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exercise /video games? Halley Nicole 3 kids; Waco, Texas 4932 posts
6th Dec '12

we got custody of my lil brother all he wants to do in play videos games all day and night. we had him in boxing for some exercise but he wouldnt do anything but walk around and get in trouble so we took him out. oh and hes 12 btw. my question is how long should he be able to play video games a day and should i make him do like physical activities every day and if so how long.. hes over weight he like 4'11 and 125 lbs and border line high cholesterol bc my mom has been letting him sit on his ass all day and play games and eat pizza ,fried chicken and candy all day long.

Super Mommy! Costa Mesa, CA, United States 12680 posts
status 6th Dec '12

He should only play on weekends. Sounds like he needs way more physical activities. Or if you're ok with it I guess after he's done completing his homework, and doing his chores, he can play. But if he's overweight, I'd make it weekends only, not before 9am and not after 5pm.

Halley Nicole 3 kids; Waco, Texas 4932 posts
6th Dec '12
Quoting Super Mommy!:" He should only play on weekends. Sounds like he needs way more physical activities. Or if you're ok with ... [snip!] ... and doing his chores, he can play. But if he's overweight, I'd make it weekends only, not before 9am and not after 5pm."


what type of physical activities bc he has a bike and dont ride it

Super Mommy! Costa Mesa, CA, United States 12680 posts
status 6th Dec '12
Quoting Halley Nicole:" what type of physical activities bc he has a bike and dont ride it"


Does he like playing sports? Does he have any friends? I personally would enroll him into soccer, football, baseball, swimming, hockey or just any sport that he likes even tennis or even golf. Just so long as he is not at home sitting down playing video games all day and eating. If possible you or another adult should participate with him maybe he'll enjoy himself more and actually want to do it.

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
6th Dec '12

I'd limit games to the weekend. None during the week. Also, limit TV because he'll probably replace games with TV if he can and that's no better. One of the best ways to get kids to exercise is to do it with them.



"We're going for a bike ride." Then you ALL go. ALL go for a hike. He's going to feel singled out if he's made to go exercise when no one else is doing it, you know? That won't help at all.

Halley Nicole 3 kids; Waco, Texas 4932 posts
6th Dec '12
Quoting Super Mommy!:" Does he like playing sports? Does he have any friends? I personally would enroll him into soccer, football, ... [snip!] ... eating. If possible you or another adult should participate with him maybe he'll enjoy himself more and actually want to do it."


we put him in boxing and my dh was doing it with him but as i stated earlier we took him out bc he wouldnt do anything he hates sports and have no friends around here

Halley Nicole 3 kids; Waco, Texas 4932 posts
6th Dec '12
Quoting she nan igans:" I'd limit games to the weekend. None during the week. Also, limit TV because he'll probably replace games ... [snip!] ... He's going to feel singled out if he's made to go exercise when no one else is doing it, you know? That won't help at all. "


that sounds like a great idea but i cant exercise with him bc i have two toddlers and a newborn and im just too busy cleaning cooking and chasing kiddos . i dont want to be like start doing sit ups i want him to do something he likes

Super Mommy! Costa Mesa, CA, United States 12680 posts
status 6th Dec '12
Quoting Halley Nicole:" we put him in boxing and my dh was doing it with him but as i stated earlier we took him out bc he wouldnt do anything he hates sports and have no friends around here"


Help him make some friends, and keep trying to do activities with him. Take him swimming, or do it as a family. You have to be persistent, it's the only way he's going to learn since he's so accustomed to just sitting there playing video games all day long.

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
6th Dec '12
Quoting Halley Nicole:" that sounds like a great idea but i cant exercise with him bc i have two toddlers and a newborn and ... [snip!] ... too busy cleaning cooking and chasing kiddos . i dont want to be like start doing sit ups i want him to do something he likes"


Take them to the park. Go on the weekend. There are tons of things you can do to make exercise an important part of your lives. If he sees you guys not doing it and not feeling it's important, then how on Earth can you explain to him that it's important? I mean, it sounds like he's having a hard enough transition, but then to basically single him out and be like "YOU need to go exercise and go out and ride your bike around. We're all too busy for that." Yeah, I don't think I'd really want to do it either.



You don't have to do sit ups. Do a work out video together. My kids (toddlers) and I do a toddler yoga video. We go for a walk every day and play at the slide. Take a ball outside (if you have a yard) and set up an impromptu game of soccer for your guys. There are plenty of ways to get more exercise and activity in, but kids need to see adults doing it or they wont feel it's really that important.

Halley Nicole 3 kids; Waco, Texas 4932 posts
6th Dec '12
Quoting Super Mommy!:" Help him make some friends, and keep trying to do activities with him. Take him swimming, or do it as ... [snip!] ... it's the only way he's going to learn since he's so accustomed to just sitting there playing video games all day long."


there really arnt any friends in my neighbor hood i guess ill look for a spport but im afraid ill put him in a sport and he wont do it either and ill just be wasting money on him sitting there

Halley Nicole 3 kids; Waco, Texas 4932 posts
6th Dec '12
Quoting she nan igans:" Take them to the park. Go on the weekend. There are tons of things you can do to make exercise an important ... [snip!] ... ways to get more exercise and activity in, but kids need to see adults doing it or they wont feel it's really that important. "


i exercise and dh does boxing i do insanity while the kids are napping and at school but hell die if he did insanitylol

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
6th Dec '12
Quoting Halley Nicole:" i exercise and dh does boxing i do insanity while the kids are napping and at school but hell die if he did insanitylol"


He could start it. Maybe he'll like it because it's a guy leading it and a hard work out. Everyone starts somewhere.



Kids need to have good behavior modeled, not just explained to them. They need to SEE good behavior, not just hear about it.

Halley Nicole 3 kids; Waco, Texas 4932 posts
6th Dec '12
Quoting she nan igans:" He could start it. Maybe he'll like it because it's a guy leading it and a hard work out. Everyone starts ... [snip!] ... Kids need to have good behavior modeled, not just explained to them. They need to SEE good behavior, not just hear about it."


ill try to make him do it ill update on how it goes