Okay bear with me here long story.
So my SO has this friend he likes to go visit who is male and lately ( like past couple weeks) he always ask to go there and he always says pick me up at 6pm even if I drop him off in the morning.
Last week I drop him off and I see a girl standing on the verandah of the house and I ask whos that to him and he says I dont know some girl who lives here. I said what you never told me no girls live there I thought it was just your friend.
Then he hops out the car and I drive off.
So this same thing happened about 3 times I would drop him off and there would be a girl there and a few times there was two girls and a little kid about 5 or 6.
So then on friday night he says he is going over there to have a drink with his friend and I say are you sure your not doing anything with that girl/girls you seem to be going over there alot why do you want to go there so much. and he gets shitty and says im not doing anything and then it ends in an arguement and me being silenced.
Well on friday night he asks me to pick him up at 9pm so i say okay. 9pn comes i am about to leave to go get him and he calls and says no pick me up at 10.30pm and I refuse saying I'll pick you up now or not at all because our son will be asleep. he says fine and then i hang up.. I fell asleep then I wake up to a call at 2.45am asking him to pick him up. I say no walk home and hang up.
He turns up home at about 3.30am and I ask him what the hell are you playing at and I ask him about the girl/girls again and he says nothing is going on.
I leave it at that and I go back to sleep.
Then at 7am the next morning someone knocks at our door and i look out the window and regonise the car in the drive is the one always parked out front of his friends. I yell at him to go answer the door and he says no i should and i say no its your friend i am asleep but anyway he answers the door and it isnt his friend at all its this girl. the one i seen standing on the verandah. He answered the door in his jocks nothing else which he never does. then she asks him can she have a lighter and he runs out the back to get one for her. then he gives it to her and I hear her say to him so do you want to come over?
then he calls out to me Is it okay if i go with her?
thats when I jump out of bed and go to the door and say its 7am, you have woken my kid up now fuck off you skanky slut and slam the door in her face.
She leaves and then 20min later SO recieves a call from her on his phone abusing him saying she isnt fucking happy with me "your missus"
He replies no wait and she hangs up.
I was like wtf and I accused him of cheating and we argued and he denied it.
I then asked around to discover this girl and her sister which is the other girl have a reputation of trying to get with anything that has a penis.. so I am worried if he is cheating was cheating.
I am also going to the dr tomorrow to get an std check as I am almost 19 weeks pregnant and dont want to have been passed anything if he got anything if he did cheat.
So I want to know do you think this sounds like he was or is cheating?
I dont know what to think or do right now.
If you're uncomfortable with him being there, maybe his Friend can hang at your house.
But honestly? You sound realllly immature and jealous. The woman hadn't even spoken to you and you called her a skank and slammed the door in her face.
NO it does not sound like he is cheating. You sound nuts.
I'd say it definitely sounds like he's trying to hide something, whether it be cheating or the want to cheat to see if he could get away with it. To me, though, it sounds like he's already cheating :/
Quoting Crystal Marie S.:" If you're uncomfortable with him being there, maybe his Friend can hang at your house. But honestly? ... [snip!] ... realllly immature and jealous. The woman hadn't even spoken to you and you called her a skank and slammed the door in her face."
Super rude op, wow.
I'd say he's cheating
Instead of trying to calm your fears, he's spending MORE time over there which would be a red flag to me. Then having a girl show up at 7am to ask for a lighter? Also a red flag. Should you have said those things to her? No. Does he work? Why doesn't he drive himself over there? You make it sound like he spends every waking moment over there, you're pregnant and you have a young child already.. Sounds like a loser to me. Cheating or not, I'd tell him to kick rocks.
Ugh, this does not sound good. She also had no right to knock on your door.... then the phone call... if he says he didn't know the girls and they just live there. He is also there everyday....idk.... I think you need to sit down and talk to him.
That definitely sounds suspicious, but then why would she come to your house? It is weird he goes there alot though, and why would she come over at 7am asking for a lighter :?
Quoting Ryan's Mommy ♥:" Ugh, this does not sound good. She also had no right to knock on your door.... then the phone call... ... [snip!] ... know the girls and they just live there. He is also there everyday....idk.... I think you need to sit down and talk to him."
What do you mean she had no right to knock on her door? It's his door too and if they are friends, or even acquaintances why in the world shouldn't she knock on the door?
Quoting Amber Mosher:" I'd say it definitely sounds like he's trying to hide something, whether it be cheating or the want to cheat to see if he could get away with it. To me, though, it sounds like he's already cheating :/"
Well the thing that made me even more concerned if he was cheating is a friend of mine said she knew them both and told me they were both sisters and said she was friends with them on facebook, anyway she showed me there profiles and they both have photos of themselves dressed in tight black tops and short shiny silver shorts and they are taken by someone else and they were added the night he stayed out all night.
I asked him about if he knew anything about these photos and he smiled!
and i said did you take them and he smiled and he didnt deny it so I am just upset about it all.
im confused with the whole situation he seems like he would be cheating but then again why would he ask u if he could go with her like if it was no big deal? he sounds like an idiot !
That doesn't sound suspicious to those of you who said no?
It is a bit weird that he gets you to drop him off at this woman's house and you've seen her. Don't you think he'd want to be a bit more stealth about it?