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Sarah's Mommy 17 kids; Porter, Texas 52 posts
4th Jan '13
Quoting Man. Bear. Pig.:" Maybe switch to online schooling for a while? That way you have more options for jobs and can do both?"


I can't do that because I don't have internet where I live and I'm saving all the gas I can to go look for jobs

Ellie. 34 kids; Arizona 25371 posts
4th Jan '13
Quoting Sarah's Mommy:" I can't do that because I don't have internet where I live and I'm saving all the gas I can to go look for jobs"


They dont offer internet?

Sarah's Mommy 17 kids; Porter, Texas 52 posts
4th Jan '13
Quoting Man. Bear. Pig.:" They dont offer internet?"


No I live with my friend right now and when I get my own place I've got to save as much money as I can and get whatever my daughter will need

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15275 posts
4th Jan '13
Quoting Sarah's Mommy:" Sorry I haven't been on in a while I've been looking for a job. I can't work in a field because I'm ... [snip!] ... that I get a job!!! I am busting my ass trying to get a job so I can get my daughter back. BD and I are still broken up :)"



Honesty....this gets me.



For fun, I've been looking for a part time job just to get our of the house....and I got 4 interviews this week just by replying to craigslist ads.



There are millions of people working in Texas, saying there are NO jobs is a terrible excuse.



What will be enough to make you ACTUALLY do something to help yourself....or your daughter?

Ellie. 34 kids; Arizona 25371 posts
6th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Sarah's Mommy:</b>" No I live with my friend right now and when I get my own place I've got to save as much money as I can and get whatever my daughter will need"</blockquote>




Internet is like 20 bucks a month.... I'm sure you'd spend that in gas getting to and from school.

Sarah's Mommy 17 kids; Porter, Texas 52 posts
7th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ellie.:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Sarah's Mommy:</b>" No I live with my friend right now and ... [snip!] ... need"</blockquote> Internet is like 20 bucks a month.... I'm sure you'd spend that in gas getting to and from school."</blockquote>



In my area internet is almost $80 a month and I can't spend that $80for internet because all be money I have goes to saving up to get a place and gas to look for a job. I've tried craigslist but I also have no job history and I can only work from 4pm - 12 am because I'm in school.

FroggysMommy 1 child; Golden, Colorado 26807 posts
7th Jan '13
Quoting Sarah's Mommy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Ellie.:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Sarah's Mommy:</b>" ... [snip!] ... for a job. I've tried craigslist but I also have no job history and I can only work from 4pm - 12 am because I'm in school."


With those kinds of hours Id try a 24 hour walmart if there is one near you.

Sarah's Mommy 17 kids; Porter, Texas 52 posts
7th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting FroggysMommy:</b>" With those kinds of hours Id try a 24 hour walmart if there is one near you."</blockquote>



I've applied ay Wal-Mart but I haven't herd anything back yet but I also have a friend that works their so she's going ti try to help get me in their

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15275 posts
7th Jan '13
Quoting Sarah's Mommy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting FroggysMommy:</b>" With those kinds of hours Id try a 24 hour ... [snip!] ... but I haven't herd anything back yet but I also have a friend that works their so she's going ti try to help get me in their"


Stop being lazy.



I've gotten more than 4 interviews in the last week just from replying to craigslist ads.



Boohoo, walmart hasn't called you back. Go back to walmart and start actually putting forth effort into giving your child a life she deserves.

Sarah's Mommy 17 kids; Porter, Texas 52 posts
8th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" Stop being lazy. I've gotten more than 4 interviews in the last week just from replying to craigslist ... [snip!] ... hasn't called you back. Go back to walmart and start actually putting forth effort into giving your child a life she deserves."</blockquot



Stop being a judgmental b***h. I'm doing the best I can so shut the f**k up if you can't say anything positive. Good for you you've gotten four f**king interviews. You don't need a job your just doing it so you can get out of the house. It's people like you who make it harder for people like me who are working their ass off trying to get a job, go to school and be a single mom. I'm still in high school trying to graduate and not be a dropout so I can go to college so that I can get a career. I'm doing the best I can and if you're just going to bash me all the time get the hell off my thread!!! I have applied at every place in my area and I'm also going on snagajob.com, craigslist, local newspapers and all over town trying to get a damn job so don't you dare call me lazy!!!

