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Found Out The Sex Of My Baby and Depressed! Hams123 Due April 26 (girl); London, Kentucky 5 posts
4th Dec '12

I found out today that I am having a girl today and I cant help but feel disappointed. I feel horrible saying this and everyone looks at me like i'm some type of monster, but I really had high hopes for another boy. I didn't want a girl and I simply said this to my family, I never said that I would not love the baby or that I would give her away or anything I just simple wasn't prepared for this. I lost my papaw a little over 2 years ago and we where really close and here lately I have missed him more and it really hit me that he wouldn't get to see my baby. I had high expectations for a boy so I could name him after my papaw and I think this is why I am so disappointed. I know it sounds horrible, but I am really a monster?

Chellie Due September 19 (boy); 2 kids; Vegas, Nv, United States 4703 posts
4th Dec '12

Oh momma, I felt the same way when I found out I was having another boy. You are not a monster. I know how hard it is to want a certain gender then get the opposite. Once you hold your baby the first time though you will forget all about that:)

Sweetheart...* Due July 30 (girl); 1 child; Florida 1290 posts
4th Dec '12

I don't know why you wouldn't want a girl? Lol i have a daughter and honestly couldn't imagine life without her... Little girls are the best :) you will be happy once you have her.

♥Mama Constantine 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Texas 5798 posts
4th Dec '12
Quoting Hams123:" I found out today that I am having a girl today and I cant help but feel disappointed. I feel horrible ... [snip!] ... name him after my papaw and I think this is why I am so disappointed. I know it sounds horrible, but I am really a monster?"

Completely normal. DH and I both felt that way when we found out DD #2 was a girl.
It passed eventually, and now we are head over heels in love with her.
You are not a monster!

m o m ♥ 2 kids; Ontario 7945 posts
4th Dec '12

I'm sure you will love her the same as a boy




Be happy she is healthy. I'm so terrified with my pregnancy and I'm just praying hard for a healthy baby



I'm sure it will get easier

SR ♥ 1 child; V, AR, United States 7852 posts
4th Dec '12

Not a monster. You won't always feel this way! I wanted a girl so bad. When I found out I was having a son, I was a little bummed. But...after a day or so, I got over it and now I am ECSTATIC to be having a little boy.



Just think about all the wonderful things that little girls bring. You get to experience raising a son and now you get to experience raising a daughter.

MommaNoodle 2 kids; Pennsylvania 13115 posts
4th Dec '12
Quoting Hams123:" I found out today that I am having a girl today and I cant help but feel disappointed. I feel horrible ... [snip!] ... name him after my papaw and I think this is why I am so disappointed. I know it sounds horrible, but I am really a monster?"


can you still incorporate his name into a girls'? i did that with my daughter. her middle name is a feminized version of my grandfather's name.



i don't think you're a monster. i understand where you're coming from. i would have been depressed if i was having another girl because i already have one and really wanted one of each. plus, my bf's family wants a name carrier. so, i was lucky, but had i not been, i would have been a little sad as well. i would have gotten over it, though, and i'm sure you will too.

bia. 2 kids; ., ., Portugal 73591 posts
status 4th Dec '12

Aw I'm sorry. :( girls are awesome though, I'm sure you'll come around. :) no of course you're not a monster!



As for the name, could you change it up a bit so it sounds some what girly? what's the name? you could always use it for a middle name. :)

❥New Beginnings Due September 2; TTC since Jul 2012; 1 child; California 16189 posts
4th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Hams123:</b>" I found out today that I am having a girl today and I cant help but feel disappointed. I feel horrible ... [snip!] ... name him after my papaw and I think this is why I am so disappointed. I know it sounds horrible, but I am really a monster?"</blockquote>




We were pretty disappointed when e found out about dd
After a few days we got used to the idea and Gabe been thrilled about it ever since.give it sometime.



Could you modify the name to be feminine but sounding?

Proginoskes II 3 kids; North Carolina 1295 posts
4th Dec '12

Aww, don't feel too bad. It's normal to feel a little let down if you get your hopes up one way and it goes the other. It's called gender disappointment and it is not uncommon.
Maybe you could work his name into her middle name somehow? Or feminize the name?

user banned 4 kids; Mueang Phuket, Thailand 30487 posts
4th Dec '12

When she is born, you will love her more than you could have imaginec

κατι 1 child; Memphis, Tennessee 3143 posts
4th Dec '12

You're not a monster. It's very normal to feel this way. My sister cried when she found out she was having another girl. You will forget all about the gender soon!

Kylees Mama 1 child; Faribault, Minnesota 4193 posts
4th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Sweetheart...*:</b>" I don't know why you wouldn't want a girl? Lol i have a daughter and honestly couldn't imagine life without her... Little girls are the best :) you will be happy once you have her."</blockquote>



She said why she wanted a boy.




OP, you are not a monster. Gender disappointment is normal and usually passes. What is your papaws name? Can you feminine it up in anyway? I have a friend who actually has a boy middle name in memory of a family member.

2boys + 1girl Due December 24 (girl); 2 kids; Reno, Nevada 458 posts
4th Dec '12

With my 2nd I had major gender disappointment. After about a week of being sad, depressed that I was having another boy, I decided to name him then go shopping. Seeing the girl clothes & bedding was difficult but I felt better. The day they placed that baby on my chest, instantly i knew he was my world and couldn't or wouldn't want my life without him. It will get easier. ((hugs))
What was his name...I'm sure you can come up with a feminine version!

JoAnna &hearts's Jett Due January 20; 1 child; Midlothian, TX, United States 6085 posts
4th Dec '12

It happens to a lot of people. You're not the only one. I know if I ever get pregnant again and its a girl I will be greatly dissapointed. ;/