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DeanJade&Mak's Mom 3 kids; Covina, CA, United States 8822 posts
10th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Michael Westen:</b>" Dude in that first year they were divorced, we paid her almost $20k in "child support".... Mind you ... [snip!] ... Mind you we actually physically had him most of the time. We were actually paying "support DH's ex's drinking habit""</blockquote>




I believe it... I had a drinking habbit... I would love for some 1 to have to pay for that hahaha,
No but really its sooo stupid, I didn't want child support, I supported him for 3 years on my own why just because he got guilty and dragged my ass to court am I going to all of a sudden ask for money, so he can *see* his son... dumb



I pay around 10,000 a year just in his med insurance and tuition... his dads not on bc and I will not put him on or change Deans last name... and thats tyhe extent of my shadyness...

GL♣PC♥BC 3 kids; Atlanta, GA, United States 9408 posts
10th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting It's Delivered:</b>" 1. If he paid you on the 1st of every month, that's not "gift" money. That's child support. Don't try ... [snip!] ... to every other weekend and summers with alternating holidays generally. 4. Child support is based upon your income and his. "</blockquote>




I'm not the mother..



I don't see number three being true though considering the two are well over a thousand miles apart. Every other weekend would be insane.

GL♣PC♥BC 3 kids; Atlanta, GA, United States 9408 posts
10th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Michael Westen:</b>" Number two is not always true. DS's mom had full custody of him for his first 4 years and we got full custody of him last April. She's not any sort of risk in the parenting world at all."</blockquote>




He doesn't want to fight for custody, so that isn't an issue. It's just the matter of getting a imitation in order and it's not just her wanting us to take the child when it is convenient for her, but when we ask she says no. It's just not working out,

DeanJade&Mak's Mom 3 kids; Covina, CA, United States 8822 posts
10th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting GL♣05/08/2013:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting DeanJade&Maksims Momma:</b>" I don't get child support, but ... [snip!] ... CD and visitation? I don't understand how custody works without both parents being on the BC.. Thank you for your info!"</blockquote>



Yeah we had to do dna test, with that he was able to ask for custody and visits, I never had to put him on bc,

GL♣PC♥BC 3 kids; Atlanta, GA, United States 9408 posts
10th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting DeanJade&Maksims Momma:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Michael Westen:</b>" Dude in that first year they were divorced, ... [snip!] ... tuition... his dads not on bc and I will not put him on or change Deans last name... and thats tyhe extent of my shadyness..."</blockquote>




Aug why didn't my husband have a one night stand with someone who isn't so money hungry. He's literally a monthly check and nothing else at this point. But she's got a pretty good system going.. Always has her hair and nails done, brand new clothes, gets to go out every weekend. she just had another baby and isn't with that father either, we're just waiting for the third sucker to come along so she can continue in her mothers footsteps. Seven children, six dads.

It's Delivered 33 kids; Georgia 15057 posts
10th Dec '12
Quoting GL♣05/08/2013:" <blockquote><b>Quoting DeanJade&Maksims Momma:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... we're just waiting for the third sucker to come along so she can continue in her mothers footsteps. Seven children, six dads."


I get child support and always have my nails and hair done. I go shopping all the time. If she works, thats her business.

DeanJade&Mak's Mom 3 kids; Covina, CA, United States 8822 posts
10th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting GL♣05/08/2013:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting DeanJade&Maksims Momma:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... we're just waiting for the third sucker to come along so she can continue in her mothers footsteps. Seven children, six dads."</blockquote>




I always wanted to collect children from good looking men :roll: lol even when I had no money my hair and nails were always done...



Ur husband can go to court get judge to order dna test to establish paternity, and have him take all his statements and records showing he's been paying and wants custody agreement, they will go to mediation together, and then court.



We have 50/50 legal and I believe its 70/30 physical... he can ask to be put on bc in court and judge can order it. And she will have to do it.

