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Self conscious :/ gonegoodbye Bangkok, Thailand 6336 posts
5th Dec '12

Ever since having kids I have been super self conscious about my vagina. I refuse to have sex with the lights on because I think my vagina looks super weird now :( I have a really big scar because with my daughter I tore from my vagina hole to my butt hole and it poofs out and makes me super self conscious. Does anyone else have this issue?? I feel like im weird because I feel like the only one that has this issue

*A&N's Mama* 2 kids; Halifax, Nova Scotia 4627 posts
5th Dec '12

My vag looks different after having DD1... Kinda saggy lol. It makes me self conscious but DH doesn't give a shit

user banned 2 kids; Minnesota 7318 posts
5th Dec '12

Have you talked to your SO about it? I don't know for sure, but my guess is that he doesn't care or even notice really. Vaginas aren't meant to be pretty, they are meant to be functional, lmao.

Van West Auckland, NZ, New Zealand 3104 posts
5th Dec '12
Quoting Chim Richalds:" Have you talked to your SO about it? I don't know for sure, but my guess is that he doesn't care or even notice really. Vaginas aren't meant to be pretty, they are meant to be functional, lmao."


Lol that is true! I don't think men really care what they look like.

gonegoodbye Bangkok, Thailand 6336 posts
5th Dec '12
Quoting Chim Richalds:" Have you talked to your SO about it? I don't know for sure, but my guess is that he doesn't care or even notice really. Vaginas aren't meant to be pretty, they are meant to be functional, lmao."


he has never said anything about it so I guess it's fine lol I just hate that huge scar

Van West Auckland, NZ, New Zealand 3104 posts
5th Dec '12
Quoting MOOMIE♥:" he has never said anything about it so I guess it's fine lol I just hate that huge scar"


I had to have an episiotomy with my first so i have a scar too. i used to be a bit paranoid over it because it felt funny but almost 5 years later i can't notice it much at all. SO has never said anything about it.

user banned 2 kids; Minnesota 7318 posts
5th Dec '12
Quoting MOOMIE♥:" he has never said anything about it so I guess it's fine lol I just hate that huge scar"


Sorry :( I have body issues now too, but I don't think men scrutinize us all that much. He already likes you, so he probably just thinks neato! sex! and doesn't pay attention to the details.

gonegoodbye Bangkok, Thailand 6336 posts
5th Dec '12

Thanks ladies( :

Sweetheart...* Due July 30; 1 child; Florida 1290 posts
5th Dec '12

Hmmmm i wonder what my vagina looks like since DD? LOL I have never even thought to look at it since then........ I want to know now hah

JohnSilverSmith TTC since Dec 2011; 3 kids; Groton, Connecticut 465 posts
5th Dec '12
Quoting MOOMIE♥:" Ever since having kids I have been super self conscious about my vagina. I refuse to have sex with the ... [snip!] ... self conscious. Does anyone else have this issue?? I feel like im weird because I feel like the only one that has this issue"

I thought that this was normal? I never felt any different about SO after she had our kids. I looked at it as "battle scars".

gonegoodbye Bangkok, Thailand 6336 posts
6th Dec '12
Quoting JohnSilverSmith:" I thought that this was normal? I never felt any different about SO after she had our kids. I looked at it as "battle scars"."


I was reading that a couple times then it clicked your a guy lol (: Thanks for commenting (: This is a perfect issue to have a guys point of view

κατι 1 child; Memphis, Tennessee 3143 posts
6th Dec '12

I just prefer lights being off. :D

LumpySpacePrincess 2 kids; New Zealand 17060 posts
6th Dec '12

My vagina is fat. Like actually. It puffs out because it is fat. So I'm quite self concious about it.

Mommie Dearest. Due September 17; 17 kids; Mississippi 1899 posts
6th Dec '12
Quoting Chim Richalds:" Have you talked to your SO about it? I don't know for sure, but my guess is that he doesn't care or even notice really. Vaginas aren't meant to be pretty, they are meant to be functional, lmao."



This. Lol.

I've never seen one and been like "OH MY! SO f**king CUTE!"



Mommie Dearest. Due September 17; 17 kids; Mississippi 1899 posts
6th Dec '12
Quoting LumpySpacePrincess:" My vagina is fat. Like actually. It puffs out because it is fat. So I'm quite self concious about it."


Mine's kinda fat too. My husband say's he love it because it's like lips for his other member! HA!