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Sarah's Mommy 17 kids; Porter, Texas 52 posts
15th Dec '12
Quoting Red Bottom:" Everyone has given her advice. She's not ready to take it because she can't admit that any of this is a result of her actions and decisions. "


You don't know anything about me, my boyfriend, my daughter or our situation so quit talking shit. I'm sick of it. If you can't help and not be a b***h then GET THE HELL OFF MY THREAD!!! I'm doing EVERYTHING I can to make sure my daughter is safe and has everything she needs. Yes, BD and I have gotten into some BAD fights; but he is a good dad and that's what matters and he is trying to step up and be a better boyfriend. BD and I are trying to make us work because yes he has done some bad shit but he is trying to be a better person. Yes my car is a pos and it barley runs but it still gets my daughter to her DR's appointments. Yes we didn't live in a proper place and I knew that but we are also trying to get on out feet. It was either live there or be homeless; I had no other choice. BD and I are getting our new place before the new year and he has a job interview Tuesday.

Sarah's Mommy 17 kids; Porter, Texas 52 posts
15th Dec '12
Quoting THE KATIE PRICE:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" I'm calling drugs....after hearing about ... [snip!] ... So lets give her some help to assist her in removing herself from this and getting her baby back. Op who has the baby?"


Thank you for actually trying to help and not just assuming stuff

user banned 2 kids; Vientiane, Lao People's Democratic Republic 17415 posts
15th Dec '12

Ok so maybe write down a list of steps you need to take to get your life on track.
I'm not judging you at all.
Find a new place to live with proper services ie water
Seek help from outside agencies ( I'm not in the us so I'm not much help there)
Really think hard about your relationship with bd, I'm sure it's a painful thing to do but, perhaps he's not the greatest ( hurting you, making you scared, getting arrested etc)



Every single plan you make needs to be underpinned by what is best for your daughter.
Her health and safety should be the most important thing.

Sarah's Mommy 17 kids; Porter, Texas 52 posts
15th Dec '12
Quoting .tay.:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Sarah's Mommy:</b>" 1)BD's mom's BF WASN'T there when I asked ... [snip!] ... for my daughter to be out so I left her with someone I thought I could trust "</blockquote> Why was bd even in jail?"


for being a dumbass and steeling shit. hes already heard 9 kinds of hell from me about it and all the stupid shit hes done.

user banned 2 kids; Vientiane, Lao People's Democratic Republic 17415 posts
15th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Sarah's Mommy:</b>" for being a dumbass and steeling shit. hes already heard 9 kinds of hell from me about it and all the stupid shit hes done."</blockquote>




So what are you going to do?



Personally if my child was taken by CPs I'd be acting swiftly to rectify the issues.
You need to move somewhere safe ASAP.
You need to speak to someone ASAP about your abusive relationship
Where are your parents/ relatives, can they help.
Don't wallow in this shit please be proactive

Sarah's Mommy 17 kids; Porter, Texas 52 posts
15th Dec '12
Quoting THE KATIE PRICE:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Sarah's Mommy:</b>" for being a dumbass and steeling shit. ... [snip!] ... about your abusive relationship Where are your parents/ relatives, can they help. Don't wallow in this shit please be proactive"


were getting our own place before the new year and its going to be alot better then were we were living and BD has a job interview tuesday. money is the biggest thing that we fight about. we've worked out all of our other problems.

user banned 2 kids; Vientiane, Lao People's Democratic Republic 17415 posts
15th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Sarah's Mommy:</b>" were getting our own place before the new year and its going to be alot better then were we were living ... [snip!] ... BD has a job interview tuesday. money is the biggest thing that we fight about. we've worked out all of our other problems. "</blockquote>




Do you have any other support networks outside of bd? Family?



You know hon, it's ok being a single mother, it could be better than being with someone that hurts you or makes you frightened, even if you don't feel like he'd hurt your baby, him hurting you really isn't ok. You're worth a lot more than that.
When will you be moving? What can you go to prepare for the move?
Can you speak to cps, ask for suggestions?
Can you see your baby?

user banned 2 kids; Vientiane, Lao People's Democratic Republic 17415 posts
15th Dec '12

And op a 'great dad' doesn't try to strangle his child's mother.
No matter what.
Ever.
Please think about that, love yourself and your child enough.