GL♣PC♥BC 3 kids; Atlanta, GA, United States 9408 posts
10th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting It's Delivered:</b>" I get child support and always have my nails and hair done. I go shopping all the time. If she works, thats her business."</blockquote>



And that is great that you are able to afford luxuries for yourself while putting your child first. I'm sure you don't ask for money for say a coat or a carseat, because that is what CS support goes towards, right? I know how much money she makes and the lifestyle a single mother of two children on her income should be living without using the money that is supposed to be for the child on for oneself.

It's Delivered 33 kids; Georgia 15057 posts
10th Dec '12
Quoting GL♣05/08/2013:" <blockquote><b>Quoting It's Delivered:</b>" I get child support and always have my ... [snip!] ... of two children on her income should be living without using the money that is supposed to be for the child on for oneself."


Is this your step child we are referring to?

GL♣PC♥BC 3 kids; Atlanta, GA, United States 9408 posts
10th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting DeanJade&Maksims Momma:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting GL♣05/08/2013:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... and I believe its 70/30 physical... he can ask to be put on bc in court and judge can order it. And she will have to do it."</blockquote>




He did a DNA test through a lab a couple months ago that will hold up in court, but she does not know about it. After she had the new baby, all of the features he thought his daughter had of his, the new baby had so he just wanted to be reassured.
The only reason I asked if the BC matters is because she had used in it the past..
"if you make me mad, I can call the cops on you while you have her and claim kidnap since you're not on the BC"
I doubt he will actually take her to court though, he has just accepted things for the way they are and figures his daughter can decide what she wants when she is older..I was just curious how it all works out.

GL♣PC♥BC 3 kids; Atlanta, GA, United States 9408 posts
10th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting It's Delivered:</b>" Is this your step child we are referring to?"</blockquote>




Yes.

It's Delivered 33 kids; Georgia 15057 posts
10th Dec '12
Quoting GL♣05/08/2013:" <blockquote><b>Quoting It's Delivered:</b>" Is this your step child we are referring to?"</blockquote> Yes."


You talk so cold hearted about the step child.
I would buy him a coat, even if the mother isn't doing what she should with the child support and I would ask for joint custody to have the child more and pay less in child support.

GL♣PC♥BC 3 kids; Atlanta, GA, United States 9408 posts
10th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting It's Delivered:</b>" You talk so cold hearted about the step child. I would buy him a coat, even if the mother isn't doing ... [snip!] ... what she should with the child support and I would ask for joint custody to have the child more and pay less in child support."</blockquote>




I am trying to keep things less personal as This post was not about my family, but about court.
You were quick to jump on me when you thought I was the mother, but now that I am the step mother you have quickly switched sides.
I think $800 (not including insurance) is plenty of money to buy a coat, so no, we did not give in to that one. But when it came down to her refusing to buy her diapers, of course that was a battle not worth fighting.

DeanJade&Mak's Mom 3 kids; Covina, CA, United States 8822 posts
10th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting GL♣05/08/2013:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting DeanJade&Maksims Momma:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... the way they are and figures his daughter can decide what she wants when she is older..I was just curious how it all works out."</blockquote>




Umm that's f*cken scary.... I would go to court for that reason, that way the court has the control niether parent... and it saves everyones ass in the end... my ex took me to court, and it looked good on his part that he was trying to be involved I got a lawyer to deal with it because I'm an ass like that and would have like to have had a lil contact with my ex as posible... bits 3 years later and everything is a lot better now,

It's Delivered 33 kids; Georgia 15057 posts
10th Dec '12
Quoting GL♣05/08/2013:" <blockquote><b>Quoting It's Delivered:</b>" You talk so cold hearted about the step ... [snip!] ... give in to that one. But when it came down to her refusing to buy her diapers, of course that was a battle not worth fighting."


I haven't switched sides, I'm stating if you don't think she spends the child support wisely you should seek joint. 800 isn't that much if daycare is involved. I pay 600 a month to daycare, leaving 200 a month left over. Child support is to cover housing, food, etc.