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Cast Your Vote:

    • yes -- Votes: 14
    • no -- Votes: 6
    • depending on the child -- Votes: 30
    • Its wrong and I will never do it. -- Votes: 5
Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
4th Dec '12

DH and I are talking about having a small tracking device put on her theeth? Not so much to spy on her but just in case she ever "runs" away or God forbids it, she gets kidnapped.
I will putting the Spyware in her computer just because there's a lot of predators out there. Other than that, I hope we have the type of relationship my mother and I had and she call tell me anything.

Colt's mommy 1 child; Moore, Oklahoma 22286 posts
4th Dec '12

I put that it depends on the kid. If he never gives me anything to worry about, then probably not. Even if I were to spy, it wouldn't be an everyday type of thing, kwim? I could see myself randomly checking his phone or bag or something, idk.

user banned 3 kids; Ontario 10942 posts
4th Dec '12
Quoting .B.:" no I wouldn't, but I don't plan on letting her have a computer in her bedroom either"


Why not? Just curious on your reasons.



My kids have computers in their rooms and laptops and an ipad. lol

lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44076 posts
4th Dec '12

I wouldn't break my child's trust unless they gave me a reason to. For example they were breaking my trust by lying or if I had suspicion they were in trouble or into drugs or suicidal or something.

Just Emily :) 2 kids; Watertown, Sd, United States 10080 posts
4th Dec '12

Depends on the child.... My parents kept such a close eye on my brother because when he made mistakes they were big ones he couldn't hide.... If my parents had done this to me I may not have made a lot of the mistakes I did. I dont by any means blame them but I think parents can be blind sometimes. If its not right in their faces it must not be happening. But again I think it depends on the child....

user banned 3 kids; Ontario 10942 posts
4th Dec '12
Quoting NevviesMom:" AHH you need a depends on the situation button! LOL"


it was supposed to have one, but I hit enter before i was done. lol

*A&N's Mama* 2 kids; Halifax, Nova Scotia 4627 posts
4th Dec '12
Quoting crazy coupon lady:" Why not? Just curious on your reasons. My kids have computers in their rooms and laptops and an ipad. lol"


I wouldn't either. Just because I would be worried about the whole pedophile shit.. webcams. Recently a girl here in Canada committed suicide due to bullying, come to find out a man she was talking to online asked her to send a topless photo, he made it viral, school kids found out and she was harassed because of it.

khigh 1 child; Fort Sill, Oklahoma 8101 posts
4th Dec '12
Quoting Heeeeeey, Sexy lady. ;):" DH and I are talking about having a small tracking device put on her theeth? Not so much to spy on her ... [snip!] ... out there. Other than that, I hope we have the type of relationship my mother and I had and she call tell me anything."


Really? You know the government can track those, right? Do you want the government to know where your child is as an adult?

OmegaDucks! Japan 615 posts
4th Dec '12

I will be doing things on a case by case basis. I will go through her things/computer if I feel that I can't trust her. She may not like me invading her privacy but that comes second to her safety.

khigh 1 child; Fort Sill, Oklahoma 8101 posts
4th Dec '12
Quoting OmegaDucks!:" I will be doing things on a case by case basis. I will go through her things/computer if I feel that I can't trust her. She may not like me invading her privacy but that comes second to her safety."

The Federal Government told us the same thing when they passed the Patriot Act. Now we have license plate scanners and drones in neighborhoods.

user banned 3 kids; Ontario 10942 posts
4th Dec '12
Quoting khigh:" The Federal Government told us the same thing when they passed the Patriot Act. Now we have license plate scanners and drones in neighborhoods. "


You sound paranoid. lol

OmegaDucks! Japan 615 posts
4th Dec '12
Quoting khigh:" The Federal Government told us the same thing when they passed the Patriot Act. Now we have license plate scanners and drones in neighborhoods. "


That's super! But I am not the Government and I DO have her best interest in mind. I know teens don't have the best decision making abilities. I also know what moderation is and I won't be making it part of my everyday parenting.

khigh 1 child; Fort Sill, Oklahoma 8101 posts
4th Dec '12
Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14172 posts
status 4th Dec '12

I would look through their shit if I felt like something was wrong but I doubt I would find anything. I can't see my teenage sons keeping a diary lol. I think the most I would do is look through their texts and Facebook[or whatever networking site] if I was worried about them.
I would hope that I ingrained into their heads that they could come to me with anything and I can try to help them instead of hiding it. As for drugs and alcohol, well, I can keep them occupied in sports and activities so they don't have time for all of that but really, I'm not going to flip shit about experimenting.
I also won't let them have a computer in their room(s). There is no point.

khigh 1 child; Fort Sill, Oklahoma 8101 posts
4th Dec '12
Quoting OmegaDucks!:" That's super! But I am not the Government and I DO have her best interest in mind. I know teens don't ... [snip!] ... have the best decision making abilities. I also know what moderation is and I won't be making it part of my everyday parenting."


But, you are teaching your children that spying on them is OKAY as long as someone says it is for their safety.