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SavageDarling 3 kids; Webster, Massachusetts 10381 posts
Dec 12th '12

Also, when you file your report and when you call to set up his pedi appointment do NOT use the term "messed with" say what it is. You are suspicious that your son is being abused and molested. They will take you more seriously.

~*~HeatherC~*~ 2 kids; Ontario 1998 posts
Dec 12th '12
Quoting ~JeNn~ BeAn~:" The kids have not said any person has abused them, but they are saying odd things I have called CPS twice ... [snip!] ... also so I dont know if the system would think I am trying to do something to lie and keep him from getting them I dont know."

At such a young age they do not understand what abuse means, especailly not sexual. Make an appointment to have them looked at. Even book one with a psychologist as well.

LumpySpacePrincess 2 kids; New Zealand 17060 posts
Dec 12th '12
Quoting Monika Dawn:" My only concern with it is she said only the girls didn't have to. She didn't mention whether her ... [snip!] ... kids, I don't see the issue. I wasn't allowed to wear my "big girl undies" at night because my mom was scared I'd pee in them."


Why would JUST the girls be a cause for an investigation? Boys can be abused too.

Crystal 3 kids; Hephzibah, Georgia 15566 posts
Dec 12th '12

Take your kid to the Doctor, but please, please, please have it be a Doctor that specializes in the sexual abuse of children. I have been assigned to a few cases in the past of sexual abuse where they went to a family Doctor, Pediatrician or even the Hospital and the evidence wasn't sufficient because they didn't see the right kind of Doctor.

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42788 posts
Dec 12th '12
Quoting HotMom21ERF:" that would be enough for an investigation."

No it's not. My FIL called CPS on me because we're nudists. They just called me about it.

HotMom21ERF Due December 17 (twins); 1 child; Kentucky 20983 posts
Dec 12th '12
Quoting Hairspray:" My common sense doesn't say that is abuse."

maybe it's not, i said it would be cause for an investigation.

HotMom21ERF Due December 17 (twins); 1 child; Kentucky 20983 posts
Dec 12th '12
Quoting Viv, Ev & Gwen ♥:" No it's not. My FIL called CPS on me because we're nudists. They just called me about it."

but you are nudists all the time, and dont specifically make your kids not wear underwear in bed, right?

mehhhhh Minnesota 368 posts
Dec 12th '12
Quoting LumpySpacePrincess:" Why would JUST the girls be a cause for an investigation? Boys can be abused too."


I meant if he was only having the girls sleep without underwear, that'd be just cause for abuse. It's not illegal to not let your kids wear underwear to bed, not in any state. But if the girls were being told they couldn't wear panties while the boys could wear their underwear, telling a county official that would spur an investigation.

mehhhhh Minnesota 368 posts
Dec 12th '12

Not abuse, investigation I meant.

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42788 posts
Dec 12th '12
Quoting HotMom21ERF:" but you are nudists all the time, and dont specifically make your kids not wear underwear in bed, right?



No. And in any case, wouldn't "making" your child go to bed fully n**e be more of a red flag?

Hairspray 18 kids; Ohio 7397 posts
Dec 12th '12
Quoting Viv, Ev & Gwen ♥:" No it's not. My FIL called CPS on me because we're nudists. They just called me about it."



Yeah, we are naked kinda people too.

Nothing about this post says that these children are in fact being abused. I have a 4 year old who complains his bottom hurts and when I look it's because he pooped and tried to wipe his own butt. Sleeping without underwear isn't abuse. Hell, I never wear underwear and don't make my son wear them to bed because they cut into his skin. A two year old trying to pull at his p***s isn't even abuse. It's not like the two year old knows what he/she is doing.

Crystal 3 kids; Hephzibah, Georgia 15566 posts
Dec 12th '12
Quoting Monika Dawn:" I meant if he was only having the girls sleep without underwear, that'd be just cause for abuse. ... [snip!] ... couldn't wear panties while the boys could wear their underwear, telling a county official that would spur an investigation."

Not necessarily. They were being told that because they had a vaginal odor. I've seen a few parents do this to girls to let them "air out" overnight.

mehhhhh Minnesota 368 posts
Dec 12th '12
Quoting Crystal Marie S.:" Not necessarily. They were being told that because they had a vaginal odor. I've seen a few parents do this to girls to let them "air out" overnight."


That's true...



To be fair, OP didn't include nearly enough information for anyone to help her make a conclusion. She didn't say it was an "all the time" thing. Or anything of the sort.



So there's not much we can do but accusations and what not.

10 days till baby comes Due January 25 (girl); 16 kids; Bolt, West Virginia 745 posts
Dec 12th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Hairspray:</b>" Yeah, we are naked kinda people too. Nothing about this post says that these children are in ... [snip!] ... skin. A two year old trying to pull at his p***s isn't even abuse. It's not like the two year old knows what he/she is doing."</blockquote>




This is true, the thing that got my attention was he said his butt hurt from the pole.. if I read the post right. That would raise eyebrows with me.

Hairspray 18 kids; Ohio 7397 posts
Dec 12th '12
Quoting Alexis's Mommy 2 Be:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Hairspray:</b>" Yeah, we are naked kinda people too. ... [snip!] ... that got my attention was he said his butt hurt from the pole.. if I read the post right. That would raise eyebrows with me."


I agree.

But "pole" to a 4 year old could mean anything. We call my sons p***s a pickle, if he said "my butt hurts from the pickle" then we would have a problem. If op's son doesn't use pole in referance to his p***s then that could really mean anything.