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Am I overreacting? Nikki Tickerhoof 1 child; 2 angel babies; North Dakota 1106 posts
6th Dec '12

So I come home from work and my hubby informs me that he wants to go to Bismarck with his mom and take our 6 months daughter with him. At first I agreed because I have to work tomorrow evening but then he told me that he would be spending the night there and spending Saturday there too. That set my alarms off, first I would be home alone and my daughter would be without me, and then my husband NEVER gets up with her at night. I just don't think I can be away from her that long. Am I overreacting by telling him I'm not comfortable and I don't want him to go?

Boobo&bugs Due September 24; 1 child; Simpsonville, South Carolina 7567 posts
6th Dec '12

Nope. I sure as heck wouldn't let me husband take my daughter overnight without me anywhere.

seeya Arizona 519 posts
6th Dec '12

I personally wouldn't feel comfortable with my so taking ds overnight out of town until he's older. He is 6 months and he still wakes up a couple times a night for a bottle and so is such a heavy sleeper he has never heard him. My fear is he would wake for a bottle and scream forever because so doesn't hear him. He is such a heavy sleeper that he could sleep through ds crying and dogs barking at the same time.

Raωkeℓ 1 child; Costa Rica 8257 posts
6th Dec '12

Why have a baby with a man you don't think is capable of taking care of his own child?

Andi+Andy=Marley+1 2 kids; Fredericksburg, Virginia 4564 posts
6th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Nikki Medina:</b>" So I come home from work and my hubby informs me that he wants to go to Bismarck with his mom and take ... [snip!] ... don't think I can be away from her that long. Am I overreacting by telling him I'm not comfortable and I don't want him to go?"</blockquote>




Just because he doesn't get up with her in the night doesn't mean he isn't capable of doing so. I would totally let my DH take our baby somewhere over night because he's the dad and I trust him. I would be nervous as hell but I'd get over it.

Walking in Memphis 3 kids; 2 angel babies; Macon, Georgia 5973 posts
6th Dec '12

It wouldn't set off alarm bells for me, but I wouldn't want my husband to take our 6 month old on an overnight visit. I trust his parenting completely but I prefer not to be away from my children over night.

Mama Rice 34 kids; North Las Vegas, Nevada 11980 posts
6th Dec '12

I think so. Why can't her father take her overnight somewhere without you babysitting? I mean sure you will miss them, but I am assuming you trust him to be a father.

JeNnAs MoMoM 2 kids; Pennsylvania 3090 posts
6th Dec '12

Yes I would. That's her dad and your husband! I don't see it being a big deal at all.

Daphne Westcott 17 kids; Johannesburg, South Africa 410 posts
6th Dec '12

i would def not be comfortable and SO would know that i just wouldnt allow it
my son is 2 now and has never spent a day or night without me
i just like knowing where he is and that his safe

khigh 1 child; Fort Sill, Oklahoma 8101 posts
6th Dec '12
Quoting Raωkeℓ:" Why have a baby with a man you don't think is capable of taking care of his own child?"


This! Some women need to realize that their husbands are just as capable of caring for their spawn as they are. I feel bad for these children.

Nichole+3girls 3 kids; Dayton, Ohio 31307 posts
6th Dec '12

nope.. no overnights til 18mths



i trust SO, but he wouldnt wake up even if a plane crashed in the house.

khigh 1 child; Fort Sill, Oklahoma 8101 posts
6th Dec '12
Quoting Daphne Westcott:" i would def not be comfortable and SO would know that i just wouldnt allow it my son is 2 now and has never spent a day or night without me i just like knowing where he is and that his safe"


If you don't feel like your child is safe with your SO, why are you still with him?

Devil Duckie 3 kids; New York 48700 posts
6th Dec '12

yes you are over reacting! let go and let your husband be a dad.

White Chocolate Milk 1 child; Chelsea, Alabama 12303 posts
6th Dec '12

I would be perfectly fine with SO taking DS anywhere over night without me. I completely trust him and would enjoy the alone time. He's had DS for a few nights without me when I had to go out of town around 5 months. I never once worried.



If you aren't comfortable with it then express your feelings but you should be able to trust your husband with your child.

Raωkeℓ 1 child; Costa Rica 8257 posts
6th Dec '12
Quoting khigh:" This! Some women need to realize that their husbands are just as capable of caring for their spawn as they are. I feel bad for these children."


It bothers me.
I trust BD 100% with my son. He's taken him many times; and a lot of those times was a much needed break for mommy, lol.