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Bad Things 1 child; Blacksburg, SC, United States 18768 posts
status 11th Dec '12
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vagina. 3 kids; Titz, No, Germany 30924 posts
11th Dec '12

In the end its your choice..noone can force you to.have an abortion..however there isn't a way for you to support your baby. you can't work..you still have atleast 4-5 years left of high.school..you can't drive yet. so you would be depending on your parents for everything.

AA&L Due June 23; TTA since Mar 2012; 1 child; Florida 721 posts
11th Dec '12

It sounds like you have a very hard decision ahead of you, but it is your decision and yours alone. I do think that you should consider what kind of life you can provide your child with, realistically, and how it's going to change not only your life but the life of your whole family and his. I wish you the very best in whatever decision you make.

I♥RYLEIGH 49 kids; Windsor, Ontario 10437 posts
11th Dec '12
Quoting JessieLeeAnne:" Uh, yeah. She is a minor. She needs to listen to her parents. She is 13 FFS. "


Not in situations like this though. I'm totally against her keeping this child but in all reality her parents cannot force her to go through with an abortion or an adoption.

Lilly and Laya's momma Due May 24 (boy); 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Chesapeake, Virginia 8155 posts
11th Dec '12

Yes its possible as I don't believe age determines what type of parent you will be.

*Bobo&Hooey'sMommy* 34 kids; Springfield, Oregon 23585 posts
11th Dec '12
Quoting Back to Noob Status:" I can't tell you what to do, but here is what I suggest: I would seriously consideran open adoption. ... [snip!] ... an open adoption. You could still get updates and yearly visits with your child AND get to be a kid. Focus on your education."


this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

BαtMαɳ Gotham, DC, United States 74086 posts
11th Dec '12
Quoting Back to Noob Status:" I can't tell you what to do, but here is what I suggest: I would seriously consideran open adoption. ... [snip!] ... an open adoption. You could still get updates and yearly visits with your child AND get to be a kid. Focus on your education."


All of this.

Puff the Magic Dragon! 15 kids; Ontario 14235 posts
11th Dec '12
Quoting JessieLeeAnne:" Uh, yeah. She is a minor. She needs to listen to her parents. She is 13 FFS. "


yes, but they can only guide. They can not force. They do not 'OWN' her.
They parent/guide/support her.

I♥RYLEIGH 49 kids; Windsor, Ontario 10437 posts
11th Dec '12
Quoting Lillybutt's momma:" Yes its possible as I don't believe age determines what type of parent you will be. "


You believe a 13 year old child could parent another child?

JΔ$ Georgia 78791 posts
11th Dec '12

I'm not going to sit here and lie to make you feel better. You can't parent. You can't take care of yourself so you definitely can't provide for a child. You have zero support. Do yourself a favor and think about your other options. Youre already ready to lie about the father to your parents. That right there shows your maturity or lack there of. What kind of life would your baby have? You can't work. You can't drive. You don't have a high school education. 13...what is that? Like 8th grade? That's crazy.

Lilly and Laya's momma Due May 24 (boy); 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Chesapeake, Virginia 8155 posts
11th Dec '12
Quoting JessieLeeAnne:" Uh, yeah. She is a minor. She needs to listen to her parents. She is 13 FFS. "


No its her body no one can force an abortion:wink:

mehhhhh Minnesota 368 posts
11th Dec '12
Quoting Lillybutt's momma:" Yes its possible as I don't believe age determines what type of parent you will be. "



If they're too young to get a job or even provide transportation for themselves, then it absolutely determines it.

Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 47188 posts
11th Dec '12

Honestly, it will be almost impossible for you to parent at your age.



If you are uncomfortable with abortion, you should look into adoption.

Crystal 3 kids; Hephzibah, Georgia 15566 posts
11th Dec '12
Quoting Lillybutt's momma:" Yes its possible as I don't believe age determines what type of parent you will be. "

It does in the sense that she cannot financially provide for that child. She just can't. So yes, it does determine what type of Parent one can be in that aspect.

Bad Things 1 child; Blacksburg, SC, United States 18768 posts
status 11th Dec '12
Quoting shelbylynn [24 WEEKS!]:" Not in situations like this though. I'm totally against her keeping this child but in all reality her parents cannot force her to go through with an abortion or an adoption."


So they don't get a say in having to raise another child?



They should'nt hold her down, no. But, she needs to listen to them and not be blinded by the illusion that she can take care of a child. She can't. They will have to. If they don't want to raise another baby, then it is their right to want her to abort.