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Dealing W/A Lost... Angel Wings Due June 27; 1 child; 1 angel baby; Chicago, IL, United States 130 posts
16th Dec '12

On 12/12/12 @7:35am, I lost my baby girl. She was stillborn @20wks and this was my 2nd pregnancy where I've given birth prematurely. I held her and it didn't hit me till the nurse took her away and I couldn't stop crying. My family doesn't understand howI feel, most of them believe that I should move on and be happy because I have my son and he matters more right now. To me, no one has said something right, except for my dad but I believe they just want me to move on and not grieve. I loved them both but just not to have someone actually in my corner to be there for me or understanding that I'm grieving, hurts more. I hate being alone in this and I feel like I'm the only one who's at a lost. I miss her so much, I'm not sure how I should feel or what to do at times...
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L&J ♥ +1 Due August 29; 2 kids; New Jersey 6113 posts
16th Dec '12

I am so so sorry for your loss :( *hugs*



And grieving is okay... Everyone is allowed to grieve. It's healthier to allow yourself to go through the emotions than try and block your feelings. I hope things get better for you soon Hun.

Angel Wings Due June 27; 1 child; 1 angel baby; Chicago, IL, United States 130 posts
16th Dec '12
Quoting L&J ♥:" I am so so sorry for your loss :( *hugs* And grieving is okay... Everyone is allowed to grieve. It's ... [snip!] ... to allow yourself to go through the emotions than try and block your feelings. I hope things get better for you soon Hun."

Thanks.

MrsK09 Due January 14; 50 kids; Kentucky 1866 posts
16th Dec '12

I'm so very sorry for your loss.

Angel Wings Due June 27; 1 child; 1 angel baby; Chicago, IL, United States 130 posts
16th Dec '12
Quoting MrsK09:" I'm so very sorry for your loss."

Thank you very much

Carol Allison Due August 8; 3 kids; 1 angel baby; United Kingdom 248 posts
17th Dec '12

I'm so sorry for your loss :(



I also lost my baby on the 12.12.12 due to a first trimester miscarriage :(




You need time to grieve & it is an emotional rollercoaster. When you suffer a loss your emotions are every where. You need plenty of support around you at this difficult time. Take it easy & look after yourself

Angel Wings Due June 27; 1 child; 1 angel baby; Chicago, IL, United States 130 posts
18th Dec '12
Quoting Carol Allison:" I'm so sorry for your loss :( I also lost my baby on the 12.12.12 due to a first trimester miscarriage ... [snip!] ... emotions are every where. You need plenty of support around you at this difficult time. Take it easy & look after yourself "

Thank you and I'm doing exactly that.

Carol Allison Due August 8; 3 kids; 1 angel baby; United Kingdom 248 posts
18th Dec '12
Quoting Angel Wings:" Thank you and I'm doing exactly that."

It's not over for me yet, went for a scan today & i've not passed everything yet but I thought I had, so i'm debating to go in for a D&C which they can do on Thursday afternoon :(

Angel Wings Due June 27; 1 child; 1 angel baby; Chicago, IL, United States 130 posts
22nd Dec '12
Quoting Carol Allison:" It's not over for me yet, went for a scan today & i've not passed everything yet but I thought I had, so i'm debating to go in for a D&C which they can do on Thursday afternoon :("

Aww that is terrible, I hope that everything goes well for you.

Carol Allison Due August 8; 3 kids; 1 angel baby; United Kingdom 248 posts
22nd Dec '12
Quoting Angel Wings:" Aww that is terrible, I hope that everything goes well for you."

I was supposed to have a D&C done 2 days ago but I freaked out as i've never been knocked out before & ended up not having it done, go the EPU on Monday to get medication.
How are you doing ?

Angel Wings Due June 27; 1 child; 1 angel baby; Chicago, IL, United States 130 posts
27th Dec '12
Quoting Carol Allison:" I was supposed to have a D&C done 2 days ago but I freaked out as i've never been knocked out before & ended up not having it done, go the EPU on Monday to get medication. How are you doing ?"

I'm handling everything better now, the dream of it comes and goes, which I end up finding myself waking up crying or not able to go back to sleep. I can actually talk about how I feel and the experience more without severely crying, maybe some tears. I'm just looking forward to the New Year right now, possibly trying again one more time. Even though people say I'm young and I can have time to have more kids, I only want two kids with a certain amount of years between them (2-3yrs is my goal gap), after that, I don't really want no more.