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So idk if this is where I post this mellie98 Due June 1; Japan 5 posts
9th Dec '12

But it is a discussion? So I guess this is right sorry if it isn't



Do you think a 14 year old can be a good mom



The reason I'm askin is cause I'm 14 and I'm pregnant and idk what I want to do like if I wanna keep it or give it up for adoption

user banned (boy); 2 kids; Fucking, Austria 36337 posts
9th Dec '12

They can be the best mom they could be. But, no 14 year old can be a great mother. imo

user banned (boy); 2 kids; Fucking, Austria 36337 posts
9th Dec '12

^harsh but, true.

*TiffanyMae* 2 kids; Montana 6002 posts
9th Dec '12

Do you feel like you could handle a child right now? Most places won't allow people under 16 to work.. how would you support the baby? What do you feel is the right choice for you?

Rafael's Mommy ♥ Texas 764 posts
9th Dec '12

Yes, it is possible. It's rare, but definitely possible- I had my son when I was 14 and I was a good mom.



You have to be prepared for completely giving up your teenage years. No more going out with friends, no more partying. You'll have to be prepared to go to school all day after staying up with a screaming baby. You'll have to deal with people judging you and losing all of your friends. It's not at all easy, but it is possible. Good luck if you decide to keep the baby.

I♥RYLEIGH 49 kids; Windsor, Ontario 10437 posts
9th Dec '12

I got pregnant at 15. I thought I'd be the best mom ever and after I miscarried I was devastated. I look back at it now...... and no way in HELL would I have been able to raise a child at 15 years old! Ever!



Yes, I believe a 14 year old could be a good mother in the caring and nurturing way. But no, they would 100% be unable to provide a home, transportation, and funds to raise a child.

E.P. Mom Due March 14; 1 child; Texas 2668 posts
9th Dec '12

At 14 yrs old it is very very hard to be a "good mom"... You can be the best mom you can, but you are still heavily reliant on others to care for your child... I don't believe it's a good idea for a 14 yr old to keep the child, considering how much a child you still are yourself. I believe adoption would be the best option.

Kelly&Coralie 1 child; Rochester, NY, United States 56009 posts
9th Dec '12

No. I don't think that a 14 year old could be a good mother



A 14 year old cannot work, cannot drive, cannot provide the basics for a child



I'd abort or adopt.

☮[The Mrs.] FJB Due December 4; 3 kids; North Carolina 14335 posts
9th Dec '12

They can do their best and try their hardest, be there with the child as much as they can. But they can't really provide for the child on their own because in most states they can't get a full time job.

Momma x 2 18 kids; Whiskey Dick Mountain, WA, United States 1372 posts
9th Dec '12

I think a 14 year old could love a baby, but there is no way a 14 year old could take care of a child in the way that they needed to be cared for.

FeliciaAnn Due June 1; 3 kids; Washington 1333 posts
9th Dec '12

when I was 14 I was selfish and conceited. I know for a fact I would have been an awful mother. Besides the fact that I never would have been able to provide for myself or my child, my parent's wouldn't have picked up the bill either. They would have encouraged abortion or adoption. I think it will depend on your situation. You'll have to grow up REALLY fast in very small amount of time, because no matter what you do from the point you decide to keep it, it is no longer just about you but about the life you are now raising and providing for. If you keep it stay in school, and hope you have all the help in the world because you'll need it. It's hard being a mother at any age, I can't imagine still being that young with a baby. I wouldn't keep it if it were me.

Kylees Mama 1 child; Faribault, Minnesota 4193 posts
9th Dec '12

Any mom can be good, it all depends on how you handle the situation. The best thing you can do right now is weigh your options. If you decide to keep you need to make sure you have a good support system, because for 1-2 years that baby will be supported financially by your parents. You need to stay in some form of school and get your big panties on cause its gonna be hard as hell. It's doable, and yes you can be a good mom, but it takes a lot of hard work getting there.

Jessi Graffia 1 child; Louisiana 423 posts
9th Dec '12

My personal advice, I think a 14 year old can be very hands on when taking care of the baby but it would help so much to have plenty of support from your parents. If you decide to keep the baby you need to understand how much you will have to sacrafice for this child. No going out when you want, no watching tv when you want, no taking a bath when you want. The list goes on and on. Not to mention how expensive babies are. You still have school and I dont think you can get a job at 14. I do not see adoption as a bad choice. You are still so young and have so much a head of you. To give someone a chance to be a mother when they cant and to give you a chance to live your life is a true gift for you and the other person. I think you need to sit down and talk with your mom before making any kind of decision.
And from now on dont be silly, wrap that willy.

MommaNoodle 2 kids; Pennsylvania 13115 posts
9th Dec '12

i'm not going to say it is not possible for a 14 year old to be a good mom, but... it's not very plausible. most 14 year olds aren't ready for that kind of selflessness. do what you feel is right for you. if you keep the baby, hopefully you have financial support from your parents because it will be s struggle with money. good luck!

Amanda Contento Florida 2300 posts
9th Dec '12

You could be a good mom and those who say that a 14 year old CANNOT be a great mom. Who really is a GREAT mom?? I know I am not perfect and I am 29 with 2 kids. My first I was 21 and still learning. I think you should get your life together first, make sure you have a GREAT support system with your parents, your baby's dad and his family. But DO NOT let ANYONE tell you what to do with the baby. If you want it KEEP it, if you don't think you can handle it well there is adoption or abortion you decide. NO ONE ELSE BUT YOU!!!