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feeling dead inside R. Sparkles 2 kids; ny, NY, United States 2601 posts
13th Dec '12

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Blythe. 1 child; Indiana 22368 posts
13th Dec '12

You didn't fail at all. What he did was wrong and his fault not yours. I'm sorry that happened to you.

Phallus Cranium cocksuck, LA, Sri Lanka 108799 posts
13th Dec '12

OMG, I'm so sorry :(

Please realize that it was HIS decision to cheat

Bryelle's Mommy 1 child; Mt Clemens, Michigan 903 posts
13th Dec '12

It's not your fault! Your not a bad anything! He should have never done that, if anything it's his fault for breaking up his family!

buggials 1 child; Valrico, Florida 646 posts
13th Dec '12

You didn't fail. It was his choice to do what he did. You need to focus on yourself and your kids. I've been cheated on and lied to so many times by my daughters father and in the end I still have to remind myself it isn't me, he had the choice to talk to me or cheat on me and he made the choice to do the wrong thing. Yeah it hurts but you will be ok one day it may not be tomorrow or next year but you will be ok.

*B & D Mommy* Due January 19; 2 kids; Illinois 16121 posts
13th Dec '12

You did NOT fail hun. He failed at being faithful..that is on him. Not you! I'm so sorry you are going through this. I can only imagine how hurt you are :( ...Keep your head up and show him you can make it!

It's so Fluffayy! Due March 17 (girl); 19 kids; Texas 4279 posts
13th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting R. Sparkles:</b>" here's my story back in october i found a strange number on husbands work phone. i didn't think much ... [snip!] ... i am going to look for a job, save up and get my own place with the children. i feel like a failed as a mother.wife. partner"</blockquote>




You did not fail sweetie. He is the one who messed up the marriage by cheating. You don't deserve someone who will hurt you when you give them your all. Thoughts sent your way...

R. Sparkles 2 kids; ny, NY, United States 2601 posts
13th Dec '12

thank you ladies.
it hurts so bad.
i would never in a million years hurt him like he hurt me.

he kept saying she's nobody. means nothing to me.
so why, i ask him did you keep going with this.

its just to much.
my kids birthdays are sunday and tuesday.
then the holidays.
and i feel so alone.

he meant the world to me. he and my children were my everything.
he was my bestfriend

he said that he doesn't know why he does it. that he wants to stop but can't.
but i can't do that to myself.
i don't mean anything to him or else he wouldn't do this

*B & D Mommy* Due January 19; 2 kids; Illinois 16121 posts
13th Dec '12
Quoting R. Sparkles:" thank you ladies. it hurts so bad. i would never in a million years hurt him like he hurt me. ... [snip!] ... that he wants to stop but can't. but i can't do that to myself. i don't mean anything to him or else he wouldn't do this"


I'm so sorry you are going through this :( ...are you guys going to stay civil at least through their birthdays and the holidays?

I'm actually a virgin Due June 9; 1 child; Oregon 18466 posts
13th Dec '12

It is not your fault.. I'm sorry you're going through this just make the best out of what you have for yoyo and your kids. Do you have a family member or friend you can talk to? Best of luck.

R. Sparkles 2 kids; ny, NY, United States 2601 posts
13th Dec '12
Quoting *B & D Mommy*:" I'm so sorry you are going through this :( ...are you guys going to stay civil at least through their birthdays and the holidays? "


i don't know.
we were planning a party for them on the 22 with all our friends and families. but i don't think i can.
the pain is too much. i will try to be civil but i don't know how to do it.
he destroyed me and our family.

R. Sparkles 2 kids; ny, NY, United States 2601 posts
13th Dec '12
Quoting P.S I'm pregnant ♥:" It is not your fault.. I'm sorry you're going through this just make the best out of what you have for yoyo and your kids. Do you have a family member or friend you can talk to? Best of luck."


i am going to my sister in laws in a couple of hours.

i am not close to my mom, so i wanted to talk to someone else first.

*B & D Mommy* Due January 19; 2 kids; Illinois 16121 posts
13th Dec '12
Quoting R. Sparkles:" i don't know. we were planning a party for them on the 22 with all our friends and families. but ... [snip!] ... think i can. the pain is too much. i will try to be civil but i don't know how to do it. he destroyed me and our family."


Yeah I bet it is hard! I would definitely try though for your children..at least this one last thing ya know?

I'm actually a virgin Due June 9; 1 child; Oregon 18466 posts
13th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting R. Sparkles:</b>" i am going to my sister in laws in a couple of hours. i am not close to my mom, so i wanted to talk to someone else first."</blockquote>




Well I hope you have a decent relationship with her, I went through something similar with my sons farther except we weren't married, but it is still heartbreaking being lied to and I kb ow the feeling of not feeling good enough or like I did something wrong. Maybe take a while and get some counseling with your husband..

Kelly+Brandon=Blake 1 child; Maryland 1260 posts
13th Dec '12

I am so sorry you are dealing with this but like everyone else said, it is not your fault and you deserve better. And you know what? You got the best parts of him and that is your kids. Stay stong mama, we're here for you!