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Kimber-lily Due September 27 (girl); 4 kids; Nova Scotia 28962 posts
13th Dec '12

We do. Sometimes a good swat on the ass puts a kid back in line for awhile. :D

khigh 1 child; Fort Sill, Oklahoma 8101 posts
13th Dec '12

For me, spanking is any physical contact out of punishment of an OPEN hand on the child.



I spank her butt and her hand.

❥New Beginnings Due September 2; TTC since Jul 2012; 1 child; California 16189 posts
13th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting khigh:</b>" For me, spanking is any physical contact out of punishment of an OPEN hand on the child. I spank her butt and her hand."</blockquote>




I definitley meant any firm of open hand hitting any thing else is I guess abuse to me

khigh 1 child; Fort Sill, Oklahoma 8101 posts
13th Dec '12
Quoting ❥New Beginnings:" <blockquote><b>Quoting khigh:</b>" For me, spanking is any physical contact out of ... [snip!] ... and her hand."</blockquote> I definitley meant any firm of open hand hitting any thing else is I guess abuse to me"


Yeah. For me, open hand is spanking. Closed fist is abuse.

[JadeLee] 1 child; Minnesota 12190 posts
13th Dec '12

We do. As a last resort.



Timeouts rarely work for LO because she will be more pissed off when she comes out and will have similar behavior than before she went in, either that or it won't even phase her and once she is out she will continue behavior.
I will take TV/Computer time away, and that doesn't really matter to her either. I can take away toys (usually works) but sometimes it really doesn't matter.
I can have her go to bed/nap early and that doesn't work because she will usually choose to go to sleep anyway if TV/Computer are taken away.



So a swift slap on a butt with pants on does the trick, she glares, but knows not to do what she did weather it is running into the street, hurting the dog, sticking her tongue out or just simply not listening and all other privileges have been taken away. I won't do it in front of others I wait until we get to the car if we are in public, tell her what she did wrong with a quick slap. Sometimes that won't even phase her and she will say "That didn't hurt." or "I don't care"



I was excessively spanked as a child to the point where it left bruises from my dads anger he would do it as many years old as I was on a bare butt. And if I fought it I would have to sit outside in the cold without a jacket and think about what I did. That was abuse IMO, but I will never do such things to my daughter.



I only have to resort to spankings 1 or 2 times a week and that it one slap on the butt each as just a reminder.

BeautifullyDoomed 2 kids; Corpus Christi, 456 posts
13th Dec '12

we use to spank when DD peed her panties and didnt let us know she had to potty. t worked very well since nothing else did. shes now fully potty trained but for anything else a smack on thehand helps keeps her out of things. she listens alot more now

Puff the Magic Dragon! 15 kids; Ontario 14235 posts
13th Dec '12
Quoting Kimber-lily:" We do. Sometimes a good swat on the ass puts a kid back in line for awhile. :D"


ain't that the truth!! I do it when i'm like DONE

Mommy of a giggler! 2 kids; Edmonton, Alberta 9017 posts
13th Dec '12
Quoting Kimber-lily:" We do. Sometimes a good swat on the ass puts a kid back in line for awhile. :D"


Exactly!



I remember when I was a kid when they first started getting all "that's abuse" about spanking. I realized that my parents had NO power - I was 10 I think. I broke something, on purpose, testing limits, and my dad threatned to spank me and I said "And I'll call the cops and you'll go to jail because that's abuse!" I felt I had all the power and control.



Honestly, I think (and I'm sure this will go over REAL well on here) that not having the THREAT of giving a spanking (regardless if you actually do it) is part of the reason kids are such brats now adays. They have no healthy fear that thier parents are in control and that there are punishments for bad actions. Sorry, there is no time out chair in the real world.

Kimber-lily Due September 27 (girl); 4 kids; Nova Scotia 28962 posts
13th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mommy of a giggler!:</b>" Exactly! I remember when I was a kid when they first started getting all "that's abuse" about spanking. ... [snip!] ... parents are in control and that there are punishments for bad actions. Sorry, there is no time out chair in the real world."</blockquote>




I empty threat that I'm going to spank. Because obviously its not my favorite form of discipline/punishment, but sometimes I actually have to do it. For example, the jerks ripped the sliding closet door off its track this morning.... Not impressed.

Iron Man 6 kids; 1 angel baby; 1700 posts
13th Dec '12

Somedays I wonder if a whack to the butt may work for my younger son...and my younger daughter, for that matter. My other two would be traumatized if I spanked them...They're just too soft hearted.



It's something to think about, anyways. Somedays it feels like I'm losing control of my one son, that nothing is getting through to him, and I'm almost wondering if it might be more effective than timeouts and priveledges taken away. (Because he really doesn't seem to care)

~*Flibbertigibbet*~ Helena, Montana 821 posts
13th Dec '12
Quoting Mommy of a giggler!:" Exactly! I remember when I was a kid when they first started getting all "that's abuse" about spanking. ... [snip!] ... parents are in control and that there are punishments for bad actions. Sorry, there is no time out chair in the real world."


I disagree. In my opinion, being afraid of being hit just because the other person is bigger than you is not a "healthy fear". My brother and I were both spanked and we only refrained from doing certain things when our parents were around because we knew that if we got caught we'd get spanked. So we would sneak and do them anyway. The momentary pain of a spanking didn't do anything to teach us REAL consequences. It didn't teach us a damn think except how to be creative in order to avoid the spanking. You know what taught consequences? Experiencing the real effect of our actions. For instance, my mom told me I couldn't bring my doll with me when we went out one day. We took the bus everywhere and walked and she didn't want to carry it. I started getting upset and insisting. I told her I would carry it. She said "Okay, but if you leave it somewhere, we aren't going back for it". Wouldn't you know it, I left my doll on the bus. And my mom, true to her word, didn't go back for it and didn't make any effort to get it back. I learned that I needed to take care of my things and be responsible for my belongings and that there was a reason my mother told me not to bring it with me. There are ways to instill that there are consequences for every action (good or bad) without striking a child. There might not be a timeout chair in the real world, but adults aren't supposed to hit each other in the real world, either. They experience the real consequences of their actions...and that is what discipline is all about. It's about teaching.

EK91 1 child; Fort Worth, TX, United States 700 posts
13th Dec '12
Quoting khigh:" Yep. Spanking is a last resort and never done in anger, but it is an effective punishment in my household."


this is how we feel. i was brought up this way and it did loads of good for me. so was my husband. this is our first child but we already know that is what we plan to do in the future :)

Ravey Candyass 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Boston, Massachusetts 104527 posts
status 13th Dec '12

I just don't see how hitting someone is good.

~*Flibbertigibbet*~ Helena, Montana 821 posts
13th Dec '12
Quoting Ravey Candyass:" I just don't see how hitting someone is good. "

:!::!::!:

SailorJerry 2 kids; California 17296 posts
status 13th Dec '12

Yes we do, but only after we've exhausted every other form of discipline. It's not our "go to" automatically when they screw up, they seriously get a million warnings, then time outs for the oldest, or a lot of times I take their stuff away or have even thrown it in the trash (when I ask them to pick up toys and they refuse). I don't see a problem with spanking, as long as no one is beating their kids obviously.