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Sloth clusterfuck, LA, Sri Lanka 106829 posts
6th Dec '12
Quoting Just Ames:" :!: I'm wondering if he's scared."

thats what I was thinking, like emotionally disconnected due to fear

.:ANIMAL:. California 740 posts
6th Dec '12
Quoting .Colleen.:" thats what I was thinking, like emotionally disconnected due to fear"


Fear of me being sick and dying? I mean at the very least he could bring those fears to me, I've told him that I am here no matter what, and I am...tears, anger, whatever...

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
6th Dec '12
Quoting .Colleen.:" thats what I was thinking, like emotionally disconnected due to fear"


Yeah, this. And probably not wanting to talk about it so he doesn't put those pressures and problems on her. Feeling selfish too for being upset, you know? Like, knowing she's having a hard time so feeling like crap for having problems as well.

Sloth clusterfuck, LA, Sri Lanka 106829 posts
6th Dec '12
Quoting .:ANIMAL:.:" Fear of me being sick and dying? I mean at the very least he could bring those fears to me, I've told him that I am here no matter what, and I am...tears, anger, whatever..."


Yes, that was my line of thought.

If I were him and feeling that way, I would probably not want to put that on my partner that is sick, you know?

tonys_mama(army wife) 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Fort Irwin, California 15533 posts
6th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting .:ANIMAL:.:</b>" Fear of me being sick and dying? I mean at the very least he could bring those fears to me, I've told him that I am here no matter what, and I am...tears, anger, whatever..."</blockquote>




Make him sit sown and talk to you about it. I honestly have no idea how I would react if I found out my husband had cancer. He could just be feeling overwhelmed and stressed and is just pushing you away because he doesn't know how to express what he's feeling.

.:ANIMAL:. California 740 posts
6th Dec '12
Quoting .Colleen.:" Yes, that was my line of thought. If I were him and feeling that way, I would probably not want to put that on my partner that is sick, you know?"


But there-in lies the problem, if he can't come to me for anything, and can't be affectionate. Then he's emotionally disconnecting himself from me completely and plugging in to something else, not only is that selfish, but that's also ignorant on his part if that is the case. I get he has stresses, and issues, and problems. But not being affectionate, and then on top of that not talking to me about these issues and problems doesn't solve anything and drives a wedge further between us.

lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44070 posts
6th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting .:ANIMAL:.:</b>" But there-in lies the problem, if he can't come to me for anything, and can't be affectionate. Then ... [snip!] ... on top of that not talking to me about these issues and problems doesn't solve anything and drives a wedge further between us."</blockquote>



You guys definitely need to talk this out and get some professional help. Please keep us updated how it goes when you Guys talk.

Miss. Tiff Due November 20; 33 kids; Odessa, Missouri 2874 posts
6th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Crystal Marie S.:</b>" I don't normally have issues with porn. But, when it's affecting your relationship, it has to be addressed. ... [snip!] ... then he has a problem and needs to work on it. A lot of the dating sites are pop ups, though. I would still ask, to be sure."</blockquote>




I agree if it's affecting your relationship negatively it's a problem. If want to cry too.
Hang in there maybe try to talk to him.
good luck!

.:ANIMAL:. California 740 posts
6th Dec '12
Quoting lolajessup:" <blockquote><b>Quoting .:ANIMAL:.:</b>" But there-in lies the problem, if he can't ... [snip!] ... guys definitely need to talk this out and get some professional help. Please keep us updated how it goes when you Guys talk."


Well, we talked, and basically he was like "I won't do it if you don't like it, but I don't really care if you're upset about it or not, I have my right to do what I want, and watch what I want." then he threw it out there that at least he's not f**king someone else. like that makes me feel a WHOLE lot better...So now I'm sitting in a huge comforter crying on my couch....I feel un-loved and completely crap at this moment.

W.W. 3 kids; Arkansas 7753 posts
6th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting .:ANIMAL:.:</b>" Well, we talked, and basically he was like "I won't do it if you don't like it, but I don't really care ... [snip!] ... lot better...So now I'm sitting in a huge comforter crying on my couch....I feel un-loved and completely crap at this moment."</blockquote>
Wow, wtf...I'm so sorry hun :( . I wonder how he would react if you stopped giving a shit about his feelings.

Had my 10/10/10 baby! Brighton, ca, United States 1144 posts
6th Dec '12

You are so beautiful!!! Your SO is being a f**king selfish dick! He is so lucky to have a loving wife like you <3 Some men are really are into blad girls maybe you should tell him how bad he is making you feel and that you really need to feel loved and wanted right now.


But I will take you on a date if he keeps being a selfish prick lol. ;}

Sloth clusterfuck, LA, Sri Lanka 106829 posts
7th Dec '12
Quoting .:ANIMAL:.:" But there-in lies the problem, if he can't come to me for anything, and can't be affectionate. Then ... [snip!] ... on top of that not talking to me about these issues and problems doesn't solve anything and drives a wedge further between us."


I fully agree with you.

I was just trying to determine the reason behind it

Sloth clusterfuck, LA, Sri Lanka 106829 posts
7th Dec '12
Quoting .:ANIMAL:.:" Well, we talked, and basically he was like "I won't do it if you don't like it, but I don't really care ... [snip!] ... lot better...So now I'm sitting in a huge comforter crying on my couch....I feel un-loved and completely crap at this moment."

I'm so sorry
:(