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HotMom21ERF Due December 17 (twins); 1 child; Kentucky 20983 posts
Dec 11th '12
Quoting Baby Love.:" Why were you TTC if you weren't ready and if abortion was ever going to be an option? Did your husband not know you were taking all of those fertility supplements?"

:!: :?



GL♣PC♥BC 3 kids; Destin, FL, United States 9408 posts
Dec 11th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting HotMom21ERF:</b>" even though the baby is yours too?"</blockquote>



I don't believe it is a baby while it is an embryo, so yes, even if the embryo was mine. Coming from someone who wasn't 100% wanted, even if the mother wants the child, you can't fill that void and possible resentment.
I got pregnant by a guy who wanted an abortion, luckily I had a miscarriage and now have children with my husband who fully wanted both, I wouldn't want to bring a child into the world anyother way. just my feelings.

HotMom21ERF Due December 17 (twins); 1 child; Kentucky 20983 posts
Dec 11th '12
Quoting GL♣05/08/2013:" <blockquote><b>Quoting HotMom21ERF:</b>" even though the baby is yours too?"</blockquote> ... [snip!] ... children with my husband who fully wanted both, I wouldn't want to bring a child into the world anyother way. just my feelings."

luckily you had a miscarriage? wow. im pro choice and all but ..idk....

Leisurely Duchess 1 child; Monterey, California 25884 posts
Dec 11th '12

I would not be surprised if this ends up putting a big strain on their marriage.



I bet 10-12 months from now, maybe sooner, she's going to be posting on BG about problems with her DH

HotMom21ERF Due December 17 (twins); 1 child; Kentucky 20983 posts
Dec 11th '12
Quoting Leisurely Duchess:" I would not be surprised if this ends up putting a big strain on their marriage. I bet 10-12 months from now, maybe sooner, she's going to be posting on BG about problems with her DH"

or they will be divorced.

GL♣PC♥BC 3 kids; Destin, FL, United States 9408 posts
Dec 11th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting HotMom21ERF:</b>" luckily you had a miscarriage? wow. im pro choice and all but ..idk...."</blockquote>




Yes, in that situation, I'm glad things happened the way that they did.

Gemmas mommy! 1 child; Deposit, New York 1893 posts
Dec 11th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting GL♣05/08/2013:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting HotMom21ERF:</b>" even though the baby is yours too?"</blockquote> ... [snip!] ... children with my husband who fully wanted both, I wouldn't want to bring a child into the world anyother way. just my feelings."</blockquote>




Luckily you had a m/c when is that ever lucky....

Baby Love. 3 kids; Washington 3135 posts
Dec 11th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Leisurely Duchess:</b>" I would not be surprised if this ends up putting a big strain on their marriage. I bet 10-12 months from now, maybe sooner, she's going to be posting on BG about problems with her DH"</blockquote>




She already has

Leisurely Duchess 1 child; Monterey, California 25884 posts
Dec 11th '12

She probably means "lucky" in that the decision to abort or not was removed from her control

Leisurely Duchess 1 child; Monterey, California 25884 posts
Dec 11th '12
Quoting Supafly★:" A baby is a HUGE freaking strain, even when both parents plan it. Not too many people realize that apparently. "


Her husband's feelings probably haven't changed, he's just putting on a front because he doesn't see any other viable option.

GL♣PC♥BC 3 kids; Destin, FL, United States 9408 posts
Dec 11th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Leisurely Duchess:</b>" She probably means "lucky" in that the decision to abort or not was removed from her control"</blockquote>




:Face palm:
Thank you.

Baby Love. 3 kids; Washington 3135 posts
Dec 11th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Leisurely Duchess:</b>" Her husband's feelings probably haven't changed, he's just putting on a front because he doesn't see any other viable option."</blockquote>



Yeah, exactly. Unless you're both on board and READY, you don't TTC. Then this issue won't come up.... And your husband won't be powerless in a corner.

Mama Karma [34 weeks] Due August 11 (boy); 34 kids; Florida 610 posts
Dec 11th '12

Wow...



ok so...we were TTC times were a little better and we really wanted another baby.



DH lost his income, We got pregnant, had a miscarriage.



We decided that we were not going to TTC until we figured everything out.



He went with me to EVERY dr appt. I was not TTC behind his back.



We were using condoms but a few times we ran out and didnt feel like going to the store. so unprotected sex = pregnancy.



He brought up the option of abortion because regardless of the situation its still a choice. its a choice we both talked about and weighed the pros and cons. and we both agreed neither of us wanted the abortion. we both want to parent our baby.



our marriage is amazing. we have our ups and downs like EVERY couple. we fight we bicker i rant and rave on the internet about how much of an a*****e he is and he tells his little gamer friends im a nagging b***h.



But we love eachother and our children.



so no in 10-12 months we wont be divorced
i might bicker about him not helping around the house (because he doesnt...ever) but that doesnt mean anything.



so thats the last thing I have to say on this.

Baby Love. 3 kids; Washington 3135 posts
Dec 11th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mama Karma [4 weeks]:</b>" Wow... ok so...we were TTC times were a little better and we really wanted another baby. DH lost his ... [snip!] ... around the house (because he doesnt...ever) but that doesnt mean anything. so thats the last thing I have to say on this. "</blockquote>



Really? You had a miscarriage and then AFTER that posted about TTC. Soooo I don't know how much you're saying is true....

applelove 1 child; auburn, CA, United States 6529 posts
Dec 11th '12
Quoting Mama Karma [4 weeks]:" Wow... ok so...we were TTC times were a little better and we really wanted another baby. DH lost his ... [snip!] ... around the house (because he doesnt...ever) but that doesnt mean anything. so thats the last thing I have to say on this. "

well the good new is you are going to have a baby and the husband is now on board.
After the baby is born you will both know it was best to have the baby.
You will find a way to pay the bills