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Baby taken from you..... Jocelynn Rose Due July 8; Ohio 9 posts
20th Dec '12

I was wondering, I have told my bf that I wanted to leave him several times and he would threaten me that he would take me to court and get custody and that his parents have money. Is that possible if i have not done anything bad and will not when my child is born?

ang_turtle+2.5 19 kids; Ohio 19590 posts
20th Dec '12
Quoting Jocelynn Rose:" I was wondering, I have told my bf that I wanted to leave him several times and he would threaten me ... [snip!] ... custody and that his parents have money. Is that possible if i have not done anything bad and will not when my child is born?"


if your not a criminal or a druggie, then no the most they will give him is joint custody

Jocelynn Rose Due July 8; Ohio 9 posts
20th Dec '12

Okay what if he is a felon? I would not mind letting him see the baby if we were to split but for him to threaten to take my baby away....i don't think so. I just thought money might get him full custody since everything is corrupt now a days..

DeanJade&Mak's Mom 3 kids; Covina, CA, United States 8822 posts
20th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jocelynn Rose:</b>" Okay what if he is a felon? I would not mind letting him see the baby if we were to split but for him ... [snip!] ... take my baby away....i don't think so. I just thought money might get him full custody since everything is corrupt now a days.."</blockquote>



Having a record has nothing to do with custody, I had drug charges pending that were later expunged, and my ex had fire arm convictions,
He was on parole and got joint custody...

Jocelynn Rose Due July 8; Ohio 9 posts
20th Dec '12

I was just worried he could get full custody....

Nicola =) 1 child; Huntsville, Alabama 2783 posts
20th Dec '12
Quoting Jocelynn Rose:" I was just worried he could get full custody...."


Unless he has concrete proof of you not being fit to be a mother, he has no case against you.



Do not let his threatening get to you. No amount of money is going to get him full custody. They will not grant it to him, like I said above, unless he can 100% prove you to be unfit.
Actually with him being a felon, that could help your case. Any guy who will threaten to take your child away, is not the kind of guy I would ever want to be with. He would be gone...

⚓Misty⚓ 4 kids; Keenesburg, Colorado 7276 posts
20th Dec '12

It would depend. Do you have a stable place to live, does he? Are you guys working or going to school? Theres different circumstances that come into play. In most cases the dad gets the baby weekends or something similar

DeanJade&Mak's Mom 3 kids; Covina, CA, United States 8822 posts
20th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jocelynn Rose:</b>" I was just worried he could get full custody...."</blockquote>




Don't put him on birth certificate, as soon as babys born, go to court file for sole custody, legal and physical... I wish some1 told me to do this, costed me 6 weeks with my son to a complete stranger, and 7,500.



If he wants to get custody, he will have to file to establish paternity, then u guys will have to do dna tests, once u results back, go to court and file child support and file to give visitation...
U guys will go to mediation together, where ur suposed to come up with an agreement together... if he's an ass let him be an ass, the mediator makes a recomendation to court, judge can go
either way but most of the time they just go off what is in report...



If u file everything 1st its better for u, but make him file to establish paternity



U can get waivers for all the filing fees if u can't afford them, and look in ur area for free legal aid they prepare ur papers for u and u just have to take them to fam courts clerk

DeanJade&Mak's Mom 3 kids; Covina, CA, United States 8822 posts
20th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Nicola =):</b>" Unless he has concrete proof of you not being fit to be a mother, he has no case against you. Do not ... [snip!] ... Any guy who will threaten to take your child away, is not the kind of guy I would ever want to be with. He would be gone..."</blockquote>




My ex never met my son, was just out of prison on parole for firearm charges,
had no proof of anything,
had his gf sign proof of service...
he never served me,
he went to court by himself, lied about evrything...
got full custody... came to my house with cops and judges ruling
and took dean... for 6 weeks... all he needed was dna test because he wasn't and still isn't on Deans birth certificate...

DeanJade&Mak's Mom 3 kids; Covina, CA, United States 8822 posts
20th Dec '12

Double post..........

Nicola =) 1 child; Huntsville, Alabama 2783 posts
20th Dec '12
Quoting DeanJade&Maksims Momma:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Nicola =):</b>" Unless he has concrete proof of you not being ... [snip!] ... and took dean... for 6 weeks... all he needed was dna test because he wasn't and still isn't on Deans birth certificate..."


Something about all of that doesn't sound right. I have never really heard of children being taken away from the mother for no reason at all.



But if you say so..

⚓Misty⚓ 4 kids; Keenesburg, Colorado 7276 posts
20th Dec '12
Quoting DeanJade&Maksims Momma:" Double post.........."


thats crazy. Here you have to have an actual process server or police officer serve court papers. You cant just get anybody to do it. Im sorry you had to go through that, but at least you got him back

!!Katie!! 1 child; Tennessee 2794 posts
20th Dec '12

Oh honey, he's just trying to scare you. Don't let him bully you into staying with him. That makes him a shithead, and you def. don't want to be with someone like that.



Unless you're some kind of terrible person , who only binge drinks, does drugs and refuses to care for your child....they aren't going to give him sole custody.

DeanJade&Mak's Mom 3 kids; Covina, CA, United States 8822 posts
20th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Nicola =):</b>" Something about all of that doesn't sound right. I have never really heard of children being taken away from the mother for no reason at all. But if you say so.."</blockquote>



I couldn't have made it up, any better... he went in saying I was a drug addict alcoholic, stripper, I lived in some ghetto,



When I got a lawyer I had to do hair folicle test, bring in my nursing licsense, and were I worked, my lawyer had cops who came to take dean make letter about where I lived and the conditions... I had notes from learning academy about how dean was and type of mom I was.. so basically just to dispute everything he said...



I could have sued his dad because I could prove I wasn't served and now 3 years later the lady who suposdly served me, has a baby by my ex, and she put on proof of service she met us at a rehab... I had all my med records till just after I had baby, I've never been to a rehab...



But my lawyer had already costed 7,500. And I just wanted it over with...

DeanJade&Mak's Mom 3 kids; Covina, CA, United States 8822 posts
20th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Misty Walls:</b>" thats crazy. Here you have to have an actual process server or police officer serve court papers. You ... [snip!] ... serve court papers. You cant just get anybody to do it. Im sorry you had to go through that, but at least you got him back"</blockquote>




I wish it was like that over here...I seriously could not believe it was happening, it made no sense to me...
I guess its a good thing in the end, I learned a lot and have been able to help other moms... deans fine now... he still has my last name... which is like a dagger to his dads balls because he's a macho asshole... and when dean turns 18 I'm going to go after him for back child support.... :) which is going to suck very bad for him because he's a pro mma fighter....



So i"ll get the last laugh...