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*J* 50 kids; 14412 posts
Dec 17th '12
Quoting Angeleyes1372:" I don't "hit" him, I pop his butt a few times and send him to time out. Don't let him watch TV or play ... [snip!] ... off and slapping him cross the face, I'd even say I am abusive then. but me popping his butt a few times when he needs it. "


Don't get me wrong. I have spanked both of my children. Less than a handful of times and only for things that are EXTREMELY serious. Like running into the parking lot or something equally dangerous. Even then im not proud of it. Spanking is hitting. You'd be delusional to think otherwise.

Baby B<3 1 angel baby; 16168 posts
Dec 17th '12
Quoting Angeleyes1372:" I don't "hit" him, I pop his butt a few times and send him to time out. Don't let him watch TV or play ... [snip!] ... off and slapping him cross the face, I'd even say I am abusive then. but me popping his butt a few times when he needs it. "


i think you need to read what you have said repeatedly and why people are saying you are abusive. I am against spanking, but i smack on the hand and a smack on the butt is one thing, but what you are saying is you do it over and over and you even said that you do it until you can't anymore and thats why a lot feel what you are doing is abuse. I think you need to find other ways to discipline when he isn't listening to spankings. Have you tried have like a arts and craft time to keep him busy?

*~AngelEyes~* 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Memphis, Tennessee 11214 posts
Dec 17th '12
Quoting Jas ♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Angeleyes1372:</b>" I'm sorry, I didn't see the question... ... [snip!] ... well. I've also learned to pick my battles. I'm not going to sit here and fight with my 4 year old over something stupid."


How does a Calm Down jar work. if I might ask? I'll have to try that.

*~AngelEyes~* 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Memphis, Tennessee 11214 posts
Dec 17th '12
Quoting |♥| Jayme |♥|:" i think you need to read what you have said repeatedly and why people are saying you are abusive. I ... [snip!] ... other ways to discipline when he isn't listening to spankings. Have you tried have like a arts and craft time to keep him busy?"


Yes, I know, and I didn't mean for it to come out that way, either... and I've tried just about everything I can think of. He has such a short attention span, one little thing outside of the activity I'm wanting to do with him and he's gone. (most four year olds, right?)

Baby B<3 1 angel baby; 16168 posts
Dec 17th '12
Quoting Angeleyes1372:" Yes, I know, and I didn't mean for it to come out that way, either... and I've tried just about everything ... [snip!] ... span, one little thing outside of the activity I'm wanting to do with him and he's gone. (most four year olds, right?) "


that's normal he is a little kid. Shot i have a short attention span too lol. Try to work with him like tell him if you want to do that, then can you help me clean this? or something like that. It just sounds like you and him are just getting frustrated at each other.

*~AngelEyes~* 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Memphis, Tennessee 11214 posts
Dec 17th '12
Quoting |♥| Jayme |♥|:" that's normal he is a little kid. Shot i have a short attention span too lol. Try to work with him like ... [snip!] ... can you help me clean this? or something like that. It just sounds like you and him are just getting frustrated at each other."


I will definitely have to start trying that. and yes, I have a super short attention span... I'm severely ADD.

Baby B<3 1 angel baby; 16168 posts
Dec 17th '12
Quoting Angeleyes1372:" I will definitely have to start trying that. and yes, I have a super short attention span... I'm severely ADD. "


ya i have ADHD so i know how that is. Ya you should definitely try it, we use it in the child care i volunteer at and it works for the most part and at first when you start and he tries to start acting out because he wants to do the other things at that moment, get to his eye level and grab his hand while looking at him and tell him i know you want to play with that and you can play with that, but we have to clean this up first.

vagina. 3 kids; Titz, No, Germany 30934 posts
Dec 17th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jas ♥:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Angeleyes1372:</b>" I'm sorry, I didn't see the question... ... [snip!] ... well. I've also learned to pick my battles. I'm not going to sit here and fight with my 4 year old over something stupid."</blockquote>



:!: my oldest is 3.5 & on days he's not at school, he's a terror.

*~AngelEyes~* 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Memphis, Tennessee 11214 posts
Dec 17th '12
Quoting |♥| Jayme |♥|:" ya i have ADHD so i know how that is. Ya you should definitely try it, we use it in the child care i ... [snip!] ... looking at him and tell him i know you want to play with that and you can play with that, but we have to clean this up first."

definitely going to...

Baby B<3 1 angel baby; 16168 posts
Dec 17th '12
Quoting Angeleyes1372:" definitely going to..."


hopefully it works out for you! :)

*~AngelEyes~* 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Memphis, Tennessee 11214 posts
Dec 17th '12
Quoting |♥| Jayme |♥|:" hopefully it works out for you! :)"


I hope so... for real... lol

*~AngelEyes~* 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Memphis, Tennessee 11214 posts
Dec 17th '12
Quoting i made a vagina.:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Jas ♥:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Angeleyes1372:</b>" ... [snip!] ... my 4 year old over something stupid."</blockquote> :!: my oldest is 3.5 & on days he's not at school, he's a terror."


My son is a little angel... until his daddy leaves for work. then he's a holy terror. and I mean, he gets totally out of control. That's all kids, I know, but something has to give, right?

janice joann Due March 31; Japan 2 posts
Dec 17th '12

well th bible says dont spare the rod so i spank but however that iz a last resort and i dont spank and punish i do either or

*~AngelEyes~* 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Memphis, Tennessee 11214 posts
Dec 17th '12
Quoting janice joann:" well th bible says dont spare the rod so i spank but however that iz a last resort and i dont spank and punish i do either or"


You're right, The Bible says "Spare the rod spoil the child" and also says if you spoil the child, you hate him. (idk why they always say "him" but... you know) I do it as last resort, and I do both if it is to a point I absolutely cannot get him to mind. Or if he starts smartmouthing me. (I've gotten a few pops on the mouth for that... no lie)

Danielle Jenson Due December 22 (boy); 2 kids; Kansas 26 posts
Dec 17th '12

I feel your pain! I have a three year old who is going thru his terrible twos and plus I think he is hyper active (it runs in the family). I am also 39 weeks pregnant and think some days I just cant stand him! I clean the house which is a major task at this stage and five min later it is destroyed and I get mad! I believe in spanking and as long as you know your own self control its not a problem! I am enrolling my son next year to a early child development class so he can get away and play with other kids. If you feel like you are going to blow a gasket just put him in his room and say you made mommy upset and just lock your self in a room for ten minutes and read, get on the net, scream, breath what ever will make you calm yourself and then go in there and tell him why you are upset and what he did wrong. It wont change his behavior forever but with my son he knows when I use a certain tone mommy is at her limits and he usually will back off for a little to make me relax! Good luck!