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worst scenario ever loving_momma 2009 Due July 23; Kansas City, Missouri 9 posts
18th Dec '12

my fiance and i are currently living apart and on my birthday my friends and family threw me a party it was first time drinking and i honstly dont remember a thing. im 23 years old and found out yesterday that im 4 weeks and 4 days pregnant and my fiance knows its not his im lost confused and embarrassed hurt. i have no support and ned some advice on what i should do. the choice i make will affet me for life but i dont wana risk losing this once and a lifetime chance of true love that i found. my fiance says he till loves me but isnt helping me feel better or suporting any of this at all. anyone out there with tips or advice please share!!! my first child was a rape bay i dont believe in abortion at all and adoption is too hard for me lease help anyway you can thanks

BαtMαɳ Gotham, __, United States 65028 posts
status 18th Dec '12

:shock:



I would abort. I know you don't believe in that but I am just telling you what I would do in your situation.

Chellie Due September 19 (boy); 2 kids; Vegas, Nv, United States 4763 posts
18th Dec '12

Well your only choice is to keep it if you don't believe in abortion and it is too hard for adoption. You can try to find out who the father is if you really want and get child support or what ever or see if he wants the baby.



You said that your fiance still loves you, is he ok with you keeping the child and eventually raising it as his own as well?



There are just so many variables and from your post is is sort of vague IMO so there is only so much one person can tell you.

Katie Kepfer Due October 13; 178 kids; USA 151 posts
18th Dec '12

If I were you... I would have my baby and f**k everyone else. That baby is part of you, and that is allthat matters. Good luck!

BeccaSauraus 1 child; Baton Rouge, Louisiana 1869 posts
18th Dec '12

So you have one child already?

.t a y l o r. 3 kids; Indiana 3847 posts
18th Dec '12

Jerry Springer sounds like your only real option here.

loving_momma 2009 Due July 23; Kansas City, Missouri 9 posts
18th Dec '12

thanks



Quoting BαƚMαɳ:" :shock: I would abort. I know you don't believe in that but I am just telling you what I would do in your situation."
loving_momma 2009 Due July 23; Kansas City, Missouri 9 posts
18th Dec '12

thats what my heart is telling but i love my fiance and my other son im torn i dont wanna hurt my fiance anymore and i dont want to lose him



Quoting Katie Kepfer:" If I were you... I would have my baby and f**k everyone else. That baby is part of you, and that is allthat matters. Good luck!"
loving_momma 2009 Due July 23; Kansas City, Missouri 9 posts
18th Dec '12

yes i have one son he was a rape baby but i love him and wouldnt tradehim fr the world



Quoting BeccaSauraus:" So you have one child already?"
loving_momma 2009 Due July 23; Kansas City, Missouri 9 posts
18th Dec '12

well my fiance says that my decision will be based on better or for worse and he has no children at all and says that if i keep it there will be no room for his child so im at a loss i cant think straight and im confused im alone and hurt and shocked and among other things



Quoting Love = Moco and Bubba:" Well your only choice is to keep it if you don't believe in abortion and it is too hard for adoption. ... [snip!] ... There are just so many variables and from your post is is sort of vague IMO so there is only so much one person can tell you. "
BαtMαɳ Gotham, __, United States 65028 posts
status 18th Dec '12
Quoting loving_momma 2009:" well my fiance says that my decision will be based on better or for worse and he has no children at all ... [snip!] ... room for his child so im at a loss i cant think straight and im confused im alone and hurt and shocked and among other things "


I'm confused why YOU are shocked and hurt when you were the one that got pregnant by another man.

Katie Kepfer Due October 13; 178 kids; USA 151 posts
18th Dec '12
Quoting loving_momma 2009:" yes i have one son he was a rape baby but i love him and wouldnt tradehim fr the world "


And this baby you will feel the same about. Your fiance if he is truely a good man, will stand by you. If he cannot, you can love your babies by yourself. Talk to your fiance.

BeccaSauraus 1 child; Baton Rouge, Louisiana 1869 posts
18th Dec '12
Quoting BαƚMαɳ:" I'm confused why YOU are shocked and hurt when you were the one that got pregnant by another man."

Sadly enough OP. This is true. If I were him I'd be pissed.

loving_momma 2009 Due July 23; Kansas City, Missouri 9 posts
18th Dec '12

because i thought my fiance was the dad til dates didnt add up i dont drink and remember nothing of my bday night yes this is my fault and i have a right to hurt i admit my mistakes and my faulst but this is still hard for me



Quoting BαƚMαɳ:" I'm confused why YOU are shocked and hurt when you were the one that got pregnant by another man."
TheNuge 1 child; Pennsylvania 23043 posts
18th Dec '12
Quoting loving_momma 2009:" my fiance and i are currently living apart and on my birthday my friends and family threw me a party ... [snip!] ... first child was a rape bay i dont believe in abortion at all and adoption is too hard for me lease help anyway you can thanks"

no. worst scenario ever is happening in Newtown, CT.