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She's coming over....help ......................... Oregon 14226 posts
15th Dec '12

Ok so I posted this in special needs because I'm sure my niece has some sort of "special needs" but she's never been tested.



With that out of the way, my kids' birthday party is today. A dual birthday party for my 2 youngest, both born in December.



We're all excited, especially with the news that my niece Mylah will be joining us(her mother kept her from our family for almost 2 years).



As excited as we all were that she'll be here, it turned to pure anxiety last night. It's d-day, she's coming over.



We don't know what's wrong with her, but I'm positive she has ADHD for sure, and possibly autism, but my brother refuses to have her tested.



With that being said, she's notorious for running off, she can't focus on anything, and she destroys everything. She's a very sweet girl, but for example when put in time out at my dads house, she swung on the curtains and pulled the curtains down.



Now I have a special needs kid. My son has autism, adhd, SPD all that fun stuff.



But, we've had 3 years in the school system and working with several counselors and getting OT and PT. So he knows what he can't touch.



Even looking over, I see stockings hanging from shelves....oh my what if she pulled that down onto her head?



Overall I'm just nervous. I obviously have 3 kids, I don't mind if my house get completely trashed, it's a party. But I definitely don't want her hanging from shelves and curtains and that kind of thing.



I'm not sure what to do, my brother is good about trying to keep an eye on her, but he has another child who is 1 and sometimes his girlfriend needs help corralling him and that's when we "lose" Mylah.



Any suggestions. Should I take down the stockings? Tie the curtains up?



I have no idea...Luckily we're pretty baby friendly here, but I just don't know.



She's on her way right now, and it's an hours drive....and it's not just me, my husband is anxious too. We love her so much....but we have expensive things, and well more so his expensive things, and we're worried.

1&1 We're Done! 2 kids; Nevada 10963 posts
15th Dec '12

I would take down the stocking tie up curtains and put anything your worried about hurting her into your bedroom and close the door.

......................... Oregon 14226 posts
15th Dec '12
Quoting 1&1 We're Done!:" I would take down the stocking tie up curtains and put anything your worried about hurting her into your bedroom and close the door."


I just got worried about that. We don't have a gate for the stairs yet. Can't afford one, plus the baby JUST started trying to go up there. I'm worried I may lose her upstairs.



If she took correction, I think I'd feel better, but redirection and correction do nothing to this girl. She can't focus. Quite seriously her eyes kind of glaze over and she's off on something else.



My son used to to do that too when he was her age, she's 3 and 1/2

MILF !! 2 kids; Connecticut 3946 posts
15th Dec '12
Quoting 1&1 We're Done!:" I would take down the stocking tie up curtains and put anything your worried about hurting her into your bedroom and close the door."


absolutely agreed. Take everything you even have a feeling she could destroy away.

......................... Oregon 14226 posts
15th Dec '12
Quoting MILF !!:" absolutely agreed. Take everything you even have a feeling she could destroy away."



I also don't want her to hurt herself you know?



If those stocking hangers came down on her head, it would be automatic stitches.



I'm doing it quickly now.

m o m ♥ 2 kids; Ontario 7945 posts
15th Dec '12

I'd put everything expensive away or breakable. And try and make sure the doors and locked once everyone is settled in



hopefully her parents will keep an extra watch and things won't get too out of hand!



Happy Birthday N & M :D

......................... Oregon 14226 posts
15th Dec '12
Quoting m o m ♥:" I'd put everything expensive away or breakable. And try and make sure the doors and locked once everyone ... [snip!] ... settled in hopefully her parents will keep an extra watch and things won't get too out of hand! Happy Birthday N & M :D"


My brother tries so hard, and he feels for her because he was this way.



But quite seriously, when he was putting his son in the baby carrier at the pumpkin patch, she ran off and boarded the hay ride to go back to the barn. If someone hadn't noticed she wasn't with anyone, she would of been gone.



I'm afraid she'll run upstairs. There's so much to get into up there.



But hey on the upside. She finally gets to come over to my house, and it's super exciting. And this will be her first Christmas with us since the girls were born. So it's very exciting!

lolajessup Due July 25 (girl); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44057 posts
15th Dec '12

Ugh scary. I'd put everything up and close off any doors you can. Try to keep her busy so she doesn't run off. Maybe she won't. Who knows.

tatesmommy09 2 kids; Illinois 4003 posts
15th Dec '12

I know you will be super busy with the party but maybe you could make her a big part of it? Like you always need her help with something so you are keeping an eye on her. Have her bring out food or making a decoration or even just helping watch the younger kids. Make her feel super important and maybe she will focus on that? Just a suggestion, that's a toughie....

......................... Oregon 14226 posts
15th Dec '12
Quoting tatesmommy09:" I know you will be super busy with the party but maybe you could make her a big part of it? Like you ... [snip!] ... watch the younger kids. Make her feel super important and maybe she will focus on that? Just a suggestion, that's a toughie...."


It is tough.



I have princess things for them to do. Like make a necklace. Dress up, tiaras.



But they're coming over 2 hours before the party. And I have no children here except the baby....I have to keep her entertained for 2 hours.



I'm thinking of inviting them out to lunch to kill time.



Although we live in a small town, there's not much here to even eat at.

m o m ♥ 2 kids; Ontario 7945 posts
15th Dec '12

oh no that is scary! I guess you and your husband try and keep and extra eye on her! and maybe ask other family members to too



hopefully you is occupied with all the birthday fun and won't get into too much trouble!

tatesmommy09 2 kids; Illinois 4003 posts
15th Dec '12
Quoting TheCoopersKnitWitch:" It is tough. I have princess things for them to do. Like make a necklace. Dress up, tiaras. But ... [snip!] ... thinking of inviting them out to lunch to kill time. Although we live in a small town, there's not much here to even eat at."


Hmmm.... how old is she? We used to make my neices and nephews blow up balloons before a party. It took them forever and they tried so hard. Lol!

lolajessup Due July 25 (girl); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44057 posts
15th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting tatesmommy09:</b>" Hmmm.... how old is she? We used to make my neices and nephews blow up balloons before a party. It took them forever and they tried so hard. Lol!"</blockquote>



Lmao that's awesome

lolajessup Due July 25 (girl); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44057 posts
15th Dec '12

What about any older mother hen type kids? Do u have any of those coming? They might be able to follow her around and keep her out of mischief.

......................... Oregon 14226 posts
15th Dec '12
Quoting tatesmommy09:" Hmmm.... how old is she? We used to make my neices and nephews blow up balloons before a party. It took them forever and they tried so hard. Lol!"


We're actually going to the store right now to get baloons for them to blow up.



She already railroaded and threw her brother for getting in her way. :(