Sex education 100%
Your child has a brain. They will use that brain to think for themselves. No matter what you say, or how much abstinence you preach, if they want to have sex they'll have sex.
Quoting ~Julie Blue Eyes~:" Oxytocin is released during childbirth, breastfeeding AND sex. Obviously, this applies to women only. ... [snip!] ... to by some animalistic urge that we, as humans, cannot control. We don't eat our sick babies or leave them to die, either."
Many cultures have, and some still do actually. And men have Oxytocin released during orgasm as well.
Quoting Ƙillingℬird:" The abstinence thing doesn't work anymore. Years and years ago it did. I wish it worked now. But times ... [snip!] ... much sex on TV and in songs. (I know, cliche.) And the demographic keeps getting younger. Sex education is more effective IMO."
It never worked. You always would hear about shotgun weddings for a reason. You can trump biology with morality.
Quoting TantricLemons:" Oh I must have forgotten the purpose of humankind is to worship the Christian god. I was confused by the temptation of Satan... science."
*snorts* I just spit out my milk haha
So, are we debating whether or not we can't control ourselves (because we are obviously animals who cannot reason or think) or are we debated abstinence only being taught?
For me, there is no reason that the two cannot be taught in tandem.
Quoting HopingforaMiracle:" Where I live when I was in high school they taught abstinence only. We went from one teen pregnancy who ... [snip!] ... You can teach them to be abstinent until you are blue in the face but if they are going to do it they will do it regardless."
exactly. abstinence is a PERSONAL choice, not something that should be 'taught' to everybody. It is just not for everyone.
Quoting ~Julie Blue Eyes~:" So, are we debating whether or not we can't control ourselves (because we are obviously animals who cannot ... [snip!] ... or think) or are we debated abstinence only being taught? For me, there is no reason that the two cannot be taught in tandem."
who said we can't control ourselves? the point is that if someone wants to have sex, they will find a way to do that no matter what. Just like if someone wants to wait to have sex, they will hold strong to that ideal. Teaching safe sex does not tell anyone to go off & have sex. It simply tells them how to engage in sexual activity safely... doesn't mean they have to go off & fuck everybody. It's the only logical option.
Quoting ~Julie Blue Eyes~:" Both, of course. I am going to teach them in tandem. The ONLY way to ensure not getting pregnant or ... [snip!] ... of sex by focusing on all of the negative aspects of it. I will NOT "okay" sex before marriage. I will teach that it is wrong."
Curious...what if your kids don't want to get married? Should they never have sex ever?
Sex education definitely. I mean there's nothing wrong with encouraging abstinence, but offering it up as the only option is stupid. For one, not every high school kid IS having sex but chances are they WILL have sex at some point after high school...so how are they supposed to handle sex when they've never been taught anything about it? Facts should not be withheld. These are things every single sexually active person needs to know. You probably won't use resume writing skills til after high school but they still teach it in high school to prepare you for later...sex is the same.
I went to an abstinence only school and there were a TON of pregnant girls in my class. The teachers weren't even allowed to mention protection or they'd get fired. Then they spread tons of misinformation. Like saying that HPV always causes warts when that isn't true at all. Saying it never ever goes away, which is also not true. They also told us we can get pregnant at any time in our cycle which is completely false. Like we were given so much false information that it pisses me the fuck off to think about it.
<blockquote><b>Quoting Ƙillingℬird:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting xTJ:</b>" Sex education. I attended Catholic School where we ... [snip!] ... went to regular school. My friend that went to a Christian academy was the first in our little "group" to lose her virginity."</blockquote>
Yeah it's really sad, I think it actually leaves your children at a very high risk to teach abstinence only because they don't have the confidence to say no either. I think practical sex education about the biology of it all, infections and diseases and all types of birth control should be taught but hand in hand with the emotional side of it and the maturity so that if my child at 15/16/17 years old decides to have sex they are equipped to deal with it but if they feel they aren't ready they are also equipped with the confidence to say no. That is something I think denying your child the right education puts them at risk of.
Sex education all the way IMO.
We have sex ed in schools in grade 2 here, maybe it was grade 3 lol it was a few yrs ago anyways that my dd learned in school, she is grade 6 now. lol But anyways she already knew the basics before then anyways, lol
i'll be doing both. i know that i won't be able to stop them from having sex.but our faith teaches to wait so i' will tell them about abstinence,but i will also teach them that if they chose to to become sexually active all about stds, and that they must protect themselves by using birth control AND condoms.my mother just said don't have sex,i ended up pregnant just after my 17th birthday and i don't want my kids to go through that.
Quoting Tarynosaurus Rex:" Curious...what if your kids don't want to get married? Should they never have sex ever?"
That's up to them.
Quoting Tarynosaurus Rex:" Sex education definitely. I mean there's nothing wrong with encouraging abstinence, but offering it up ... [snip!] ... cycle which is completely false. Like we were given so much false information that it pisses me the fuck off to think about it."
HPV can go away?? I thought you had it for life :oops: