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Kids swearing justanothamotha Due January 20; 130 kids; Climax, Michigan 5120 posts
18th Dec '12

In my house we have a list of words we "don't say" - some are swear words & some are just rude. However, the kids are allowed to say them technically as long as no one else has to hear it - so if you want to go into your room or the bathroom & quietly say f**k Shitty f**k f**k until the cow's come home, feel free.



It has worked like a charm for us & I have no problem getting them to not use words like those listed & even things like "stupid" or other ones that I just prefer not be part of our speech. Sometimes Ds even gets excited to tell me a new word he has heard to find out if it is on the "no say list" or if it's one he can use (like he hears it & has to run across the playground to whisper it to me to find out of he can say it or not).



How do you handle swearing & undesirable words?
Do you think it sends the wrong message to allow them to use those words, even in private?

DeanJade&Mak's Mom 3 kids; Covina, CA, United States 8822 posts
18th Dec '12

I think it would be nieve to say, *my child dosnt cuss* when they get into school, or program where they are exposed to older kids, with diff parents who have diff ways to deal with cussing, my sons 6, I'm sure at school and with his friends he cusses lol, I was between 8-10 when I started cussing at school around friends...



as long as he's not cussing when adults are around and, or cussing at adults, myself, or his siblings, idc...



He's very respectful to adults, and even when he hears his lil sister say something, I've heard him correct her, and she listens better to him than she would to me anyday...



To tell a kids, *not to do, or say something,* is just making it that much more appealing to them...

homes cool TTC since May 2014; 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Indiana 60979 posts
18th Dec '12

I don't cuss, so my kids are young enough still to where they don't....they just aren't around it for them to use that language. Growing up, I was not allowed to cuss. However, I was allowed to sing song lyrics (we listened to country music) and if the singer said something, I was allowed to say it. I think for my mom it was all about the context in what it was used. I'm not 100% sure what we will do, but I don't want to make it a HUGE deal. I want them to realize that while our words are important, that sometimes everyone slips up and you'll say something.

Amanda Contento Florida 2300 posts
18th Dec '12
Quoting the grace life:" I don't cuss, so my kids are young enough still to where they don't....they just aren't around it for ... [snip!] ... deal. I want them to realize that while our words are important, that sometimes everyone slips up and you'll say something. "


My husband and I have a very bad habit to curse a lot but my daughter who's 8 knows curse words are for adults.

DeanJade&Mak's Mom 3 kids; Covina, CA, United States 8822 posts
18th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Amanda Contento:</b>" My husband and I have a very bad habit to curse a lot but my daughter who's 8 knows curse words are for adults."</blockquote>




I cuss a lot, it dosnt even phase them lol

⚓Misty⚓ 4 kids; Keenesburg, Colorado 7275 posts
18th Dec '12

ugh SO has a friend who thinks its cute for his toddler to cuss. If they just say it out of the blue then it can be funny but his parents encourage him to tell people f**k you, your a p***y, ill kick your ass. ect... They also think its funny when he hits people. Its not my kid so i have no say but when he starts school in a couple years theyre going to have all kinds of problems

homes cool TTC since May 2014; 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Indiana 60979 posts
18th Dec '12
Quoting Misty Walls:" ugh SO has a friend who thinks its cute for his toddler to cuss. If they just say it out of the blue ... [snip!] ... people. Its not my kid so i have no say but when he starts school in a couple years theyre going to have all kinds of problems"


We have a neighbor across the street who lets her daughter cuss at me, and towards me. It blows my mind.

justanothamotha Due January 20; 130 kids; Climax, Michigan 5120 posts
18th Dec '12
Quoting Misty Walls:" ugh SO has a friend who thinks its cute for his toddler to cuss. If they just say it out of the blue ... [snip!] ... people. Its not my kid so i have no say but when he starts school in a couple years theyre going to have all kinds of problems"

I've seen this too. I had a cousin & her Dh (not this child's father) taught her son to tell his mom to f**k off & all sorts of stuff & he would crack up whenever it happened. I can remember going to her house once & he wanted a popsicle & she kept telling him after dinner (she was cooking ). He pulled a chair over to the refrigerator & tried to get it himself. She stopped him & he said "I SAID I want a f**king popsicle NOW damn it!" and I about fell off my chair. :shock:

⚓Misty⚓ 4 kids; Keenesburg, Colorado 7275 posts
18th Dec '12

the only one we have problems with cussing is my oldest, but shes 16

⚓Misty⚓ 4 kids; Keenesburg, Colorado 7275 posts
18th Dec '12
Quoting justanothamotha:" I've seen this too. I had a cousin & her Dh (not this child's father) taught her son to tell his ... [snip!] ... himself. She stopped him & he said "I SAID I want a f**king popsicle NOW damn it!" and I about fell off my chair. :shock:"


my 6 year old calls her brother a jerk face. thats about the worst thing she comes up with

Andi+Andy=Marley+1 2 kids; Fredericksburg, Virginia 4564 posts
18th Dec '12

I swear all the time and DD is very good about not repeating them. Most of the time, when I swear, she will say 'don't say that! That's a bad word!' She's 4. When she gets older I don't care if she swears as long as she's not directing it toward anyone and doesn't swear around other adults.

* Kat * 2 kids; Okinawa, Japan 373 posts
18th Dec '12

I swear like a sailor. Somehow, my son (who is now 8 ) has managed to learn on his own which words are not appropriate for a kid his age. Since he could talk, he would replace the bad words with kid words. I would send him to tell his dad to get his ass out of bed because breakfast is ready, and he would go tell his dad "mom said to get your booty out of bed!" He's always been real cute like that. My 3 year old on the other hand, will drop something and say "dammit!" I've tried to clean up my language, but the minute i get excited/upset/angry about something, its Curse City. BUT-as long as she's not doing it towards someone, I really don't care. Same with my boy. I've told him that words are JUST words. If he feels the need to use them-by all means, go for it.