homes cool TTC since May 2014; 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Indiana 60959 posts
16th Feb '13
Quoting Amαndα ♕:" <blockquote><b>Quoting grace life:</b>" Yes. Really complicated story, I guess. He ... [snip!] ... entirely. Similar story with my dad. (Minus the head shot). I talk to mine now but he doesn't talk to my sister or brother."


I wonder what it will really be like when he dies, like...a second death? I don't know.



I've tried to form a relationship with him, but every time I try he flies off the handle. He's said some really terrible things to me. Things I just can't risk my kids being involved in.

Legendary Due August 27 (boy); 1 child; Beverly Hills, California 59183 posts
16th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting I'm Marbles:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Amαndα ♕:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... sometimes. I miss her, I miss talking to her. Besides my grandpa I was the last person she talked to and said I love you to."</blockquote>



I don't really know what I believe as far as haunting... But the idea scares the shit out of me. As a kid I'd lay awake worried my grandma would die and haunt me, she did die and didn't haunt me but I was too young to have a significant relationship with her.



Aside from a that, a miscarriage and a couple friends I've never lost anyone.

AmandaSixx + JZS Due November 22 (boy); 2 kids; Gresham, Oregon 25829 posts
16th Feb '13
Quoting Legendary Yermom:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ᗩmandaSixx |33 wks|:</b>" hell no RUN FOR THE HILLS"</blockquote> ... [snip!] ... :lol:I've got my 4, and we're babysitting a friend's son...then the 2 neighbor kids asked if they could watch a movie with us"


i think id die..

Legendary Due August 27 (boy); 1 child; Beverly Hills, California 59183 posts
16th Feb '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting grace life:</b>" I wonder what it will really be like when he dies, like...a second death? I don't know. I've tried ... [snip!] ... try he flies off the handle. He's said some really terrible things to me. Things I just can't risk my kids being involved in. "</blockquote>



I understand all too well unfortunately.



If it makes you feel any better I DO talk to mine and it's of no value emotionally or otherwise.

bloopbloop♥ 1 child; Illinois 13699 posts
16th Feb '13
Quoting ᗩmandaSixx |33 wks|:" dude i did lol"


good :P i told people if you're sick and you come near me i'll hurt you so bad LOL

bloopbloop♥ 1 child; Illinois 13699 posts
16th Feb '13
Quoting I'm Marbles:" <blockquote><b>Quoting bloopbloop♥
homes cool TTC since May 2014; 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Indiana 60959 posts
16th Feb '13
Quoting I'm Marbles:" <blockquote><b>Quoting grace life:</b>" Yes. Really complicated story, I guess. He ... [snip!] ... yourself you go on an angle towards the back. The frontal love doesn't stop any major life functions. If I remember correctly."


Well, he was on the phone. He left a voicemail on his girlfriend (well, ex girlfriend at the time) her answering machine. Told her it was her fault, and then did it. He was also trying to smoke a cigarette. So, he was holding the phone to his ear with his shoulder, the cigarette in one hand, and then the gun in his hand but kind of wrapped around his head...not sure if anyone can visualize that, but it was a funky position to start with.

AmandaSixx + JZS Due November 22 (boy); 2 kids; Gresham, Oregon 25829 posts
16th Feb '13
Quoting bloopbloop♥
homes cool TTC since May 2014; 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Indiana 60959 posts
16th Feb '13
Quoting Amαndα ♕:" <blockquote><b>Quoting grace life:</b>" I wonder what it will really be like when ... [snip!] ... all too well unfortunately. If it makes you feel any better I DO talk to mine and it's of no value emotionally or otherwise."

Yea. It's "nice" to talk to someone who gets it, most people just think I'm insane.



My sister still tries to maintain a relationship with him. But he's so inconsistent and she said he never checks on her or her son, never calls, etc. So, I'm sure I made the right choice.

bloopbloop♥ 1 child; Illinois 13699 posts
16th Feb '13
Quoting ᗩmandaSixx |33 wks|:" dude i say the same hting doesnt stop them"


The only smart person that came near me sick was my dad. Thanks for the flu :( that was horrible.

Legendary Due August 27 (boy); 1 child; Beverly Hills, California 59183 posts
16th Feb '13
Quoting grace life:" Yea. It's "nice" to talk to someone who gets it, most people just think I'm insane. My sister still ... [snip!] ... he's so inconsistent and she said he never checks on her or her son, never calls, etc. So, I'm sure I made the right choice. "


I'm pretty much in the same exact situation but reversed. He doesn't try to talk to my siblings but he's close with Harry and is apparently trying to fix his life (for the 100th time) He'll certainly never be babysitting but he'll send me birthday texts or make small talk but he lives 45 mins away and doesn't drive so we aren't exactly bff's. I feel guilty shutting him out but it bothers pretty much everyone in my family.



I do think that people change sometimes but it's not worth it to put you or your children in a hostile situation.

homes cool TTC since May 2014; 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Indiana 60959 posts
16th Feb '13
Quoting Amαndα ♕:" I'm pretty much in the same exact situation but reversed. He doesn't try to talk to my siblings but ... [snip!] ... my family. I do think that people change sometimes but it's not worth it to put you or your children in a hostile situation. "

Right. If I could figure out a way to make it work, I'd have a relationship with him. But I just can't. The last item I tried we kept it strictly email, and he still flipped out on me. Told me to "go f*** your uncle" (one who abused me.) and I just couldn't. At that point I just had to realize that if a father could speak like that to his child, there was nothing to do but walk away.

Legendary Due August 27 (boy); 1 child; Beverly Hills, California 59183 posts
16th Feb '13
Quoting grace life:" Right. If I could figure out a way to make it work, I'd have a relationship with him. But I just can't. ... [snip!] ... that point I just had to realize that if a father could speak like that to his child, there was nothing to do but walk away. "


Definitely not, he's in no position to even expect any sort of forgiveness here.

user banned 1 child; Portland, Maine 20613 posts
16th Feb '13

Just got done picking up travel supplies for the trip. Zora's got all the basic toddler travel stuff, juice boxes, whole wheat gold fish, apple sauce pouches, and a magnetic drawing thing from B. Toys, and all that Carlton and I have for the train rides:
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Flower♥Child Litchfield, NY, United States 69094 posts
16th Feb '13

I have no problem with dead people :oops:
My great uncle died last year, and it was open casket viewing. My sister and I inspected him. My grandma's cousin died, too, and same thing. My sister and I were all up in the casket touching her hand and inspecting he makeup.



I did go to an open casket for a 5 month old...that was not ok.