Red Bottom TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15307 posts
15th Dec '12
Quoting Sarah's Mommy:" You don't know anything about me, my boyfriend, my daughter or our situation so quit talking shit. I'm ... [snip!] ... be homeless; I had no other choice. BD and I are getting our new place before the new year and he has a job interview Tuesday."


Everyone tried helping you, you just don't want to hear it. You're just waiting for someone to come in and make you feel a little better about what you have going on. But it's not going to get better. Your Baby Daddy isn't a great dad, you said you don't trust your daughter around him, and great dads dont abuse their children's mothers. I've yet to hear you come up with a plan on how you're going to change your situation. You keep saying "we're moving x hours away", "our next place will be much better", etc etc etc. But you're not saying, "this is what I'm doing to make sure I can afford a place" and you continue to ignore everyone who has suggested getting outside help, such as a shelter....possibly for battered women? You just keep saying things like "it's this or we're homeless" no. You have a child, and now a child with a broken bone, so it's time to stop screwing around and face reality and either man up and let your daughter live in a better place because you can't get it together, or get it together so your daughter is safe with you.

.legendTAYry. 1 child; Hawaii 41570 posts
15th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting THE KATIE PRICE:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Sarah's Mommy:</b>" were getting our own place before the new ... [snip!] ... will you be moving? What can you go to prepare for the move? Can you speak to cps, ask for suggestions? Can you see your baby?"</blockquote>




Hey Josie.



I agree with all of this. Get on wic, food stamps, etc.




I'll comment more when I get on a computer.



I know how hard it is to be 18, a mom, and in a abusive relationship. However- like Josie said. You really need to be proactive and make a list of all the things you need to do to make your life better and get that child back with you.

user banned 2 kids; Vientiane, Lao People's Democratic Republic 17415 posts
15th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting .tay.:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting THE KATIE PRICE:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Sarah's ... [snip!] ... to be proactive and make a list of all the things you need to do to make your life better and get that child back with you."</blockquote>




It seems like she didn't want advice. :(



If you want help op, listen to what Tay says!

Sarah's Mommy 17 kids; Porter, Texas 52 posts
25th Dec '12

Sorry I've been really busy trying to get a job and find a cheap enough place.



UPDATE: BD and I have been fighting more and he punched me again, been treating me like shit, talking down to me and hasn't been trying to get a job. So we are DONE and as soon as I get a job I am going to get my daughter and I a place and I am going to file for full custody :) . Still don't know who broke my daughters arm but I think it was BD or his mom. But I'm not 100% sure. I already am on WIC and Food Stamps. I have no family that can help me because I live in TX and all my family live in GA.

FroggysMommy 1 child; Golden, Colorado 27169 posts
25th Dec '12
Quoting Sarah's Mommy:" Sorry I've been really busy trying to get a job and find a cheap enough place. UPDATE: BD and I have ... [snip!] ... sure. I already am on WIC and Food Stamps. I have no family that can help me because I live in TX and all my family live in GA."


Im sorry that happened but now maybe you will wake up and realize we werent being horrid b***hes.... you kept defending this jackass "Hes a good dad and boyfriend" Oh but he breaks your childs leg and punches you... right?



Seriously, go live with your family. Move. Its better than sitting on your butt and allowing your child to be hurt some more.

Red Bottom TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15307 posts
25th Dec '12
Quoting Sarah's Mommy:" Sorry I've been really busy trying to get a job and find a cheap enough place. UPDATE: BD and I have ... [snip!] ... sure. I already am on WIC and Food Stamps. I have no family that can help me because I live in TX and all my family live in GA."


Why are you still giving him the opportunity to hurt you or your daughter? He hits you AGAIN and you say you're "going to leave when you can". Leaving is never convenient and it's never going to be. Just leave. You've been hit and your infant has had a bone broken....what more needs to happen for you to stop planning and start doing?

SosaFam Sosa Japan 32 posts
26th Dec '12

What's the reason for neither of you working in the first place? There's like a million minumum wage jobs for anyone that wants to work. If you love your child so much you should go work in the fields with all the illegal immigrants. You would do anything to get your baby back, right?