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How am I suppose to..... Miss. Tiff Due November 20; 33 kids; Odessa, Missouri 2874 posts
20th Dec '12

Help my sister she's a drug addict. ? see this issue isn't new it's been on going since 2008 when Oxy was just recreational. Now fast forward she's shooting up heroin & Mollies (I don't even know that is). Currently she's in jail (with a laundry list of things over the yrs) & this time there is none to bail her out .
She's NEVER been responsible for any of her shitty choices & poor decisions. But
How am I suppose to help my sister? I'm clueless, helpless & hopeless. @ this time she acts like there is no problem. But they have no money & nothing to show for anything! Her Bf is a part if the problem been begging for the 500$ to get her out but we have no money nor will fit the bill any longer for acting like fools.
She's attempted suicide once a couple yrs a go bc they were so in deep.
They get better & then worse, & worse.
I Miss my sister! But how can I help her get away from these evil drugs. Yes, I'm fearful if that ONE call. I let my sister know I love her no matter what but how do I save her from these drugs!??

Blythe. 1 child; Indiana 21471 posts
20th Dec '12

Jail may be the best thing for her. All you can do is be there. Write her letters, tell her you are there to support her.

FutureMommyof2 Due June 5; 1 child; Charlotte, North Carolina 1035 posts
20th Dec '12

Maybe she can get clean in jail. Addiction is so horrible I have 2 step sisters that are addicts. One is in the process of getting clean for the 20th + time and the other is so strung out. Sorry I know the pain you are feeling.

castaway 2 kids; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 18092 posts
20th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Blythe.:</b>" Jail may be the best thing for her. All you can do is be there. Write her letters, tell her you are there to support her. "</blockquote>



That's what I was thinking too. Paying for her bail won't do anything but help her get back to doing harmful things to herself sooner.

Nicola =) 1 child; Huntsville, Alabama 2783 posts
20th Dec '12

The saddest part about drug addiction is that you can't do anything about it.



You will not be able to save her. She has to choose to save herself. Maybe she can sober up in jail and decide to stay sober after she gets out.
It hurts being a family member to a drug addict but you have to step back and let her fall on her face. It's her only chance at getting sober.

Miss. Tiff Due November 20; 33 kids; Odessa, Missouri 2874 posts
20th Dec '12

We just aren't bailing her out. I do know that jail is the one place SHE HATES IT'S LIKE HER HELL. but what if when she gets out it doesn't change she goes right back? :( it hurts knowing he's putting God knows what in her veins & beaks my dd heart when she's promised or begging for "Missy"
I am here i've talked & keep in contact as much as possible but she still can't tell me she needs help. I wouldn't be ashamed if she would just ask please help me!
But she pretends all is well. I feel I'm failing her. I've seen this battle go on too long. Even tho bc of her record the degree wouldn't have mattered but she was almost done with her associates.

Blythe. 1 child; Indiana 21471 posts
20th Dec '12
Quoting Miss. Tiff:" We just aren't bailing her out. I do know that jail is the one place SHE HATES IT'S LIKE HER HELL. but ... [snip!] ... battle go on too long. Even tho bc of her record the degree wouldn't have mattered but she was almost done with her associates."


There isn't anything you can do until she either hits rock bottom or decides she wants to stop. I'm sorry, I know how hard this is, but all you can do is be there.

Nicola =) 1 child; Huntsville, Alabama 2783 posts
20th Dec '12
Quoting Miss. Tiff:" We just aren't bailing her out. I do know that jail is the one place SHE HATES IT'S LIKE HER HELL. but ... [snip!] ... battle go on too long. Even tho bc of her record the degree wouldn't have mattered but she was almost done with her associates."


It's not easy. Drug addiction doesn't just hurt the addict, it hurts everyone around them.
But the bottom line is no matter how much you are there for your sister you are not going to be able to change her habits/addictions.



I am so sorry you have to deal with this, though. Seeing a loved one like this is hell, I know.

Miss. Tiff Due November 20; 33 kids; Odessa, Missouri 2874 posts
20th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Blythe.:</b>" There isn't anything you can do until she either hits rock bottom or decides she wants to stop. I'm sorry, I know how hard this is, but all you can do is be there."</blockquote>




I fear.... Her rock bottom is death. She's only 23. It's been about a7 yr battle. She's wasting sooooo much youth/life. :(
I know she has to want it, but I know I want it mire than her. For sure. I want her to experience true happiness.