Quoting Maria + Cory = Alexis Mar:" That is what I want. Cory already knows that I get her first. I have done a lot of research on what is ... [snip!] ... CDC website to learn more about the shots she will need. I will do what I am told to do to make Lexi a healthier, happy baby. "
Glad to see a mother doing her research. Try not to sweat the in-laws. Family sucks sometimes.
Quoting Supafly★:" Not sure if you can love your child too much but okay. I personally think mothers have a much better ... [snip!] ... and such but if it is possible for you to hold and bond with her right after birth, it will be the best thing for you and her. "
My sisters first words after giving birth is can I have a cig now. They weren't interested in bonding with their babies. With my one sister I always stayed overnight with her. She had three babies and I was there for each of them. I have boned very much with all of my nieces and nephews.
Quoting Supafly★:" Glad to see a mother doing her research. Try not to sweat the in-laws. Family sucks sometimes. "
My research started long before I got pregnant. And I believe every child deserves the best parents. She was is entrusted to me and I am going to do everything within my power to make her a wonderful, intelligence, honest person who will do good in this world. But even I need help with that. :)
I think you should give his father the opportunity to be involved, and if he denies her then that's his own problem. If she's just a baby when you try to introduce her she won't remember being denied, thus, no damage done psychologically. It sounds like he's trying to protect his son. You said Cory has two other children - did his ex-wife cheat on him? He might be questioning your daughter's paternity because of something from his previous relationship.
I really hope everything works out for you :) And if his family is that insecure over it you could always get a paternity test, just to prove it to them.
Quoting veggiehugger:" I think you should give his father the opportunity to be involved, and if he denies her then that's his ... [snip!] ... out for you :) And if his family is that insecure over it you could always get a paternity test, just to prove it to them. "
There was a questions surrounding the paternity of is son. Cory at once believed something happened between her and his father. And the first time I met his son I noticed that he looked more like his grandfather than father. I am not sure if a DNA test was done. They were not married when the son was born. They married later and had their daughter. I am guessing a DNA test was order because of the child support.
Quoting Maria + Cory = Alexis:" I don't want them to deny her in front of her. I know it will effect her the rest of her life and I just want her to be happy and healthy."
You know it is amazing at how much anyone's heart melts with a new baby in their arms. :) If they deny your beautiful baby then that is their loss, trust me i have the same arrangement with some of my own family..If any one of them does anything or says anything hurtful towards my daughter then i will no longer be visiting them. You have to give them a chance because in all honesty this is your babies family as well, however in the long run the decision is completely your own. None of us can tell you what to do. Momma always knows best. Good luck hun ^^