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Nikki Tickerhoof Due October 17; 1 child; 1 angel baby; North Dakota 1068 posts
7th Dec '12

I'm a half attachment parent. I nurse and I let her sleep with me but if she hurts herself I'm there for her but I usually giggle at it because I'm one of those people that laugh at pain including my own. But I want to be here to make sure she has that emotional support she needs while getting the care she demands. I have a carrier and we go places and learn about the world. I feel it my job as a mother to tech my daughter about the world because when she's out there by herself she knows. I still work and I am in college. I just don't feel it's right for her to be away from me for so long when so young. If she was one I would be like go right ahead I need a nap and my toes done anyway. I told him no but there are plenty more times he can go with her when she's older. I love that I can have time with her now. She's going to be my only one because of my medical condition.

Naturally Alternative 34 kids; 2 angel babies; Lafayette, Louisiana 5640 posts
7th Dec '12

We attachment parent. There is definitely a right and wrong way to do it. I don't hover over my child. I've dropped her off places and she ran to play without even looking back, even the first time. My daughter knows I'm here if she needs me thus feels confident enough to explore her world without being on my hip. We co-slept for a long time (a lot of the months were out of necessity though or because my husband was in basic so we lived with family to save money). Now that we have out own place again she's got a big girl bed and sleeps in it.



But even still, we would leave her with someone over night (family wise) without hesitation. It's a great chance to have some spouse time. Often my husband takes her for the day so I can have some me time. It's helped their bond as well as helping her develop to not prefer only one person which isn't healthy. Children need to learn to accept people other than mommy and daddy.

khigh 1 child; Fort Sill, Oklahoma 8101 posts
7th Dec '12
Quoting M
Naturally Alternative 34 kids; 2 angel babies; Lafayette, Louisiana 5640 posts
7th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting khigh:</b>" Attachment parenting would never work for us. She's staying with my parents and MIL next year (I have ... [snip!] ... is deploying). Then, we are seriously considering boarding school when she hits 7th grade (near DC where I will be living)."</blockquote>




It's not for everyone but that's OK. Though I could imagine living in India would be an awesome life experience for her as well.

khigh 1 child; Fort Sill, Oklahoma 8101 posts
7th Dec '12
Quoting M
Naturally Alternative 34 kids; 2 angel babies; Lafayette, Louisiana 5640 posts
7th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting khigh:</b>" It would be and I would take her, but I'm going to have to go to some sites in some rough parts, namely ... [snip!] ... Everest base camp. We weighed the pros and cons and didn't think it would be a good idea to take her to some war torn areas."</blockquote>



Ah, I definitely understand.

ShawneeRen 1 child; Laddonia, Missouri 13 posts
7th Dec '12

My LO is one month and 3 days and she has spent the night with my mom alot(I feel). It's hard but I do like having the ME time to cathc up on my stuff and clear my head! It's great for relaxation. But again, it's all up to you.

I'm actually a virgin Due June 9; 1 child; Oregon 18466 posts
8th Dec '12

Well yes, yes you are. You have a childwith the man, but don't trust the man to take your baby? The only way I'd say no is if I were breastfeeding.