itself :("</blockquote>




It's not just him. Lately I just can't stand it when people touch me. It makes my skin feel weird. It's so uncomfortable that I just tense up. Sometimes it even.hurts.

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
3rd Dec '12
Quoting Jude the Super k******r:" <blockquote><b>Quoting T + T = A S G ♥:</b>" That sounds like a problem in itself ... [snip!] ... it when people touch me. It makes my skin feel weird. It's so uncomfortable that I nust tense up. Sometimes it even.hurts."


I'd look into that. Depression perhaps? Anxiety? That seems like the underlying cause.