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Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15275 posts
15th Dec '12
Quoting Sarah's Mommy:" There is no way my BD did this to our daughter. were doing everything CPS asks of BD and I so we can ... [snip!] ... asks of BD and I so we can get our daughter back. The only people I can think of are BD's mom, The Babysitter or our roommate."


I find it odd that you're blaming all of the seemingly stable people in your daughter's life, and not your baby daddy or his friend who are jobless criminals who stay up until the 6 and 7 am...while you're sleeping and waking up with your daughter.

melissa_83 Due December 20; 3 kids; New York 1297 posts
15th Dec '12
Quoting Sarah's Mommy:" no those are the people that she's been around she only had 1 babysitter besides Thursday night when BD's mom watched her while I went to pick up his friend"

so thats easy then your BDs mom did it---whether it was intentional or she accidentally dropped her. If you and her were the only ones who had her and you didnt do it then call the police and tell them she did it.

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15275 posts
15th Dec '12
Quoting melissa_83:" So 3 different people have watched her in he week prior to this happening???? Maybe im just very overprotective ... [snip!] ... people watching your kids its just more people t opoint fingers at when someting goes wrong. I hope you find out who did it"


I'm also curious why 3 people were watching her daughter when her baby daddy does not work. What is he doing during the day that is keeping him from taking care of his daughter, instead of these 3 different people....aside from whatever he did to get arrested.

FroggysMommy 1 child; Golden, Colorado 27068 posts
status 15th Dec '12

Also, seriously, why do you think CPS is going to go after you for not working... if your SO doesn't work... so what? I didnt work for a long time, that's not CPS worthy. It seems.... weird.



So if your SO doesnt work then why have so many babysitters? Why even NEED a babysitter if hes not working?

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15275 posts
15th Dec '12
Quoting melissa_83:" so thats easy then your BDs mom did it---whether it was intentional or she accidentally dropped her. ... [snip!] ... dropped her. If you and her were the only ones who had her and you didnt do it then call the police and tell them she did it."


:shock:



did you really just tell her who hurt her child, when, and to call the police and file charges....based off of this swiss cheese story she gave you, where she doesn't wonder whether it was her criminal baby daddy or his friend.....who doesn't watch their child and instead lets a baby sitter do it while he's not working....and they're living in a home they admit is unsuitable for a child?

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15275 posts
15th Dec '12
Quoting FroggysMommy:" Also, seriously, why do you think CPS is going to go after you for not working... if your SO doesn't ... [snip!] ... seems.... weird. So if your SO doesnt work then why have so many babysitters? Why even NEED a babysitter if hes not working?"


It's like she has a weird tactic of displacing herself from the situation. I feel like a LOT of denial is going on and until that stops, nothing is going to be resolved.

melissa_83 Due December 20; 3 kids; New York 1297 posts
15th Dec '12
Quoting Red Bottom:" :shock: did you really just tell her who hurt her child, when, and to call the police and file charges....based ... [snip!] ... instead lets a baby sitter do it while he's not working....and they're living in a home they admit is unsuitable for a child?"

she said it was only her and her BDs mom who were basically alone with the child but there had been 3 people around her...she said it wasnt her or her BD so that leaves her BDs mom and her roomate--which she didnt leave the roomate alone with the child. So that leaves one person right???

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42775 posts
15th Dec '12
Quoting Red Bottom:" It's like she has a weird tactic of displacing herself from the situation. I feel like a LOT of denial is going on and until that stops, nothing is going to be resolved. "


:!::!::!: to literally every post you've made in this thread.

Sarah's Mommy 17 kids; Porter, Texas 52 posts
15th Dec '12
Quoting Red Bottom:" There are always other options to being homeless, like living with whoever they placed your daughter ... [snip!] ... when someone they love goes to jail, but you seemed to have no emotional reaction to that, just like it was any other day."


At the time we had no other options and yes I was upset but I know I also had to be strong for my daughter. BD and I have already talked about who we let in her life because of this and that's why were moving an hour away. I'm not blaming BD because I know he would never hurt our daughter and im not blaming his friend because he wasn't ever left alone with my daughter he didn't even hold her once.

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15275 posts
15th Dec '12
Quoting melissa_83:" she said it was only her and her BDs mom who were basically alone with the child but there had been 3 ... [snip!] ... leaves her BDs mom and her roomate--which she didnt leave the roomate alone with the child. So that leaves one person right???"


-Her
-Her criminals baby daddy who stays up until 7am in their home unsuitable for a child, with his criminal friend not helping her with the baby, and not working, yet not watching his daughter during the day.
-Her baby daddy's criminal friend who also stays up at their house unsuitable for a child, until 7am.
-Her baby sitter who watches their child while her criminal baby daddy is not working, not watching his daughter, and getting arrested.
-Her baby daddy's mom.

audrie&emmasmum ♥ 2 kids; California 1939 posts
15th Dec '12
Quoting Red Bottom:" It's like she has a weird tactic of displacing herself from the situation. I feel like a LOT of denial is going on and until that stops, nothing is going to be resolved. "


:!::!::!:



Also I saw you made a post before about your BD hurting you..I would start looking there.

melissa_83 Due December 20; 3 kids; New York 1297 posts
15th Dec '12
Quoting Sarah's Mommy:" At the time we had no other options and yes I was upset but I know I also had to be strong for my daughter. ... [snip!] ... our daughter and im not blaming his friend because he wasn't ever left alone with my daughter he didn't even hold her once."

well you basically narrowed it down yourself to only one person...I dont see why your not reporting this person to CPS as who you think did it.

melissa_83 Due December 20; 3 kids; New York 1297 posts
15th Dec '12
Quoting Red Bottom:" -Her -Her criminals baby daddy who stays up until 7am in their home unsuitable for a child, with his ... [snip!] ... child while her criminal baby daddy is not working, not watching his daughter, and getting arrested. -Her baby daddy's mom."

Agreed 100% but she says she knows for sure it wasnt her, her BD, or her roomate. So that narrows it way down if shes sooo sure that they didnt do it.

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15275 posts
15th Dec '12
Quoting Sarah's Mommy:" At the time we had no other options and yes I was upset but I know I also had to be strong for my daughter. ... [snip!] ... our daughter and im not blaming his friend because he wasn't ever left alone with my daughter he didn't even hold her once."



You keep defending your baby daddy like he's a saint....yet he doesn't contribute to your family at all. From what you've told us he's gone to jail and it seems to be a normal thing, doesn't go to bed until 7am while he's hanging out with his friends who also go to jail, he doesn't help you with the baby at night, he doesn't work, yet he also doesn't watch your daughter.....



So can you address that?



You two have seemed to make some pretty poor decisions, breaking the law, hanging out with criminals, living in a home unsuitable for your child.....THAT seems more likely to have contributed to what happened to your daughter.



I find it highly unlikely that you and your baby daddy are the ones making constant bad decisions, yet it's one of the stable people that hurt your daughter.



I am sorry to make this assumption not knowing you personally, but you seem very ignorant and very self blinding to your situation. You need a come to jesus about your life and the decisions you're making.

.legendTAYry. 1 child; Hawaii 41570 posts
15th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting FroggysMommy:</b>" Also, seriously, why do you think CPS is going to go after you for not working... if your SO doesn't ... [snip!] ... seems.... weird. So if your SO doesnt work then why have so many babysitters? Why even NEED a babysitter if hes not working?"</blockquote>




:!:



I would have left baby daddy's "friend" there and he could have walked. Why didn't you go to sleep after you got everyone settled?