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That Girl. 2 kids; Florida 4109 posts
11th Dec '12

I would look into adoption.

I do like how your name is youngteenmom12 You say your 13, and your profile says 14.

Sorry im being totally random.

DifferentDay Due June 2; 34 kids; Tennessee 3473 posts
11th Dec '12

Wow tough situation. The fact u want to lie about the father throws up red flags to me. Is it bc of his age n urs? If he wants u to keep it obv he wants to be in baby's life how are u gonna hide that forever? 13 is really young to have a baby IMO. I know a girl who had an abortion at 14 n it really was the best decision for her even though I didn't agree at the time. She's 25 now n has a great life n kids just aren't in her future. I agree w open adoption as an option to consider but if u wanna keep baby ure gonna need to look at places that can help u do so esp since ur parents don't support u in this. My advice try not to burn that bridge regardless what u choose bc ur still a kid n ur parents prolly think they're doing what's best for u.

LolaMcKitten Due May 30 (girl); 27 kids; Beverly Hills, California 15496 posts
11th Dec '12

A girl I babysat got pregnant at 13, had her son before her 14th birthday. She's done extremely well and graduated this past year and has a great job in a doctors office, her husband (her boyfriend did stay with her, they are married now, I believe) has a great job, too - but they had a ton of support from both of their families.



You have every right to keep the baby if you want to, your parents cannot force an abortion on you, it's illegal for them to do so.



However - I would consider your other options. You can abort, adopt or keep. Honestly, at your age, I would abort. You have too much to to look forward to dedicate your life to a child yet. Adoption is another option, even an open adoption where you will be updated and get to see the child. Or keep - which is one very long, extremely hard road.



Good luck with what you choose, but I think your parents are on to something.

** 19 kids; Conway, Arkansas 3576 posts
11th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jas ♥:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting shelbylynn [24 WEEKS!]:</b>" I'm against it as well. I'm just ... [snip!] ... like this."</blockquote> And in return, her parents can choose not to support her kid. Which OP needs to think about."</blockquote>




Yes..but to coerce her into abortion isn't being a very.good parent either...Iif my baby were to get preggo at 13 I would want her to abort, but I wouldn't ridicule her for not wanting to..I would then want her to adopt..but again I wouldn't ridicule for her not wanting to...when it comes to the big picture...I would not be done raising her yet..therefore to do my job as a parent I would still parent although she would be working her ads of to make life as easy as possible for me considering....

vagina. 3 kids; Titz, No, Germany 30924 posts
11th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:</b>" It's true that some people can have kids young and still make it in life... but it's honestly very, ... [snip!] ... to stay on her feet... but I'm sure she must have had a wonderful support system. It appears that, sadly, OP has no support. "</blockquote>



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JΔS Georgia 74352 posts
11th Dec '12

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I♥RYLEIGH 49 kids; Windsor, Ontario 10434 posts
11th Dec '12
Quoting Monika Dawn:" The fatc of the matter remains as such; At 13 you live in THEIR house. So they can choose to not support ... [snip!] ... the abortion completely, pick adoption. At least then you have a say in not having your child instead of a county-run service."


You're only 4 years older than this little girl.............. lol you're not even an adult yourself

Youngteenmom12 Due July 30; Japan 23 posts
11th Dec '12

I'm more comfortable with an abortion I know that's what my parents want but I don't feel ok with it like I do with being a parent adoption I really don't want day to day would I see him or her it's the same reason I don't want an abortion and I'm not telling about my bf because he's a lot older

JΔS Georgia 74352 posts
11th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting shelbylynn [24 WEEKS!]:</b>" You're only 4 years older than this little girl.............. lol you're not even an adult yourself"</blockquote>



17 and 13 is a huge difference dear.

** 19 kids; Conway, Arkansas 3576 posts
11th Dec '12

Op you just have to think of every option hun...you don't have to do anything you don't want but think about things like this....your parents statistically will most likely take custody if you chose to parent and no matter how nurturing you are..you can't provide for it so they would most likely grant it...also it will kill your childhood...darling I was almost 18 when I had mine... I have lost put on so many things in life...ajd where I do not regret my babies..I do regret my age when I had them...because they could have been so much better off if I would have adopted out...really...I am just getting my life back on track..finally starting school again, I have good jobs, I'm married now he has a good job...and we are STILL in poverty . I am 23 now, and still really young to be having babies...please if you are wanting to avoid abortion..open adoption could be a wonderful expireience! You will get to watch your baby grow up with everything you've ever wanted him her to have and then some.. it will be loved by so many people and raised put of poverty and struggles. Just think about that..think about the type of nursery you would give it and stuff..and then think about it having it. Adoption isn't an easy way out, but its one of the most selfless loving amazing acts that anyone could ever do for their child!

mehhhhh Minnesota 368 posts
11th Dec '12
Quoting shelbylynn [24 WEEKS!]:" You're only 4 years older than this little girl.............. lol you're not even an adult yourself"


4 years can make a world of difference.
Not to mention I have a very wonderful support team.
And the ability to support myself.



My age has nothing to do with a 13 year old with no support wanting to keep a baby.

I♥RYLEIGH 49 kids; Windsor, Ontario 10434 posts
11th Dec '12
Quoting Jas ♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting shelbylynn [24 WEEKS!]:</b>" You're only 4 years older than ... [snip!] ... little girl.............. lol you're not even an adult yourself"</blockquote> 17 and 13 is a huge difference dear."


Meeeeeeh not really.

I♥RYLEIGH 49 kids; Windsor, Ontario 10434 posts
11th Dec '12
Quoting Monika Dawn:" 4 years can make a world of difference. Not to mention I have a very wonderful support team. And ... [snip!] ... team. And the ability to support myself. My age has nothing to do with a 13 year old with no support wanting to keep a baby."


You're still 17 years old.

Crystal 3 kids; Hephzibah, Georgia 15558 posts
11th Dec '12
Quoting shelbylynn [24 WEEKS!]:" You're still 17 years old. "

The Father of her child is in the picture, he can work, she can work and she has a Family support system. Not to mention is almost done or is done with School. There's a huge difference. The OP isn't even in High School yet.

mehhhhh Minnesota 368 posts
11th Dec '12
Quoting shelbylynn [24 WEEKS!]:" You're still 17 years old. "


Point being?
I feel you're just bored now. There's really no reason to call me out for my age when I'm neither a; asking for advice or b; doing anything to prove I'm not perfectly capable of parenting.