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15275 posts
8th Jan '13
Quoting Sarah's Mommy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" Stop being lazy. I've gotten more than 4 interviews ... [snip!] ... on snagajob.com, craigslist, local newspapers and all over town trying to get a damn job so don't you dare call me lazy!!!"


I'm having a hard time believing that there are people who legitimately think like you.



I don't need a job, yet I can still find one. I'm not making it harder for you or anyone else. It's called effort.



You haven't been trying at all, you've been putting forth the minimal effort possible, and you have continued to make excuses.

Ellie. 34 kids; Arizona 25371 posts
8th Jan '13
Quoting Red Bottom:" I'm having a hard time believing that there are people who legitimately think like you. I don't need ... [snip!] ... You haven't been trying at all, you've been putting forth the minimal effort possible, and you have continued to make excuses. "


:!: When I was looking for a job after I did a state to state move... I hit that shit hard. It was like a full time job. From 7 am to 5 pm, I was on the computer, I was calling people, hell... I was applying for things I wasn't even qualified for, because you just never know.

To be honest OP.... put school on the backburner. You cant afford to be choosy with jobs right now. Take the first full time one you get, and go back to school later on down the road. No one says you HAVE to finish right now. I'm in my 30's and am still in college, and I"m comfortable with that. You dont need an education to get your kid back... you need a steady job and income. School is not going to give you that in short term. It will help long term, but you're young and have plenty of time for that. Get your priorities straight and then worry about the other stuff.

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15275 posts
8th Jan '13
Quoting Ellie.:" :!: When I was looking for a job after I did a state to state move... I hit that shit hard. It was ... [snip!] ... term, but you're young and have plenty of time for that. Get your priorities straight and then worry about the other stuff."


I know that if my baby daddy and his friends were in an our of jail, CPS took my child, and someone broke my infant daughter's arm....I wouldn't be half assing anything.

FroggysMommy 1 child; Golden, Colorado 26807 posts
9th Jan '13
Quoting Red Bottom:" I know that if my baby daddy and his friends were in an our of jail, CPS took my child, and someone broke my infant daughter's arm....I wouldn't be half assing anything. "


This. It's easy to find some kind of job. First start? Go to your local mall and walk store to store to store and turn in an application at every single one. I wanted to find a job to fill my time and had call backs right away. I may hate my job but its a job. Seriously, go to the damn mall. The movie theater. Walmart. Grocery store. Post an ad about babysitting. Not. That. Hard.

Derp Due January 10; 1 child; Camp Lejeune, NC, United States 11574 posts
9th Jan '13

First of all, Red, you are a welcome addition to this place. If I didn't know any better I would think you're the narrator in my head.



OP, in Red's defense, she never became harsh until after there were so many discrepancies with your story that someone had to say something. What she says is advice worth its weight in gold. Make finding a job your full time job. This time that you're spending on BG? Use it for browsing ads on the internet instead. Start going through your local paper and looking for jobs there. Start making rounds in person and turning in as many applications as you can. Now that your daughter is in someone else's custody you truly have the time it takes to get on your feet. Use it wisely.



Anyway, I think this whole thing is a damn mess. I feel sorry for--and frustrated with--OP because she's clearly in denial about how she ended up in this situation. OP, don't you think you're worth more than the shitty people you surround yourself with? People shouldn't be choking you, raising their voice at you, getting arrested, breaking a baby's arm, etc. There is so much more to life than that kind of shit. You sound extremely young which makes all of this even more unfortunate. Do you have any mentors in your life who can help guide you? Have you thought about contacting a case worker or hell, even going to a church? (You're in Texas, there are plenty...) Even if you're not religious there are plenty of churches that can help you get on your feet. Last week I put a BGer in touch with an organization in her town that helps young single moms find a place to live, get a job, and start going to school. They actually help these women for up to two years and give them all the tools they need to succeed. There are plenty of organizations like this out there. Try and get in touch with one.



So sad.