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Baby Last Name. Rylee's Mommy (: 1 child; Indiana 151 posts
18th Dec '12

Okay, so i just had my baby girl a couple weeks ago. I gave her my last name and I put my name on the birth certificate and thats it.
I did it this way because her dad didn't want anything to do with me/her during my pregnancy and now he just looks at it as "oh i have a baby" like the fun part. not the responsible part, he doesn't help buy her anything. & we aren't married, we aren't even together.
But now he's making a big deal about her having my last name.
Can he get it changed or is that my say?

~Ba.zin.ga~ Due December 4 (girl); 1 child; Under your bed, OO, United States 3921 posts
18th Dec '12

They'd need both of your signatures. So no, he can not change her name without your consent.

Laventure_Adventure 2 kids; Pennsylvania 675 posts
18th Dec '12

That is your say, the court would request you to sign over the rights of the last name which you can refuse.

izzy+Ethan 2 kids; Edmonton, Alberta 4056 posts
18th Dec '12

Your say ...plus hes not on the birth certificate so he really has no choice in the matter

HungryHippo 2 kids; Missouri 12139 posts
18th Dec '12

He can get it changed if he pays for a lawyer,DNA test and the judge decides baby should have his name
He will most likely end up paying CS if he does this

HopingforaMiracle 1 child; USA 22487 posts
18th Dec '12

He cannot change it without your signature

Maria + Cory = Alexis 17 kids; Middleport, Ohio 1075 posts
18th Dec '12
Quoting Rylee's Mommy (::" Okay, so i just had my baby girl a couple weeks ago. I gave her my last name and I put my name on the ... [snip!] ... aren't even together. But now he's making a big deal about her having my last name. Can he get it changed or is that my say?"

No he can't. You have the legal right to name your child whatever you want. I am not married but am still with the father and our baby will have my last name.

J+D=4 4 kids; Beverly Hills, California 14683 posts
18th Dec '12

nope, it's up to you. maybe one day if he pulls his big-boy pants up and acts like a man, it can be changed :)

tinana+2 TTC since Nov 2013; 2 kids; Staten Island, NY, United States 29537 posts
18th Dec '12

He cannot change it without your permission. If he tries to go to court, and they CONSIDER it, probably still won't happen if he's not a part of your life like you say.

Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 45796 posts
18th Dec '12
Quoting Laventure_Adventure:" That is your say, the court would request you to sign over the rights of the last name which you can refuse."


The courts can order her to change the last name.

Dean Winchester 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Alaska 16777 posts
18th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Rylee's Mommy (::</b>" Okay, so i just had my baby girl a couple weeks ago. I gave her my last name and I put my name on the ... [snip!] ... aren't even together. But now he's making a big deal about her having my last name. Can he get it changed or is that my say?"</blockquote>




It takes 2 to change it. I even took dd bd to court he requested it to be changed but he has yet attempte to go with me and now I moved. Id take him to court.now. Get tge financial issue out of the eay. He will just come and go.

IDGAF ❤ 1 child; San Diego, CA, United States 30556 posts
18th Dec '12

Your BD sounds like mine lol. Nope, it is your choice. He CAN however take you to court over it & try to get it changed. That costs a good amount of money though & reasonable proof that it is in the child's best interest. My BD tried to say he was going to get my DD's last name changed to his, like good luck. He doesn't care enough to even attempt that & he hasn't lol.

IDGAF ❤ 1 child; San Diego, CA, United States 30556 posts
18th Dec '12
Quoting speaktruth2powr:" The courts can order her to change the last name."


Only if the last name change is for the best interest of the child, not just because he thinks the child should have his last name just because the child is his.

E'M Shikari Due March 10 (boy); 1 child; 1 angel baby; Preston, United Kingdom 1747 posts
18th Dec '12

I did the same, DD has my last name and BD isn't on birth certificate. They told me when I signed it that the name cannot be changed without my permission.

Laventure_Adventure 2 kids; Pennsylvania 675 posts
18th Dec '12
Quoting speaktruth2powr:" The courts can order her to change the last name."

They could, but they have to prove he's the father since he's not on the birth certificate. Unless that guy goes through that process then he's out of luck for now at least.