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Some advice and help please :( Jocelynn Rose Due July 8; Ohio 9 posts
20th Dec '12

My parents abandoned me and i live with my bf and his parents and i really don't like his mother. she is really controlling and i know once the baby is born she will try to control everything and tell me what to do in demand and try to be the mother of it and not the grandma. i just need some guidance with this pregnancy....

user banned Vancouver, British Columbia 5643 posts
20th Dec '12

If you don't like it move out. You're lucky she even let you move in tbh.

ang_turtle+2.5 19 kids; Ohio 19590 posts
20th Dec '12
Quoting Paranya Sae-hoon:" My parents abandoned me and i live with my bf and his parents and i really don't like his mother. she ... [snip!] ... me what to do in demand and try to be the mother of it and not the grandma. i just need some guidance with this pregnancy.... "


get a job, move out= problem solved

I'm me 4 kids; Kentucky 3109 posts
20th Dec '12

be sure from the start that you put your foot down as "MOM" and her as "grandma" don't be afraid to speak up or move out

Dr. Elliot Reid ; 1 child; New Zealand 8931 posts
20th Dec '12
Quoting Nathaniel'sMom:" If you don't like it move out. You're lucky she even let you move in tbh."

Yeap, this.

Kristin Glashower Due July 4; Launceston, Australia 30 posts
20th Dec '12
Quoting Nathaniel'sMom:" If you don't like it move out. You're lucky she even let you move in tbh."

I agree with above post; My mother abandoned me since a young children and you don't need or want any people in your life who's just going to drag you down.



I would first stand your ground, Tell her I'm the Mother and It's MY child, if you don't like the way i'm doing things. I'm going.



HEAD UP and SMILE

Jocelynn Rose Due July 8; Ohio 9 posts
20th Dec '12

yes i want to move out but i want to try to work things out with the babys dad ........just because someone lets you move in doesn't give you the right to treat them anyway you want either. and we pay rent.

♥ Mrs. S ♥ Due September 20; 2 kids; Venezuela 13300 posts
status 20th Dec '12
Quoting ang_turtle+3:" get a job, move out= problem solved"


:!:

user banned Vancouver, British Columbia 5643 posts
20th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Paranya Sae-hoon:</b>" yes i want to move out but i want to try to work things out with the babys dad ........just because someone ... [snip!] ... ........just because someone lets you move in doesn't give you the right to treat them anyway you want either. and we pay rent."</blockquote>




If you can pay rent you can move out. It's time for your BD to grow up and support his little family.

♥ Mrs. S ♥ Due September 20; 2 kids; Venezuela 13300 posts
status 20th Dec '12
Quoting Paranya Sae-hoon:" yes i want to move out but i want to try to work things out with the babys dad ........just because someone ... [snip!] ... ........just because someone lets you move in doesn't give you the right to treat them anyway you want either. and we pay rent."


You can still work things out with the babies father and not live in the same house.

Jocelynn Rose Due July 8; Ohio 9 posts
20th Dec '12

yes trust me i have a job and so does he, but he wants to save up before we move out...ive had complications with my pregnancy because of stress plus i have major depression...i blacked out a week ago and had to take two weeks off work.

user banned Vancouver, British Columbia 5643 posts
20th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Paranya Sae-hoon:</b>" yes trust me i have a job and so does he, but he wants to save up before we move out...ive had complications ... [snip!] ... with my pregnancy because of stress plus i have major depression...i blacked out a week ago and had to take two weeks off work."</blockquote>




How far along are you?

Jocelynn Rose Due July 8; Ohio 9 posts
20th Dec '12

only three months

user banned Vancouver, British Columbia 5643 posts
20th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Paranya Sae-hoon:</b>" only three months"</blockquote>




You two have plenty of time to save. Save as much as you can. If your still irritated with her after the babies arrived move out. You will miss her help though.

Kristin Glashower Due July 4; Launceston, Australia 30 posts
28th Dec '12

That stress is because of the stress your mother inlaw is giving you. If you stay, your stress will stay and possible only get worse. Now do you want to risk that on your baby? I know it'scary, but you've got yo do right by you and your baby now