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Buzz and Almond Joys momm 2 kids; Albuquerque, New Mexico 12593 posts
Dec 20th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Aryann's Mommy:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Buzz and Almond Joys momm:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... sisters still do it so it's not weird in our family, he did stop for a little bit at about 12/13 ish because it wasn't cool lol"</blockquote>




Awe I hope my boy still kisses me when he is 16! I would be so happy even if its on the cheek!

wombie 4 kids; Zimbabwe 73281 posts
Dec 20th '12
Quoting GlamChic:" How humiliating that poor child is going to be teased for years to come. That's going to hunt him for ... [snip!] ... have sufficed. Poor kid I think she went to far just to be on tv. Then they wonder why children kill their parents. Smdh..."


you really think this one incident will haunt him forever?



and it's also funny that you advocated him addressing his classroom and making a public apology......it's the same idea. If you think he will be teased for the punishment he received, why would you think he wouldn't be teased for having to stand up in front of the class and make a public speech about his actions? That makes no logical sense.



and kids who kill their parents do so for a multitude of reasons, sometimes it's due to repeated physical/sexual abuse or severely harsh and repeated psychological/emotional abuse. If a child kills a parent because the parent implemented a punishment such as this ONE TIME, there are clearly other emotional or mental health issues going on with that child. Your statement just implied that if that child did turn around and kill his mother, she deserved it. :?



Furthermore, say she gave him a "talking to" and made him write a letter......say that punishment doesn't work and then his behavior gradually worsens over time and then he gets kicked out of school and then has to deal with all that comes with being kicked out of school. Maybe he turns to crime as some kids do when the "red flags" aren't addressed appropriately by the parents when they're younger......then, due to his criminal activity, he goes to jail. Of course, I'm speculating and giving a hypothetical situation (although not far fetched)....would THAT not haunt him for the rest of his life?



Believe me, I can be a little hippie/crunchy (associating myself with the word "crunchy" makes me want to stab myself btw) when it comes to parenting my children....I don't/won't spank, I rarely raise my voice, I use positive reinforcement before EVER implementing punitive action, etc.....but I would lay down some HARSH punishment for disrespect at this level. My number 2 goal in raising my children, coming second only to their own happiness, is to ensure they treat their fellow human beings with kindness and respect. I feel that is my contribution to this world and my legacy....as cliche as it sounds, I truly believe that. Sometimes it takes a little tough love and KARMA to show a child that their actions are wrong and to guide them as they grow into young adults.



Man, I really didn't intend to write a novel.....I guess I can be a little passionate at times, lol

wombie 4 kids; Zimbabwe 73281 posts
Dec 20th '12
Quoting Buzz and Almond Joys momm:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mom of Tristan/Rayah +1:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... my boy and he kissed my lips (he is 5 1/2) and someone said I will scar him for life doing that- mind you he kissed my lips"


wow :?



I still kiss my 13 year old son on the lips and will probably always do so.

user banned 1 child; Golden, Colorado 28482 posts
Dec 20th '12
Quoting Buzz and Almond Joys momm:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mom of Tristan/Rayah +1:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... my boy and he kissed my lips (he is 5 1/2) and someone said I will scar him for life doing that- mind you he kissed my lips"


I dont get people like that... Ive seen threads with parents thinking you cant kiss a kid of any sex on the lips past babyhood, but especially if they are of opposite sex. My nephew is going to be 14 and he still kisses the entire family on the lips, me included, and hes bigger than everyone but his dad! I asked Lily "Would you be mad if I kissed you and your friends said EWWWWW GROSS!" and she said "No, why would I be mad, its just a kiss!"



As for the topic at hand, good for the mom. Its not going to scar him... he didnt do anything THAT humiliating. Making him stand in his boxers, thats pushing the limits. Holding a sign... I bet he will think twice the next time he wants to disprespect an adult.

Mrs. Potato d**k Madagascar 20356 posts
Dec 20th '12
Quoting FroggysMommy:" I dont get people like that... Ive seen threads with parents thinking you cant kiss a kid of any sex ... [snip!] ... boxers, thats pushing the limits. Holding a sign... I bet he will think twice the next time he wants to disprespect an adult."


I would love to talk to this kid in 5, 10 years and see what he says about the punishment.

Tarynosaurus Rex San Antonio, Texas 1271 posts
Dec 20th '12
Quoting GlamChic:" How humiliating that poor child is going to be teased for years to come. That's going to hunt him for ... [snip!] ... have sufficed. Poor kid I think she went to far just to be on tv. Then they wonder why children kill their parents. Smdh..."


