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Father fights for custody. DD put up for adoption w/o his kn Ꭶwan♥Nemo 1 child; Kansas City, Missouri 7416 posts
5th Dec '12

Kind of long but the gist of the story is a married man left his pregnant wife to go to a job out of state, under the impression when he came back he'd have a daughter. She gave the baby up for adoption without his knowledge. He's fighting for custody with the adoptive parents.
Her body, her choice? Should he be able to get his daughter back? Should the adoptive parents keep her? What do you think is the best solution? Discuss.



A Texas man is battling for custody of his first-born daughter after his wife successfully gave her up for adoption without telling him

AngelGabriel'sMama 1 child; Dayton, Ohio 2103 posts
5th Dec '12

Um once the child is out of her body it's not her body, her choice. A child is a child and each child has two parents. He should be allowed (if he is fit, obviously) to be a parent to HIS child.

Buzz and Almond Joys momm 2 kids; Albuquerque, New Mexico 12593 posts
5th Dec '12

The dad totally has a right to his child. I would fight for custody too!

Elena Gilbert 4 kids; La Center, KY, United States 2730 posts
5th Dec '12

I think that if he wanted the kid he should have stayed around til she was born.. I dont think they should rip her away from her parents cause he suddenly wants to be one..

miss.Amandalyn 3 kids; Saskatchewan 1274 posts
5th Dec '12

it kinda sucks for the adoptive parents and child who have gotten attached to eachother that he can come in like that and take his daughter back BUT he can because he had just as much right to want to parent as the mother did

user banned 2 kids; New York 34017 posts
5th Dec '12
Quoting Buzz and Almond Joys momm:" The dad totally has a right to his child. I would fight for custody too!"


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I hope he wins. That is SO fucked up.

AngelGabriel'sMama 1 child; Dayton, Ohio 2103 posts
5th Dec '12
Quoting Elaina Gilbert:" I think that if he wanted the kid he should have stayed around til she was born.. I dont think they should rip her away from her parents cause he suddenly wants to be one.."

I think it depends on how long he was gone after the baby was born and whether or not he was given the opportunity to come back knowing that if he didn't the child would go up for adoption.

Smished TNTC 35 kids; California 248 posts
5th Dec '12

He should get th child back IMO.

user banned 2 kids; New York 34017 posts
5th Dec '12

I didn't think a mother was allowed to give up a baby for adoption w/o the father's permission, especially if they're married. Why was this even allowed?

S♡J=Malachi Due January 8 (boy); 3 angel babies; Florida 3278 posts
5th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Elaina Gilbert:</b>" I think that if he wanted the kid he should have stayed around til she was born.. I dont think they should rip her away from her parents cause he suddenly wants to be one.."</blockquote>




He went to go make better life for his soon to be child. His job transferred him. He did the right thing. I hope the judges throw out their appeal.

Ꭶwan♥Nemo 1 child; Kansas City, Missouri 7416 posts
5th Dec '12
Quoting Elaina Gilbert:" I think that if he wanted the kid he should have stayed around til she was born.. I dont think they should rip her away from her parents cause he suddenly wants to be one.."


he left for a job though and was coming back. He comes back and cant find his kid or wife. I dont think thats abandonment, I think that woman was just malicious if she knew her husband wanted his child.

Vanilla MILFshake. 1 child; Georgia 5424 posts
5th Dec '12
Quoting Elaina Gilbert:" I think that if he wanted the kid he should have stayed around til she was born.. I dont think they should rip her away from her parents cause he suddenly wants to be one.."


From my understanding he didn't leave because he didn't want to be a parent...he left for work and planned on coming back as soon as the baby was born. So, he had every intention on being a parent to the child. I think he has every right to try to get his child and I would fight for custody too if I were him.

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42775 posts
5th Dec '12

How could she even legally give her up without the dad's permission? If you're married I thought you need both.

[JadeLee] 1 child; Minnesota 12190 posts
5th Dec '12

I think it is stupid. If he is the biological father and he was married to the mother he should have the child. He left so he could support his family, that he was supposed to have.

Vanilla MILFshake. 1 child; Georgia 5424 posts
5th Dec '12
Quoting Viv, Ev & Gwen ♥:" How could she even legally give her up without the dad's permission? If you're married I thought you need both."


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I was wondering the same thing.