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    • Parents should determine what information to provide -- Votes: 72
    • School officials should be the ones to make this decision -- Votes: 5
Parents Responsibility or Schools Responsibility D&D Phallus Cranium fuknutz, NM, Togo 103283 posts
18th Dec '12

If you have a school age child, please tell me if, in your opinion, it is the parents responsibility or the School Boards responsibility to inform your child of tragic school incidents.

laurenmik 3 kids; Aurora, Colorado 7212 posts
18th Dec '12

Mine. I was able to talk to my older son in a way that was appropriate for his specific personality. I know my child better than anyone else, therefore, I am the best person to offer reassurance.

Blythe. 1 child; Indiana 21473 posts
status 18th Dec '12

I don't have a child that age yet but def is the parents responsibility

AwkwardTurtle 34 kids; Syracuse, NY, United States 2085 posts
18th Dec '12

Im all for more school safety drills ect...Teaching kids what to do in crazy situations. I dont see the need to scare children, and I think telling the little ones about the murder of kids at school could give them nightmares or be afraid to be in school.

Destinite TTC since May 2011; 1 child; 2 angel babies; Florida 30868 posts
18th Dec '12

I think parents and faculty should all inform, talk, discuss, etc. certain things like this. We should be united in our communication.

Legendary Due September 3; 1 child; Beverly Hills, California 54288 posts
status 18th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting .Colleen.:</b>" If you have a school age child, please tell me if, in your opinion, it is the parents responsibility or the School Boards responsibility to inform your child of tragic school incidents."</blockquote>



Personally, I would prefer to handle it myself but I would appreciate a voluntary seminar or something that I could attend with my child. I don't have all the answers and can admit when I need professional assistance BUT I would like to be there with my child for support.

tooodles 240 kids; Thailand 5075 posts
18th Dec '12

Its 100% up to the parents. In my town they called all the parents with an automated message saying that it was up to the parents whether they want their child to know or not. That teachers would not be bringing it up in school, that on Monday they did have a moment of silence in all schools but did not state why, and that there would be counselors available for the students that did know and were having issues with it.

Lilly and Laya's momma 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Chesapeake, Virginia 7824 posts
18th Dec '12

Both....Its important for both the parents and school to reassure and inform students

Jerk Horse Here, CA, United States 65131 posts
status 18th Dec '12

Parents, most definitely.



I honestly haven't talked to my kids because I'm sort of in denial and don't want to face it myself. I don't think I want the school talking to my kids about it, though. It may not be very logical, but it's how I feel

Lilly and Laya's momma 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Chesapeake, Virginia 7824 posts
18th Dec '12
Quoting :*:CHRiSTiNe:*::" Its 100% up to the parents. In my town they called all the parents with an automated message saying that ... [snip!] ... did not state why, and that there would be counselors available for the students that did know and were having issues with it."


But what about if students discussed it with students that weren't informed? Thats just asking for issues

Phallus Cranium fuknutz, NM, Togo 103283 posts
18th Dec '12
Quoting :*:CHRiSTiNe:*::" Its 100% up to the parents. In my town they called all the parents with an automated message saying that ... [snip!] ... did not state why, and that there would be counselors available for the students that did know and were having issues with it."


I am also from CT

This post is originating b/c I decided NOT to tell my 6 yo about Friday.
I kept all media off, spoke to all adults, everyone was in agreement.

Saturday night I get a Code Red Call (as you did) but it stated that they would be observing a moment of silence and offering counselors if needed on Monday.

I then determined that I need to tell her b/c I did not want her to be more scared and confused when they did all of this on Monday. I told her.
She is not doing well with it.

I spoke to her when she got home from school yesterday and NOTHING was mentioned AT ALL.

I am LIVID.

Phallus Cranium fuknutz, NM, Togo 103283 posts
18th Dec '12
Quoting Lillybutt's momma:" But what about if students discussed it with students that weren't informed? Thats just asking for issues"


I explained to my child that she should not bring the subject up to others since we did not know who knew and who did not.

She did not mention it to anyone.



Jerk Horse Here, CA, United States 65131 posts
status 18th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting .Colleen.:</b>" I am also from CT This post is originating b/c I decided NOT to tell my 6 yo about Friday. I kept ... [snip!] ... doing well with it. I spoke to her when she got home from school yesterday and NOTHING was mentioned AT ALL. I am LIVID."</blockquote>



Oh poor Ash :(
This breaks my heart. I'm so sorry Colleen. This is why I haven't told my girls. I don't know how they would react, and honestly I wouldn't be able to hold myself together enough to even try to explain it to them.



*hugs*. I'm sorry you were put in that situation, and I'm sorry Ash is hurting. Poor baby :(

Mr. Inappropriate 2 kids; Talofofo, GU, Guam 15032 posts
18th Dec '12

I know my children, so I feel I am best qualified (along with my wife) to explain sensitive issues to them when the time is right. If they have questions, I will be able to answer all of them, even if it's "I don't know."

Emily Dickinson 18 kids; Indiana 57831 posts
18th Dec '12

I think it is the parents responsibility. I had no choice but to talk with my class about it. It was either I tell them the truth or they would believe the rumors the other kids were spreading. I have 3rd graders though.