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What would you say ☮[The Mrs.] FJB Due December 4; 3 kids; North Carolina 14335 posts
8th Dec '12

If your 9 year old family member says he should have been born a girl, he says that he told his dad and his dad told him that it's not okay and he is a boy.

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
8th Dec '12

tough one. I would probably ask him why he felt that way and then maybe try and talk to his parents about it. be supportive

Shibby. 2 kids; Mississippi 8169 posts
8th Dec '12
Quoting ☮[The Mrs.].
. , Richmond, VA, United States 75033 posts
8th Dec '12

I would pretty much tell him that I think it is okay and that a lot of other people feel the same way.

IDID-VBAC 12/09 2 kids; Alaska 44106 posts
8th Dec '12

I am a firm believer that it is important to listen to your child about these types of things. I would start with a counselor because I know I personally would be overwhelmed with it but I would never tell my child their feelings are wrong. That causes too much hurt and pain and possibly making my child injure themselves becaues of it.

☆ IVAN'S MAMI Due March 10; 1 child; Utah 4272 posts
8th Dec '12

not sure...

Sock Lady 6 kids; 4 angel babies; Hell, ON, Canada 11734 posts
8th Dec '12

I would talk to my child about it. I would ask them why they feel that way, and most importantly, I would be supportive. At the end of the day, he is still my child regardless of which gender he feels he is/should have been.

☮[The Mrs.] FJB Due December 4; 3 kids; North Carolina 14335 posts
8th Dec '12

It threw me off, because he JUST went back to living with his parents but he is getting dropped off with people and history is basically replaying itself. My parents are in a custody battle for him.



The problem is that most of the people in my family think that homosexuality is wrong.

Sock Lady 6 kids; 4 angel babies; Hell, ON, Canada 11734 posts
8th Dec '12
Quoting ☮[The Mrs.].
☮[The Mrs.] FJB Due December 4; 3 kids; North Carolina 14335 posts
8th Dec '12
Quoting Sock Lady:" :( That is so sad. "


Very. I'm afraid that regardless of if he is with his parents or mine he will not be supported. The way that he came to me about it and the way he said it and the look in his eyes it was like he is afraid, and that makes me sad.

Sock Lady 6 kids; 4 angel babies; Hell, ON, Canada 11734 posts
8th Dec '12
Quoting ☮[The Mrs.].
. , Richmond, VA, United States 75033 posts
8th Dec '12
Quoting ☮[The Mrs.].
Sock Lady 6 kids; 4 angel babies; Hell, ON, Canada 11734 posts
8th Dec '12
Quoting ☮[The Mrs.].
☮[The Mrs.] FJB Due December 4; 3 kids; North Carolina 14335 posts
8th Dec '12
Quoting Sock Lady:" Just because this little boy feels that he should have been born a girl, doesn't mean he is gay either. ... [snip!] ... himself as a female, but is still attracted to females and has relationships with them. He has no interest in other men."


Hm, I never thought of it that way. But I can see what you mean. I never met a gay person until I was in high school. Maybe I was oblivious to it or something.



I know it's going to be hard because I went with my family to a football game and there was a cross dresser behind us and we left.

Sock Lady 6 kids; 4 angel babies; Hell, ON, Canada 11734 posts
8th Dec '12
Quoting Δ ☮ ∂:" Well if he feels like he was born in the wrong body he's not gay. But I get what you're saying. Anyways, ... [snip!] ... intolerant I'd definitely support the child and reassure him that other people feel the same way and that he's not alone."


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Having someone who is supportive can make a big difference in his life.