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Cast Your Vote:

    • I've done both & SAHM is harder -- Votes: 26
    • I've done both & working is harder -- Votes: 27
    • I've done neither but I think SAHM is harder -- Votes: 1
    • I've done neither but I think working is harder -- Votes: 1
    • I'm a SAHM & I I think that is harder -- Votes: 2
    • I'm a SAHM & I I think working would be harder -- Votes: 5
    • I've always worked & I I think that is harder -- Votes: 5
    • I've always worked & I I think SAHM would be harder -- Votes: 1
Mama Rice 34 kids; North Las Vegas, Nevada 11980 posts
11th Dec '12

I hate being a SAHM, it does not make me happy at all and it is much harder than working to me, no breaks, don't support myself (that is a big one for me, not bringing money to my family drives me CRAZY), feels like the same day everyday. I would prefer to work but my DDs charter school is across town from where I worked and driving her there and picking her up on time would have left me with only 5 hours of work at $8 an hour, totally not worth it....that would have covered my gas.

Crystal 3 kids; Hephzibah, Georgia 15566 posts
11th Dec '12

For me, SAHM is harder. You don't get breaks. You don't get a clear schedule. Thank God I'm going back to work sometime soon.

Blaine Edwards 1 child; Georgia 13858 posts
11th Dec '12

i've done both, and working is much, much harder.
i'm also a single parent.

justanothamotha Due January 20; 130 kids; Climax, Michigan 5120 posts
11th Dec '12

I think it's really interesting how much it differs for each momma what is harder for her. I also think it's interesting that as of RIGHT now (could change) it's a very even split on the poll.

NopeNotGonnaDOIt 6 kids; Cuba 3000 posts
11th Dec '12

I think working is easier for me anyways. When I stay at home it sometimes feels overwhelming because I never get any time for myself and more is expected from me. With each child I've had the privilege to stay home for a year afterwards but it takes its toll. I'm not sure if it would be any easier working with a newborn because I have't had to do that. But I just know that after the year is over and I go back to work, I feel lighter. Things run more smoothly when I have a set routine. I tend to get into bad habits when I have nothing planned (too much tv/computer). What I've ended up doing this time around is set up an activity everyday for the kids wether it be a class or a visit/playdate/library day. It just keeps us busy and get us out of the house more, especially during the winter months. When I go back to work, even though its just part-time I just feel busier but also enjoy the time I see the kids more.

Crystal 3 kids; Hephzibah, Georgia 15566 posts
11th Dec '12
Quoting justanothamotha:" I think it's really interesting how much it differs for each momma what is harder for her. I also think it's interesting that as of RIGHT now (could change) it's a very even split on the poll."

Yeah, I don't think there's a right or wrong answer. It's all based on each individual person. I just feel like I need that break away from the kids. So for me, working gives me that and makes home life easier to deal with. The extra money is a plus too lol

wombie 4 kids; Zimbabwe 73281 posts
11th Dec '12

as far as getting the day to day tasks completed goes, I think it's definitely more difficult being a working parent....obviously.



with that said, I would be terribly unhappy being a SAHM. I enjoy working so from that standpoint, it's easier to be a working parent because being unhappy like that would be very hard on me.

justanothamotha Due January 20; 130 kids; Climax, Michigan 5120 posts
11th Dec '12
Quoting wombie:" as far as getting the day to day tasks completed goes, I think it's definitely more difficult being a ... [snip!] ... working so from that standpoint, it's easier to be a working parent because being unhappy like that would be very hard on me."

See I found day to say stuff getting done easier when I worked...because like I said I did stuff on my lunchtime or on my way to & from work. As far as like cleaning & such, it's a mtter (at the ages my kdis ar enow) of just redoing the same tasks all day long - so i dont' feel like I get much done until they are in med anyway - same as when I worked. But when I worked I didn't run around all day or have ot keep redoing the same things.



I think some of what is "easier" for each mom too isn't just how many kids she has or ages/issues, but also what kind of job she does & whether she likes it or not, how the job is structured. That probably all plays a big role.

wombie 4 kids; Zimbabwe 73281 posts
11th Dec '12
Quoting justanothamotha:" See I found day to say stuff getting done easier when I worked...because like I said I did stuff on my ... [snip!] ... what kind of job she does & whether she likes it or not, how the job is structured. That probably all plays a big role."


certainly......there are definitely factors involved that determine how each parent, working or not, views it.



I get home between 5:30 and 6 every evening. Then there are a million and one things that have to be done between that time and when I go to bed. I get up super early in the morning to clean so I don't have that to worry about in the evenings. I definitely wish there was more time in a day.....either that or I wish I didn't require sleep, lol.



I do have to say though, when I did stay at home, it was MUCH easier to get things done without rushing or feeling exhausted. At that time though, I only had one child.

justanothamotha Due January 20; 130 kids; Climax, Michigan 5120 posts
11th Dec '12
Quoting wombie:" certainly......there are definitely factors involved that determine how each parent, working or not, ... [snip!] ... at home, it was MUCH easier to get things done without rushing or feeling exhausted. At that time though, I only had one child."

I have often wished sleep was not a requirement or that you could at least get 1 day a week you wouldn't need it. I think that is hwy everyone was doing Coke in the 80's. I think they thought you could actually skip sleep.

EnnaBennaBanana Due February 2; 2 kids; Maryland 6195 posts
11th Dec '12
Quoting justanothamotha:" I REALLY don't mean this as a competition. I don't. I am just trying to see how different personalities ... [snip!] ... their take on it is. I love it - I just wish I had about 3 more hours in every day when everyone else was out of my way. :P"


Honestly to me working would be harder on me because I wouldn't enjoy it and I'd feel like I want to be home with my kids helping them grow and learn.. I never want my kids to have to go to daycare or any of that. I've seen how much it benefits my son that I'm a stay at home mom and I'd want to continue that.. So working would be harder because I'd really rather be with my kids while they are young.

Back to Noob Status Ohio 14048 posts
11th Dec '12

I can't say from personal experience, but from what I've observed, working moms have to do all the work (cooking, cleaning, etc) that the SAHMs do PLUS work outside of the home. My mother did not get ANY help from my father despite living together and being married, and she had to take care of three small children AND work maaannnnyyyy hours a week at a high-level job.

ღ Diana ღ Michigan 15726 posts
11th Dec '12

I've done both. I am currently working and going to school so I can honestly say for myself that working is harder then when I stayed home. However, being a SAHM was harder mentally. I was very depressed. Even though I am working, I don't get breaks. I work with children and my kids attend the daycare I work at. I kind of have the best of both worlds, I get to talk with other adults and make money while I am still able to see my kids.




eta: the one plus side to working is that I get to use the bathroom ALONE!!

House of Estrogen Washington, District of Columbia 625 posts
11th Dec '12

Being a SAHM is easy but both have their unique difficulties.

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14304 posts
11th Dec '12

I've done both but I'm currently a SAHM.
Being a SAHM is MUCH harder for me than working because I never, ever get a break from my "duties." They don't end at 5[or 8 when I got off my last job]. Even though I would still have to take care of DS when I got home from work, I had 10 hours to just worry about myself and my job duties, and I earned my own money from them. There was no "Why is he crying? Is he hungry? Why isn't he listening? Can he stop screaming?" for a little while. Plus since my days were so long, DH took some of the household duties, like cooking and washing the laundry. I was responsible for cleaning and folding laundry, so the work was divided equally and there was no more "I wish you would do more ____."
Maybe I'm just not cut out to be a SAHM. I never, ever imagined myself as one when I was younger so I never realized how much work it really is.