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Will I be able to bond with the next baby? Belle De Jour Due October 8 (boy); 2 kids; Kentucky 18659 posts
8th Dec '12

With my first baby I was obsessed. I loved her with all my heart and nothing ever phased me.
With my second I got post partum psychosis. And it took until LO was almost a year to finally bond with her.
So when my sister got pregnant and had a healthy baby I figured I would at least some what bond with him like I did my children since my sister and I are so close but he is almost 6 months old and I still find that I'm forcing myself to be nice to him :oops:
. I even had to stop watching him for a little while because I was getting mad at him for no good reason :oops: And I was scared that I was going to get sick or something again and do something bad... (I'm going to be talking to my doctor about this on the 12th)
But now it has me scared that one day when SO and I decide to have another baby that I wont be able to bond with him/her. I'm terrified that I will get PPP again.
I know that I will never have the same experience as I did with my first child because it's not going to be my first child but do you think that I will be able to bond/love a new baby? Even if it's years from now?
Or am I just freaking myself out over nothing?



Why do I feel like this? :(

Prestige Worldwide! TTC since May 2014; 2 kids; Virginia 645 posts
8th Dec '12

i felt detached from my second too. It took me a while to adjust. I think it was because he spent so long in the nicu he didn't even feel like he was mine once i brought him home. It makes me feel horrible to say that, but now I we have a huge bond!!

Belle De Jour Due October 8 (boy); 2 kids; Kentucky 18659 posts
8th Dec '12
Quoting Trent & Kyle's Mama:" i felt detached from my second too. It took me a while to adjust. I think it was because he spent so ... [snip!] ... even feel like he was mine once i brought him home. It makes me feel horrible to say that, but now I we have a huge bond!!"


My second was a NICU baby too. But after we got her sickness under control and then my sickness under control we finally started to bond. Now she's 1 1/2 and we couldn't be closer :D
I'm just scared of feeling like that again with a new baby. I don't want to go through that or to put another child through that again.

Prestige Worldwide! TTC since May 2014; 2 kids; Virginia 645 posts
8th Dec '12

I honestly think it has something to do with not being able to bond during the nicu stay. You have nurses breathing down your neck the whole time and it is just uncomfortable. I think you will be fine the next go round :)

Belle De Jour Due October 8 (boy); 2 kids; Kentucky 18659 posts
8th Dec '12
Quoting Trent & Kyle's Mama:" I honestly think it has something to do with not being able to bond during the nicu stay. You have nurses ... [snip!] ... have nurses breathing down your neck the whole time and it is just uncomfortable. I think you will be fine the next go round :)"


I really hope so. That's what I though too but after the way I've acted around my nephew it has me scared :oops: :cry:

TashaMorgan 2 kids; Ladysmith, British Columbia 1834 posts
9th Dec '12

Just like each pregnancy is different so is the way you feel after delivery. I had really bad PPD/PTSD after having my son who was an emergency c-section and almost losing him. Although your chances of having it are raised it doesn't mean you will have it. I suffered from neither of them after having my daughter this past February.