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They call me mama. 18 kids; La Verne, California 3222 posts
13th Dec '12

This may sound harsh but I would get a divorce, I would not let him in the hospital room, than I would file for child support and full custody of the baby.
I know many would not agree with keeping him from his baby but I don't think he would be a good role model in any way shape or form...and if he loved you once and can treat you this badly now and while your pregnant, just imagine the damage he could do to your child.

DeanJade&Mak's Mom 3 kids; Covina, CA, United States 8822 posts
13th Dec '12

My 1st babys dad left me at 7 months preg because and I qoute, "he dosnt make sick babies" dean had a birth defect... that was last time I dealt with him... I wasn't married to him tho so idk if u can not put him on bc, maybe some1 else can help u there, but I would file divorce and ask for alimony and cs... f**k him... I've been in ur shoes and had a baby who was in nicu for 6 weeks his dad thought *women were more important than his baby, I let him in the end I had a gorgeous baby who was all mine and now 6 years latet he feels like complete shit and I enjoy it... lol
Hang in therr momma focus on ur baby and getting seperated and what u and baby deserve...

Amy Lynn07 33 kids; Florida 966 posts
13th Dec '12
Quoting They call me mama.:" This may sound harsh but I would get a divorce, I would not let him in the hospital room, than I would ... [snip!] ... he loved you once and can treat you this badly now and while your pregnant, just imagine the damage he could do to your child."

This is exactly what I'm thinking. I know for sure I don't want him in the delivery room but wasn't sure on the bc. I just feel like if he can do this to me than he will up and leave with my son.

HopingforaMiracle 1 child; USA 21644 posts
status 13th Dec '12

In some places if you're married that man has the same rights to the child even if you don't put him on the BC or he isn't the father

Amy Lynn07 33 kids; Florida 966 posts
13th Dec '12
Quoting HopingforaMiracle:" In some places if you're married that man has the same rights to the child even if you don't put him on the BC or he isn't the father"


Not in FL. He would have to prove and pay money for dna and all that which I know he doesn't have.

HopingforaMiracle 1 child; USA 21644 posts
status 13th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Amy Lynn07:</b>" Not in FL. He would have to prove and pay money for dna and all that which I know he doesn't have."</blockquote>




Oh ok

Amy Lynn07 33 kids; Florida 966 posts
13th Dec '12

Thanks for the responses everyone. I'm just so hurt but I guess I should have seen it coming :(

They call me mama. 18 kids; La Verne, California 3222 posts
13th Dec '12
Quoting Amy Lynn07:" This is exactly what I'm thinking. I know for sure I don't want him in the delivery room but wasn't sure on the bc. I just feel like if he can do this to me than he will up and leave with my son."


I totally understand that, he clearly has no respect for you or your feelings and if he could take all your personal belongings I would not be surprised if he tried to run off with your son.

DeanJade&Mak's Mom 3 kids; Covina, CA, United States 8822 posts
13th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Amy Lynn07:</b>" Not in FL. He would have to prove and pay money for dna and all that which I know he doesn't have."</blockquote>




Oh that's good so its like if u were single, yeah I wouldn't put him on bc my ex has some custody now and he's still not on bc and dean still has my last name...

Amy Lynn07 33 kids; Florida 966 posts
13th Dec '12
Quoting They call me mama.:" I totally understand that, he clearly has no respect for you or your feelings and if he could take all your personal belongings I would not be surprised if he tried to run off with your son."


Exactly..There's no telling what he is up to. Just 2 dys ago he was telling me how much he misses me and loves me and I think all along he has just playing me so that he wil get to see his son being born. Why would I want him there if he can't even talk to me it would just make things worse in the delivery room for me. My bp is already high enough and on bed rest.

Amy Lynn07 33 kids; Florida 966 posts
13th Dec '12

Now he is on all kinds of anti depressants and acting crazy again. I just wish this didn't happen.This is suppose to be a very joyful time and I haven't been able to enjoy any part of y pregnancy. Thank god for my mom.

M+1 1 child; Ballarat, Australia 1538 posts
14th Dec '12

it sounds like he put you through hell. you're definitely going to be better off by yourself. i wouldn't waste anymore time on him - you'll find someone new when the time is right.. he's 28 and seems to be very immature, and not loyal what-so-ever. the first time is a mistake, the second time is a choice.. i would just worry about yourself and baby.



i'm 20, 21 in may and my bf will be 29 in feburary lol

Amy Lynn07 33 kids; Florida 966 posts
14th Dec '12
Quoting Marissa- 36 weeks:" it sounds like he put you through hell. you're definitely going to be better off by yourself. i wouldn't ... [snip!] ... second time is a choice.. i would just worry about yourself and baby. i'm 20, 21 in may and my bf will be 29 in feburary lol"


I know I'm just scared I gave up everything to be with him and now here I am 27yrs old about to have a baby with no car no job and living with my parents. It depresses me that I have nothing going on for me. I need to go back to school and finish my nursing. It's just going to be very hard for me to get back on my feet but I have my parents help for now thank god. I told him last night that when we get divirced that I'm entitled to half of everything because everything he owns he got after we got married from his truck to our couches and tv and he said I will burn everything so you don't get shit.. And he thinks I'm being spiteful because I don't want him in the delivery room LMAO oh well you should have kept your dick in your pants and none of this would have happened. He always has to run instead of talking to me about things that he feels that are wrong. I'm not going to be with him not only because of what he has done to me but he is very spontaneous and when he gets a spurr up his ass he halls ass so I don't want him to have any rights until we get a custody agreement because I feel he will up and leave with my son and if he signs bc than there is really nothing I can do but wait to go to court. So now I am going to just focus on being a single mom and maybe one day when the time is right I will find my prince charming. :)