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Tarynosaurus Rex San Antonio, Texas 1271 posts
Dec 20th '12

He's 12. He'll get over it. It's not like he's 4 and unable to completely grasp why his behavior is wrong.



A 12 year old is plenty old enough to face the consequences of his actions. I would rather my kid be humiliated for a while than to continue thinking it's okay to disrespect people like that.

[[Breezy]] Due August 15; 1 child; Savannah, Georgia 16186 posts
status Dec 20th '12

Public humiliation and shaming as a punishment is piss poor parenting in my opinion. If he's got a mouth like that, chances are he's getting it from his parents. All this punishment will do is cause him to resent his mother, probably for the rest of his adolescent life (though I'm sure he won't speak out like that in class again -- though, he absolutely will continue to do so in private or with his friends). His head was probably so filled with embarrassment and shame that he didn't have any time to feel remorseful, which a personal phone call and apology to the teacher would have ultimately given him.

Dovahkiin 1 child; 1 angel baby; Kentucky 16776 posts
Dec 20th '12

I love it.

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
Dec 20th '12

Oh God, my father caught me skipping at the mall on day so the weekend, he took me there and had me walking with a big sign that read: "This is what I get for skipping school through the week." It was so embarrassing.

Mrs. Potato d**k Madagascar 20356 posts
Dec 20th '12
Quoting [[Breezy]]:" Public humiliation and shaming as a punishment is piss poor parenting in my opinion. If he's got a mouth ... [snip!] ... have any time to feel remorseful, which a personal phone call and apology to the teacher would have ultimately given him. "


There are other things that have cursing. TV and movies are full of cursing. He's old enough to know better than to use awful words toward an authority figure. Especially since they were saying it was unlike him.



If she would've let it go and just made him call the teacher, that wouldn't have taught him anything. "I just have to call my teacher as a punishment? Sweet."



Plus, she didn't want the other kids coming up to him and telling him how awesome he was for standing up and talking to the teacher like that. That was a big reason for her doing that. I know if it were my school, kids would've been high fiving his ass forever.



Like I said before, I would love to see this kid be interviewed in a few years when he's older so we can know how he feels about it then. Not only him, but the FB girl and the other ones who had to hold signs.

Mrs. Potato d**k Madagascar 20356 posts
Dec 20th '12
Quoting Heeeeeey, Sexy lady. ;):" Oh God, my father caught me skipping at the mall on day so the weekend, he took me there and had me walking ... [snip!] ... had me walking with a big sign that read: "This is what I get for skipping school through the week." It was so embarrassing."


Did you learn your lesson? Did you resent him?

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
Dec 20th '12
Quoting Mrs. Potato d**k:" Did you learn your lesson? Did you resent him?"


I never resent my father. Till this day, we talk about that day & laugh. I guess you can say I learned my lesson to an extent. That happened in my freshman year and I didn't skip till my senior year when my friends convienced me to.



One day, he did have the cops take me to the police station for sneaking out. That, I did learned. Never ever, did I sneak out again. Don't resent him for that either.

[[Breezy]] Due August 15; 1 child; Savannah, Georgia 16186 posts
status Dec 20th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs. Potato d**k:</b>" There are other things that have cursing. TV and movies are full of cursing. He's old enough to know ... [snip!] ... he's older so we can know how he feels about it then. Not only him, but the FB girl and the other ones who had to hold signs. "</blockquote>




I didn't mean the cussing being learned from the parents. I meant the lack of respect for other people. There's a bigger picture associated with this story but just the punishment alone - I don't agree with.

justanothamotha Due January 20; 130 kids; Climax, Michigan 5120 posts
Dec 21st '12
Quoting [[Breezy]]:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs. Potato d**k:</b>" There are other things that have cursing. ... [snip!] ... for other people. There's a bigger picture associated with this story but just the punishment alone - I don't agree with."

I don't agree with it either. I think if he has to wear a board out front so should his mom that reads "I don't know how to raise a respectful kid & have to resort to public shaming because I don't have any other parenting skills".



My parents raised many children - NONE of them EVER got in trouble at school - none & we were NEVER treated like this. I don't anticipate this from my kids & I have no reason to - it isn't part of how we were raised & it wont be part of how I raise my kids. Even that dad in the video - I get it - but my 15 yr old wouldn't have her own laptop OR cell phone. She would survive without it quite easily like EVERYONE on my generation did. I think those things cause far more issues than what they offer for true function in a child's life. The family computer is quite sufficient to share.