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Was I rude?? Olivia Foxworth 3 kids; Albuquerque, New Mexico 4184 posts
9th Dec '12

We had a huge birthday party for my Grandma's 75th birthday yesterday it had been planned for months, My little nephew (4mo) had a cold and didn't feel well. But because we were doing family photo's with the WHOLE family and that it was planned forever, my brother and SIL took him to the party for a little bit. Well my nephew didn't want ANYONE to hold him except his mom....So everyone was getting all pissy because they had never met him (out of town family) and wanted to hold him. Normally he is a very happy baby, but poor guy just didn't feel well!!
My SIL wanted to eat dinner so I told her to hand him to me and eat. So I took my nephew and we were sitting on the couch, he was managing to cough and get snot all over me, and was trying to fall asleep. My cousins saw that I had him and kept asking to hold him, I told them no that he didn't feel good and needed sleep. Plus my nephew would look at them and bury his face into my chest when they would come by.
Well my grandma called my dad and said that SIL and I were very rude for not allowing everyone to hold my nephew. (Dad was only there for the pictures and then he ate and left). So my dad calls me yelling that, I need not to hog the baby and that I needed to let other people hold him....I explained the situation and dad still said I was rude.....


I don't think I was? Was I?

loser mom 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Oslo, ,, Norway 10413 posts
9th Dec '12

No, you weren't rude, you were just doing what you thought was best for the baby.

Kiki's Mommy Due November 10 (girl); 1 child; Montana 3915 posts
status 9th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Olivia Foxworth:</b>" We had a huge birthday party for my Grandma's 75th birthday yesterday it had been planned for months, ... [snip!] ... to let other people hold him....I explained the situation and dad still said I was rude..... I don't think I was? Was I?"</blockquote>



No you did the right thing. Just ignore them. If they can't understand why ypu didn't let them hold him then oh well. It seems pretty simple to me.

Klaus 2 kids; Mississippi 23762 posts
status 9th Dec '12

No you weren't.



I will never understand why babies make people act crazy lol

KristynaV 1 child; POWELL, Tennessee 94 posts
9th Dec '12

No not rude at all. Babies are adorable,but people need to be understanding when the baby is sick.

Katie[ღ]Siℓas 17 kids; Grand Haven, Michigan 2071 posts
9th Dec '12

Not rude at all. I would have got really rude with everyone who was whining about it. No means no, specially when it comes to a sick baby.

MommyToWesley 1 child; Delaware 3847 posts
9th Dec '12
Quoting loser mom:" No, you weren't rude, you were just doing what you thought was best for the baby."


This.

*~AngelEyes~* 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Memphis, Tennessee 10380 posts
9th Dec '12
Quoting Olivia Foxworth:" We had a huge birthday party for my Grandma's 75th birthday yesterday it had been planned for months, ... [snip!] ... to let other people hold him....I explained the situation and dad still said I was rude..... I don't think I was? Was I?"

No not rude. I can understand where you arr coming from. They need to understand that the baby wasn't feeling well and that was that.

Zeke's Mama Due September 26 (girl); 1 child; Pensacola, Florida 5703 posts
9th Dec '12

No not at all. You were trying to help take care of a sick miserable baby who doesn't need to be passed around and only add to his discomfort.

Mrs Mia Wallace 33 kids; Georgia 2858 posts
9th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting loser mom:</b>" No, you weren't rude, you were just doing what you thought was best for the baby."</blockquote>




:!:
And...the mother said for you to hold him...not the whole family.
It's like letting someone borrow something when it's not yours to give, except this little child was sick, with feelings and he didn't want to be "borrowed".
Hope that makes sense. Lol

Hopeful and Optomistic! TTC since Aug 2013; 6 angel babies; Edgewood, Maryland 301 posts
9th Dec '12

No, and they will get over it.

*~AngelEyes~* 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Memphis, Tennessee 10380 posts
9th Dec '12
Quoting Mrs Mia Wallace:" <blockquote><b>Quoting loser mom:</b>" No, you weren't rude, you were just doing what ... [snip!] ... to give, except this little child was sick, with feelings and he didn't want to be "borrowed". Hope that makes sense. Lol"


Makes sense to me