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DH thinks we should have an abortion Mama Karma [34 weeks] Due August 11; 34 kids; Florida 610 posts
10th Dec '12

right now financially we are NOT in the best place to add a baby...he thinks we should consider abortion.



ive had abortions in the past and i think about them from time to time
i do not want to have an abortion
i wont
he cant make me



i will do EVERYTHING I can to keep our family fed and clothed with a roof over our heads

Double.The.Trouble 2 kids; Florida 2260 posts
10th Dec '12

Your choice NOT his!!!

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
10th Dec '12

Its your body and if you don't want to abort then don't. But since he is your husband and you both have to live with this I would sit down and have a mature rational conversation about all of your options and why you think keeping the baby is best.

Donna Jo Tanner 1 child; Beach Haven, New Jersey 6440 posts
10th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mama Karma [4 weeks]:</b>" right now financially we are NOT in the best place to add a baby...he thinks we should consider abortion. ... [snip!] ... an abortion i wont he cant make me i will do EVERYTHING I can to keep our family fed and clothed with a roof over our heads"</blockquote>




If you don't want one, don't get one. It's your body. And who knows what will happen in the next 9ish months. Maybe things will get better financially. You never know till you try. But it's all your choice not his!

user banned 2 kids; New York 34017 posts
10th Dec '12

I would have one if it would jeopardize my marriage. If he's not gonna leave you over it then just have the baby.

Amber Mosher 1 child; Rochelle, Illinois 1860 posts
10th Dec '12

Your choice not his. He knew the consequences, he needs to suck it up!

IDID-VBAC 12/09 2 kids; Alaska 44106 posts
10th Dec '12

I could not have an abortion, my husband knows this. We would just have to figure life out during the pregnancy to make it financially better for us.

Kimber-lily Due September 27; 4 kids; Nova Scotia 28962 posts
10th Dec '12

I suppose in the end it is your choice, and your choice only. But since he is your husband I think he should be able to express his opinion and you be able to take it seriously and think about it.
If you are not financially stable to bring another child into your family then you probably shouldn't have that child. It only makes your other children suffer in a sense.
If your finances do not improve in the next 9 months I would look into adoption.

SavageDarling 3 kids; Webster, Massachusetts 10381 posts
10th Dec '12

It's your choice ultimately but if my husband was really uncomfortable with the thought of adding another child and we had a surprise pregnancy, I would feel obligated to at least consider his feelings. which does not mean i think you should do what he says, it just means i think you should talk to him about how you feel about it and hear his side. just keep the communication open, dont just say "im not doing it, i dont care what you say" kwim?

Buzz and Almond Joys momm 2 kids; Albuquerque, New Mexico 12593 posts
10th Dec '12

It's your choice not his, I would be prepared for some rough points in your marriage if he really wants you to have one. I am not saying go have kne because of it, I am just saying this is something that is very hard to go through if both parties are not at the same agreement or understanding.

Mrs Stroming 80 kids; Wisconsin 13 posts
10th Dec '12

There's lots of ppl who would love to have children and can't. If you can't financially support it give it up for adoption. Abortion is not the answer

Buzz and Almond Joys momm 2 kids; Albuquerque, New Mexico 12593 posts
10th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting MommaSav2:</b>" It's your choice ultimately but if my husband was really uncomfortable with the thought of adding another ... [snip!] ... about it and hear his side. just keep the communication open, dont just say "im not doing it, i dont care what you say" kwim?"</blockquote>




I like how you put this

Aria Dawn's mommy 33 kids; Texas 1864 posts
10th Dec '12

You may be married, but it would be you getting an abortion, not we got an abortion. It's your body, your choice.

Turtley Mikey Due October 31; 2 kids; California 50611 posts
10th Dec '12

Wow, that's a tough choice. I hope it all works out in the end and it's a happy result.

SavageDarling 3 kids; Webster, Massachusetts 10381 posts
10th Dec '12
Quoting Kimber-lily:" I suppose in the end it is your choice, and your choice only. But since he is your husband I think he ... [snip!] ... makes your other children suffer in a sense. If your finances do not improve in the next 9 months I would look into adoption."

exactly,