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user banned 2 kids; New York 34017 posts
16th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Maria + Cory = Alexis Mar:</b>" Cory lived there. Every time I called I asked for Cory and they would always say he wasn't there. So I left messages. I had no other way of contacting him."</blockquote>




Cell phone? Email, Facebook, actual mail?

Maria + Cory = Alexis 17 kids; Middleport, Ohio 1075 posts
16th Dec '12
Quoting JiLLiAN.:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Maria + Cory = Alexis Mar:</b>" Cory lived there. Every time ... [snip!] ... So I left messages. I had no other way of contacting him."</blockquote> Cell phone? Email, Facebook, actual mail?"

He doesn't have a cell and they had to internet. Plus during our feud we blocked each other from facebook. I don't know his physical address.

Maria + Cory = Alexis 17 kids; Middleport, Ohio 1075 posts
16th Dec '12

I just wanted you guys input. I am a first time mother and my main concern is protecting my daughter. I am taking what you guys say into account. That is why I asked. I didn't asked just so I could go with what i have already came up with. I am not a heartless person. I spent my whole life knowing that my grandparents didn't want me even though they lived in the same small town. I know it is important to have extended family. I just wanted to see if I was making the right decision or if I was making it out of anger. I want to do what is right for my daughter. And if letting her around her grandfather is what is right then I will do it.

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14113 posts
16th Dec '12
Quoting Maria + Cory = Alexis Mar:" I just wanted you guys input. I am a first time mother and my main concern is protecting my daughter. ... [snip!] ... I want to do what is right for my daughter. And if letting her around her grandfather is what is right then I will do it."


I do think you're making the choice out of anger. Wait until she actually gets here and they visit her. That first visit will prompt you on what you feel is the right thing to do.

Maria + Cory = Alexis 17 kids; Middleport, Ohio 1075 posts
16th Dec '12
Quoting Supafly★:" I do think you're making the choice out of anger. Wait until she actually gets here and they visit her. That first visit will prompt you on what you feel is the right thing to do. "

Should I let them come to the hospital or wait until she is home? Keep in mind I really hate the stepmother.

Colt's mommy 1 child; Moore, Oklahoma 22110 posts
status 16th Dec '12
Quoting Maria + Cory = Alexis Mar:" Should I let them come to the hospital or wait until she is home? Keep in mind I really hate the stepmother."


If it were me, I'd let them come to the hospital if they wanted, but not the delivery. Tell them that you don't want anyone visiting that first day. I think if you banned them from the hospital all together that your actions would set a precedent for how it will go from then on, if you understand what I mean....

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14113 posts
16th Dec '12
Quoting Maria + Cory = Alexis Mar:" Should I let them come to the hospital or wait until she is home? Keep in mind I really hate the stepmother."


That's totally up to you. Not a lot of women are comfortable with hospital visits[myself included, I'm just too much a sucker to say get out once they walk in the door] and that should be respected. Family members can visit when YOU feel comfortable regardless of how you feel about them - or how badly they want to see the baby.

Maria + Cory = Alexis 17 kids; Middleport, Ohio 1075 posts
16th Dec '12
Quoting Colt's mommy:" If it were me, I'd let them come to the hospital if they wanted, but not the delivery. Tell them that ... [snip!] ... all together that your actions would set a precedent for how it will go from then on, if you understand what I mean.... "

Okay. I love my own family very much but don't even want them there for the delivery. Which makes me feel a little bad because I was there for the delivery of all my nieces and nephews. But I just want time alone with Lexi before I share her with the world. I will invite them, but the hospital is two counties away from where they live so I am not sure they will even make the trip.

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14113 posts
16th Dec '12

But if you don't want them at the hospital, you should say something like, I'm not comfortable with ANY visitors until I bond with my daughter, get used to feeding her, feel better, ect. Whatever the reason is, make sure you tell them it has nothing to do with THEM personally.

Maria + Cory = Alexis 17 kids; Middleport, Ohio 1075 posts
16th Dec '12
Quoting Supafly★:" But if you don't want them at the hospital, you should say something like, I'm not comfortable with ANY ... [snip!] ... to feeding her, feel better, ect. Whatever the reason is, make sure you tell them it has nothing to do with THEM personally. "

My family won't take it personally. My sister never felt the way I feel about Lexi. They weren't excited to be pregnant or to become mothers. They tell me all the time I love Lexi too much and she isn't even here. We have different views on children. Don't get me wrong they love their children. But it isn't the same as my love for Lexi. She is my everything, she means more to me than anything in the world.

Colt's mommy 1 child; Moore, Oklahoma 22110 posts
status 16th Dec '12
Quoting Supafly★:" But if you don't want them at the hospital, you should say something like, I'm not comfortable with ANY ... [snip!] ... to feeding her, feel better, ect. Whatever the reason is, make sure you tell them it has nothing to do with THEM personally. "


I agree with this too!

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14113 posts
16th Dec '12
Quoting Maria + Cory = Alexis Mar:" My family won't take it personally. My sister never felt the way I feel about Lexi. They weren't excited ... [snip!] ... children. But it isn't the same as my love for Lexi. She is my everything, she means more to me than anything in the world. "


Not sure if you can love your child too much but okay. I personally think mothers have a much better bonding experience when they are left alone with their baby for awhile after birth. Unfortunately that's not always possible because of medical problems and such but if it is possible for you to hold and bond with her right after birth, it will be the best thing for you and her.

Colt's mommy 1 child; Moore, Oklahoma 22110 posts
status 16th Dec '12
Quoting Supafly★:" Not sure if you can love your child too much but okay. I personally think mothers have a much better ... [snip!] ... and such but if it is possible for you to hold and bond with her right after birth, it will be the best thing for you and her. "


OT but I love your avi!! I always have to watch it a few times when I see it!

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14113 posts
16th Dec '12
Quoting Colt's mommy:" OT but I love your avi!! I always have to watch it a few times when I see it!"


Lol thanks. My DH sits and watches it all the time if I leave my BG homepage up lol.

Maria + Cory = Alexis 17 kids; Middleport, Ohio 1075 posts
16th Dec '12
Quoting Supafly★:" Not sure if you can love your child too much but okay. I personally think mothers have a much better ... [snip!] ... and such but if it is possible for you to hold and bond with her right after birth, it will be the best thing for you and her. "

That is what I want. Cory already knows that I get her first. I have done a lot of research on what is best for her. I take every parenting class and birthing class they offer around here. My Help Me Grow rep said I was the most prepared mother she has ever seen. I read everything I get my hands on. I have even visited the CDC website to learn more about the shots she will need. I will do what I am told to do to make Lexi a healthier, happy baby.