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Cast Your Vote:

    • When a ring that both parties are aware of is in production -- Votes: 5
    • decided you will get married but w/o announcing it to others -- Votes: 9
    • after a ring has been purchased & he has officially purposed -- Votes: 50
    • After he has purposed (but no ring yet) -- Votes: 22
kthx. Due January 13 (girl); Cleves, Ohio 66665 posts
19th Dec '12
Quoting LolaMcKitten:" Sometimes two peoples love means more than a silly piece of jewelry. "


And to me, it's crucial. I don't care if it's $100 or $1k. When I was thinking about marriage with the guy I was dating for 4 years, I told myself the ring wasn't important. None of it was important. But in reality, I'm WORTH that extra effort. And I won't settle for SO just being like, "Marry me" with no ring. If I'm not worth the time and effort for him to get a ring and propose, he isn't worth my 'yes'. Thankfully, SO knows not to propose without a ring :lol:




And it's not about money. You can get a ring from the pawn shop or at freakin' Walmart for under $100. It's the thought... and I believe every woman is worth at least that.

LolaMcKitten Due May 30 (girl); 27 kids; Beverly Hills, California 15496 posts
19th Dec '12
Quoting kthx.:" And to me, it's crucial. I don't care if it's $100 or $1k. When I was thinking about marriage with the ... [snip!] ... from the pawn shop or at freakin' Walmart for under $100. It's the thought... and I believe every woman is worth at least that."


Eh - I think it's silly and doesn't really prove anything. Doesn't give any more validity to the "commitment" being made.

user banned 2 kids; New York 34017 posts
19th Dec '12
Quoting LolaMcKitten:" Eh - I think it's silly and doesn't really prove anything. Doesn't give any more validity to the "commitment" being made. "


i don't think so either, but it's nice to have this rock to stare at.

LolaMcKitten Due May 30 (girl); 27 kids; Beverly Hills, California 15496 posts
19th Dec '12
Quoting JiLLiAN.:" i don't think so either, but it's nice to have this rock to stare at."


Sure, it's nice - I love my wedding set - but I just fail to see how it adds any validity? lol

mamaluvsher4babies 36 kids; California 4230 posts
19th Dec '12

I considered being engaged when my husband asked me. I had no ring. I have no ring now and I am married. I hate wearing jewelry never wanted a ring.
It what was in our hearts not on my fricking finger

Mom of Tristan/Rayah/Keat 3 kids; Alberta 2068 posts
19th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting kthx.:</b>" And to me, it's crucial. I don't care if it's $100 or $1k. When I was thinking about marriage with the ... [snip!] ... from the pawn shop or at freakin' Walmart for under $100. It's the thought... and I believe every woman is worth at least that."</blockquote>




I guess if I thought your way I wouldn't be married my now husband.



We decided we were going to get married. He looked at me fom the other couch and said "will you marry me". I laughed and said yes of course but we already decided we were going get married. That was the fall of 2009 and we were married the falling summer.



Our love was more important then a ring. Still is a ring is just show.

user banned 3 kids; Los Angeles, California 54034 posts
19th Dec '12

When two people decide to get married-we didn't do a proposal or any of that (to me) silly traditional stuff, but I also didn't walk around exclaiming "we're engaged!" or anything, either.



Nothing to do with rings to me, at all.

kthx. Due January 13 (girl); Cleves, Ohio 66665 posts
19th Dec '12
Quoting LolaMcKitten:" Eh - I think it's silly and doesn't really prove anything. Doesn't give any more validity to the "commitment" being made. "


To me, it does. Difference of opinions :) I know not everyone would agree with me.

kthx. Due January 13 (girl); Cleves, Ohio 66665 posts
19th Dec '12
Quoting Mom of Tristan/Rayah +1:" <blockquote><b>Quoting kthx.:</b>" And to me, it's crucial. I don't care if it's $100 ... [snip!] ... fall of 2009 and we were married the falling summer. Our love was more important then a ring. Still is a ring is just show."


Eh. SO's asked me to marry him, and I asked where the ring was :D

user banned 2 kids; New York 34017 posts
19th Dec '12
Quoting Dr. Paradigm Shift:" When two people decide to get married-we didn't do a proposal or any of that (to me) silly traditional ... [snip!] ... stuff, but I also didn't walk around exclaiming "we're engaged!" or anything, either. Nothing to do with rings to me, at all. "

i don't think i've called jake my fiance once, yet. i still call him my boyfriend IRL and refer to him as "SO" on here. we knew we were getting married regardless.

Ryloonjimama Australia 18851 posts
19th Dec '12

When two people have a mutual agreement to make a commitment through marriage.



That could happen when one person spontaneously proposes for the others hand in marriage and they accept. It could also happen when two people both decide together "okay, we are getting married."



There doesn't have to be a ring involved, IMO.

Ryloonjimama Australia 18851 posts
19th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Minion:</b>" SO hasn't officially proposed and there isn't a ring, but we've both agreed that we want to get married ... [snip!] ... we want to get married and have decided it will be this June. I think we're engaged, but everyone I talk to says we're not."</blockquote>




If you are plan a wedding for 6 months time, it's safe to say you're engaged. lol.

Ryloonjimama Australia 18851 posts
19th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting kthx.:</b>" And to me, it's crucial. I don't care if it's $100 or $1k. When I was thinking about marriage with the ... [snip!] ... from the pawn shop or at freakin' Walmart for under $100. It's the thought... and I believe every woman is worth at least that."</blockquote>



He knows how.. because you told him? lol. It can't mean that much if you have to tell him that it's a requirement.

Ryloonjimama Australia 18851 posts
19th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting kthx.:</b>" Eh. SO's asked me to marry him, and I asked where the ring was :D"</blockquote>




Using your logic though, he shouldn't be the guy to marry... you weren't "worth" a ring the first time...

The Master 2 kids; Perth, Australia 19989 posts
19th Dec '12

when two people decide that at some point in the future they will get married. My SO and I were laying in bed one night and he said 'suppose we better get engaged' and I said 'yeah ok' .... and that was it. A few months later my mum gave me her grandmothers engagement ring which is an heirloom, and that's been it for 8 years now.