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His family didn't even know I was pregnant Momma Austin ♥ 2 kids; Illinois 121 posts
3rd Dec '12

and I just had the baby. I don't know if you ladies remember me but my SO kept me and our daughter a secret for years and finally told his family about our daughter. He didn't say much about me but I don't care as long as they know about Avie. Anyways, I had Amerie 2 days ago and although I don't expect them to be here since they don't live near us I wanted to take pictures of her to send to them but he didn't want to. I added one of his siblings on Facebook so that she could see recent pictures of Avie so when I uploaded pictures of Amerie she messaged me and asked me about her and I told her it was her new niece. Come to find out, she didn't know I was pregnant let alone still in her brother's life. I'm pissed because he's talking about marriage yet won't tell his family about us. He says it's because of who they are and what they're about but I've been facebook friends with his sister for weeks now and we don't talk much but from what she posts she sounds pretty sane and stable. I messaged her and asked her if her brother had any other women in his life and now I'm waiting for a reply.

☆ IVAN'S MAMI 1 child; Utah 4210 posts
3rd Dec '12
Quoting Momma Austin ♥:" and I just had the baby. I don't know if you ladies remember me but my SO kept me and our daughter a ... [snip!] ... sane and stable. I messaged her and asked her if her brother had any other women in his life and now I'm waiting for a reply."

where do they live?... i would be mad

Nancy Botwin 2 kids; Pennsylvania 2182 posts
3rd Dec '12
Quoting Momma Austin ♥:" and I just had the baby. I don't know if you ladies remember me but my SO kept me and our daughter a ... [snip!] ... sane and stable. I messaged her and asked her if her brother had any other women in his life and now I'm waiting for a reply."


Sounds like he has a double life. I would be furious, who does that??

bloopbloop♥ 1 child; Illinois 13681 posts
3rd Dec '12

Sounds like a double life for sure. Yikes :(

Klaus 2 kids; Mississippi 23429 posts
status 3rd Dec '12

OH, I remember you! I was in that first thread you posted.



So he finally at least told them something? Like about you and your first daughter?



Congrats on the new baby btw :)

Mama Van D 18 kids; Unity, Maine 2454 posts
3rd Dec '12

My automatic reaction is to think that he's hiding you from his family in order to hide you from some other life he has. Maybe that's just me.

Lilly and Laya's momma 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Chesapeake, Virginia 7824 posts
3rd Dec '12

I would be livid. If he is hiding you and the kids from his family I would be questioning what else he is hiding

OmegaDucks! Japan 615 posts
3rd Dec '12

:/ That's odd.



It looks like he's hiding something.

Nancy Botwin 2 kids; Pennsylvania 2182 posts
3rd Dec '12
Quoting Chuck Bass:" OH, I remember you! I was in that first thread you posted. So he finally at least told them something? Like about you and your first daughter? Congrats on the new baby btw :)"


Yes, Congrats to you OP :)

❥New Beginnings Due September 2; TTC since Jul 2012; 1 child; California 16189 posts
3rd Dec '12

If say double life for sure.



If nit than it seems he's ashamed of something.



I would demand explanation and probably split

SavageDarling 3 kids; Webster, Massachusetts 10381 posts
3rd Dec '12

If he doesn't want to have his family in his life at all that's one thing but just hiding you and his kids from them is completely different. Inwould be demanding some answers, some involvement, or I would split.

*A&N's Mama* 2 kids; Halifax, Nova Scotia 4627 posts
3rd Dec '12

Sounds like he's hiding a double life. I couldn't trust a man, let alone marry one who would keep me and my babies secret from his family. It sounds sketchy as f**k.



Congratulations on your newest DD :)

Vivian [♥] 2 kids; Balls Deep, in, Georgia 13908 posts
3rd Dec '12

I'm hoping he just hates his family and doesn't want anything to do with them, instead of leading some double life.
DH doesn't talk to his family and I don't talk to my dad. DHs brother added me on FB and said he had no idea I was pregnant or anything about the baby. But it doesn't surprise me with how much DH talks about his dysfunctional family. But going years without saying anything at all to them, or giving you a reason why, is weird.

A+E VBAC mama! 2 kids; Gaylord, Minnesota 12223 posts
3rd Dec '12

Id be furious

Sugarhiccup LLC ; 5 kids; Lahaina, Hawaii 2825 posts
3rd Dec '12

Definitely sounds like he is hiding something. I don't talk to my family either but they know I'm married with kids.