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......... nowhere, NW, United States 25972 posts
17th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jude the Super Kinkster:</b>" Poll: Does it bother when couples who are not legally married call each other "husband" or "wife"? If so, why? Do you feel like it's an insult to "real" married couples? D&D"</blockquote>




Depends.



A same sex couple? I don't have an issue. If they were legally able to do it, I'm sure they would.



A hetero couple? A little. If you really felt they were your spouse, they would be.

......... nowhere, NW, United States 25972 posts
17th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jude the Super Kinkster:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting MILF !!:</b>" I do get offended because so many people don't ... [snip!] ... You earned it.how? By spending $10 on a piece of paper that you signed? What about.couples who cannot be legally married?"</blockquote>




I hate when people say that. It isn't just a piece of paper to some.

user banned California 36390 posts
17th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~Ice Princess~:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Jude the Super Kinkster:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... who cannot be legally married?"</blockquote> I hate when people say that. It isn't just a piece of paper to some."</blockquote>



But it is to.others. Why does your relationship mean more than someone else's just because you were able to.sign a legal document about it.

......... nowhere, NW, United States 25972 posts
17th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jude the Super Kinkster:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ~Ice Princess~:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Jude ... [snip!] ... Why does your relationship mean more than someone else's just because you were able to.sign a legal document about it."</blockquote>




I didn't say it did??? But to some it has nothing to do with the legal aspect of it. For others? Yea. It is just a piece of paper. No one should really say anything about what someone else calls their relationship. I do find it stupid to call someone your spouse when they're not (assuming they can get married) though. If you can get married and refer to someone as such, why not just do it?
Overall, I don't care though.

user banned California 36390 posts
17th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~Ice Princess~:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Jude the Super Kinkster:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... can get married) though. If you can get married and refer to someone as such, why not just do it? Overall, I don't care though."</blockquote>




Well not.everyone can is the problrm

......... nowhere, NW, United States 25972 posts
17th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jude the Super Kinkster:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ~Ice Princess~:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Jude ... [snip!] ... someone as such, why not just do it? Overall, I don't care though."</blockquote> Well not.everyone can is the problrm"</blockquote>




And I agree with that for same sex couples/poly..but for a man and woman? They most certainly can. It's like 20-100 bucks..

LumpySpacePrincess 2 kids; New Zealand 17060 posts
17th Dec '12

Don't care. If that's what they want to call themselves then sure.



Back in the day you didn't have to go through a wedding ceremony to be married. You just had to get engaged in front of people. Before that just sleeping together meant you were married. So meh. Semantics.



Plus, two people calling themselves husband and wife isn't going to change my life in any way whatsoever so whatever. Do what you want. It's not hurting anyone.

MissMommyJacquie 1 child; Nebraska 424 posts
18th Dec '12

Yes it bothers me because there is a big difference between being boyfriend and girlfriend than husband and wife. Lots of people say that marriage is just a piece of paper but to me its so much more than that. The sacrament and bond of two people that truely love each that want to be entwined for life is a beautiful thing.

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42775 posts
18th Dec '12

Only if they're too damn young to even get married :lol: My sister calls her girlfriend her wifey all the time and I just :roll:



Otherwise... idfc.

Ryloonjimama Australia 18851 posts
18th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Derpy the Duck:</b>" Nope. Because SO and I are one of those couples. We've been together going on 9 years now. We're not ... [snip!] ... laws and he calls mine his in laws as well. We are not some high school fling so excuse me if I don't call him my "boyfriend." "</blockquote>




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This. We've been together for 7 years. I never wanted to get married but he always did, now I've been thinking lately maybe I do want to get married because we've already been living in a marriage-like committed relationship for over 6.5 years anyway. I will refer to him as my husband, say if I'm talking about him with say the cashier at the grocery store or something and I know he talks about me as his wife.



Boyfriend/girlfriend just doesn't fit for what we are.



Just to add, I'm not fond of the "hubby/wifey" terms, in general.

The Master 2 kids; Perth, Australia 19989 posts
18th Dec '12

I've been with my partner 9 years, lived together 8 1/2 , and been legal defacto for 8. I believe I'm fully within my rights to call him whatever I want

justanothamotha Due January 20; 130 kids; Climax, Michigan 5120 posts
18th Dec '12

Does it bother when couples who are not legally married call each other "husband" or "wife"?
It annoys me.
If so, why? It would annoy me if you called a child you watch your son or daughter. There is a difference in the legal status of a non-married & a married couple. If you aren't married, then calling someone your spouse is inaccurate. I like facts....and things that are clear.
Do you feel like it's an insult to "real" married couples?

No - I just think it shows they lack an understanding of what the real legal differences are between unmarried partners & married couples. You can call him your Dh all you want but he isn't your Dh & if he is in an accident & someone has to make medical decisions for him, it WON'T be you doing it. You aren't legally allowed to. You also aren't legally allowed a whole lot of other things. I would have been pissed if Dh had ever referred to me as his ife while we were living together.



JUST wanted to add - Dh & I were living together for 9 yrs when we got married - and I still never referred to him as anything but my BF....because legally that is all he was. It is dishonest ot me to say it any other way.

Nameless Ghoul 2 kids; Sweden 6452 posts
18th Dec '12
Quoting Madi's*Mama:" It depends. If they have been dating for like a month, yes it bugs me and I find it insulting but if they've been together years I don't care."


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The Master 2 kids; Perth, Australia 19989 posts
18th Dec '12
Quoting justanothamotha:" Does it bother when couples who are not legally married call each other "husband" or "wife"? It annoys ... [snip!] ... referred to him as anything but my BF....because legally that is all he was. It is dishonest ot me to say it any other way."


I have all the same legal rights as a married couple being legal defacto (in the states I believe you call it common law), does that mean I still have to call him my boyfriend even though IMO he's so much more.

justanothamotha Due January 20; 130 kids; Climax, Michigan 5120 posts
18th Dec '12
Quoting The (super kinky) Master:" I have all the same legal rights as a married couple being legal defacto (in the states I believe you ... [snip!] ... I believe you call it common law), does that mean I still have to call him my boyfriend even though IMO he's so much more."

Common law marriage is a form of marriage. We don't have that in most states here, but some do. I was not common law with Dh even if we lived that way 20 yrs as there is no common law in my state.



There is a legal definition to common law marriage.