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Bettinas 2 kids; Australia 2204 posts
17th Dec '12
Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:" Some guys are desperate to keep someone they love that they believe anything."


Yeah. And you can't say that women don't do the same thing. You just don't want to see the truth when you love them. My ex was a master manipulator when it came to me. He'd conveniently "forget" where he'd left his phone for days at a time, disappear off the face of the earth and then come back weeks later and apologise. Then he would just expect me to give him what he wanted and leave again. I can't even remember consenting to half the things he did to me and yet I still let him do it because I believed he loved me.



I know so many girls and guys who fall into this trap and I guess I just wanted OP's brother to come out of it feeling a little less hurt. Can't win 'em all, I suppose :?

xrawrr Due May 6; 1 child; 3 angel babies; Toronto, Ontario 759 posts
17th Dec '12
Quoting Bettinas:" Yeah. And you can't say that women don't do the same thing. You just don't want to see the truth when ... [snip!] ... this trap and I guess I just wanted OP's brother to come out of it feeling a little less hurt. Can't win 'em all, I suppose :?"


i had an ex who was exactly like that. and i would make excuses for him all the time, like when he would disappear and not answer my calls id think hes probably at work, or maybe hes sleeping, etc even when i knew it wasnt true. i loved him and made excuses for him because i didnt want to believe the truth.



relationships suck sometimes, i feel bad for both OP's brother and his girlfriend. him because he clearly loved her and its obviously a painful situation. her because i feel like she needs some serious mental help.

Caddy ÷ nwark, NJ, United States 9325 posts
17th Dec '12
Quoting Bettinas:" I think someone needs to go to her work and explain the situation because I'm assuming that she's applied ... [snip!] ... life and deserves everything she gets. I'm so glad her son is away from her because nobody deserves to be treated like this :x"


We don't usually get paid maternity leave... You get like 6 unpaid weeks off, but you get the promise of your job back when you come back...



Pretty shitty, eh?

Bettinas 2 kids; Australia 2204 posts
17th Dec '12
Quoting SansBraceFace:" We don't usually get paid maternity leave... You get like 6 unpaid weeks off, but you get the promise of your job back when you come back... Pretty shitty, eh?"


Dude... America sucks. No offense :lol:




We get paid maternity leave and I think men can get paternity leave too now but I'm not sure if it's the same rate or length.

I'm His Amy He's My Rory 2 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 49343 posts
17th Dec '12
Quoting Bettinas:" Dude... America sucks. No offense :lol: We get paid maternity leave and I think men can get paternity leave too now but I'm not sure if it's the same rate or length. "


My husband paid for short term insurance for being out of work, and couldn't even use that for paternity leave. But if you're a woman and pay for short term/long term disability insurance you can use that to get like 60% of your wages while on maternity leave.

Caddy ÷ nwark, NJ, United States 9325 posts
17th Dec '12
Quoting Bettinas:" Dude... America sucks. No offense :lol: We get paid maternity leave and I think men can get paternity leave too now but I'm not sure if it's the same rate or length. "


Technically men can legally take maternity leave here too, but it's the same as with women... companies don't have to offer paid maternity leave so they don't.

Jax 3 kids; Sydney, NS, Australia 2888 posts
17th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Bettinas:</b>" Dude... America sucks. No offense :lol: We get paid maternity leave and I think men can get paternity leave too now but I'm not sure if it's the same rate or length. "</blockquote>



Yea I think that rule comes in after January 1st. My SO told me to make it to my due date, which is the 2nd so he can get paternity leave

Bettinas 2 kids; Australia 2204 posts
17th Dec '12
Quoting Mumzy...:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Bettinas:</b>" Dude... America sucks. No offense :lol: We ... [snip!] ... that rule comes in after January 1st. My SO told me to make it to my due date, which is the 2nd so he can get paternity leave"


Well here's hoping you get to at least 2 days over :p

Estrella ♥ Luna 1 child; 780 posts
17th Dec '12

Wow that is insane. Tell him to be GLAD she never was pregnant!!
Wouldn't want a psycho BM anyways, those are the worse :lol:

NicoThunders 2 kids; Michigan 12847 posts
17th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Bettinas:</b>" But! But! Judge Judy :( I still think OP's brother deserves some closure from it, even if she's ... [snip!] ... going to get out of this with no consequences. At least she doesn't have a giant tv now... Although I would have kept it :lol:"</blockquote>




When I worked at the sex shop there was a stripper who would come in fairly regularly and she always carried around a picture of Judge Judy. Supposedly some guy paid her to take it where ever she went.

ρiηkie ρie 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Kentucky 21902 posts
17th Dec '12
Quoting BubbleLush:" thank you most men are smarter than this...kind of made me second guess this thread a bit, I just don't see how he could be so ... ummm i'll be nice lol"

You don't have to be nice. He's made himself look like a shining dumb ass. I hate that she did this to him and I'm beyond pissed for him but I have been telling him all along. And I'm not the only one. It is what it is though. She's still a right fucking nut case.

I'm His Amy He's My Rory 2 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 49343 posts
17th Dec '12
Quoting Derpy the Duck:" You don't have to be nice. He's a shining dumb ass. I hate that she did this to him and I'm beyond pissed ... [snip!] ... I have been telling him all along. And I'm not the only one. It is what it is though. She's still a right fucking nut case. "


You sound like me talking about my brother lol

Bettinas 2 kids; Australia 2204 posts
17th Dec '12
Quoting NicoThunders:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Bettinas:</b>" But! But! Judge Judy :( I still think OP's ... [snip!] ... regularly and she always carried around a picture of Judge Judy. Supposedly some guy paid her to take it where ever she went."


That is awesome :lol:

ρiηkie ρie 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Kentucky 21902 posts
17th Dec '12
Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:" You sound like me talking about my brother lol"

Lol. It's true though. I love him dearly and he's an all around great guy but all of this was stupid of him. He sees that now.

I'm His Amy He's My Rory 2 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 49343 posts
17th Dec '12
Quoting Derpy the Duck:" Lol. It's true though. I love him dearly and he's an all around great guy but all of this was stupid of him. He sees that now. "


Ah mines just a douchebag all around... My father didn't even feel safe enough to change one of his kids' diapers without my brother trying to scream abuse because he accuses everyone of it.