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[[Breezy]] 1 child; Savannah, Georgia 14515 posts
20th Dec '12

Public humiliation and shaming as a punishment is piss poor parenting in my opinion. If he's got a mouth like that, chances are he's getting it from his parents. All this punishment will do is cause him to resent his mother, probably for the rest of his adolescent life (though I'm sure he won't speak out like that in class again -- though, he absolutely will continue to do so in private or with his friends). His head was probably so filled with embarrassment and shame that he didn't have any time to feel remorseful, which a personal phone call and apology to the teacher would have ultimately given him.

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14109 posts
20th Dec '12
Quoting [[Breezy]]:" Public humiliation and shaming as a punishment is piss poor parenting in my opinion. If he's got a mouth ... [snip!] ... have any time to feel remorseful, which a personal phone call and apology to the teacher would have ultimately given him. "


Uh, he's 12 not 3. Chances are he learned to talk like that from his friends, TV shows, the internet, ect...not his parents. And if he talks about shit like that privately with his friends - so what? You never talk about someone behind their back or curse with your friends? At least he understands that his actions are disrespectful and not tolerated.

Dovahkiin 1 child; 1 angel baby; Kentucky 16776 posts
20th Dec '12

I love it.

Sarah ♥ K&K 2 kids; South Land, CA, United States 119219 posts
20th Dec '12
Quoting [[Breezy]]:" Public humiliation and shaming as a punishment is piss poor parenting in my opinion. If he's got a mouth ... [snip!] ... have any time to feel remorseful, which a personal phone call and apology to the teacher would have ultimately given him. "


Right, cussing is learned from the parents.




Your punishment sound like the easy way out and he'll be back to doing it in no time.

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
20th Dec '12

Oh God, my father caught me skipping at the mall on day so the weekend, he took me there and had me walking with a big sign that read: "This is what I get for skipping school through the week." It was so embarrassing.

Mrs. Potato Dick Madagascar 20356 posts
20th Dec '12
Quoting [[Breezy]]:" Public humiliation and shaming as a punishment is piss poor parenting in my opinion. If he's got a mouth ... [snip!] ... have any time to feel remorseful, which a personal phone call and apology to the teacher would have ultimately given him. "


There are other things that have cursing. TV and movies are full of cursing. He's old enough to know better than to use awful words toward an authority figure. Especially since they were saying it was unlike him.



If she would've let it go and just made him call the teacher, that wouldn't have taught him anything. "I just have to call my teacher as a punishment? Sweet."



Plus, she didn't want the other kids coming up to him and telling him how awesome he was for standing up and talking to the teacher like that. That was a big reason for her doing that. I know if it were my school, kids would've been high fiving his ass forever.



Like I said before, I would love to see this kid be interviewed in a few years when he's older so we can know how he feels about it then. Not only him, but the FB girl and the other ones who had to hold signs.

Mrs. Potato Dick Madagascar 20356 posts
20th Dec '12
Quoting Heeeeeey, Sexy lady. ;):" Oh God, my father caught me skipping at the mall on day so the weekend, he took me there and had me walking ... [snip!] ... had me walking with a big sign that read: "This is what I get for skipping school through the week." It was so embarrassing."


Did you learn your lesson? Did you resent him?

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
20th Dec '12
Quoting Mrs. Potato Dick:" Did you learn your lesson? Did you resent him?"


I never resent my father. Till this day, we talk about that day & laugh. I guess you can say I learned my lesson to an extent. That happened in my freshman year and I didn't skip till my senior year when my friends convienced me to.



One day, he did have the cops take me to the police station for sneaking out. That, I did learned. Never ever, did I sneak out again. Don't resent him for that either.

[[Breezy]] 1 child; Savannah, Georgia 14515 posts
20th Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs. Potato Dick:</b>" There are other things that have cursing. TV and movies are full of cursing. He's old enough to know ... [snip!] ... he's older so we can know how he feels about it then. Not only him, but the FB girl and the other ones who had to hold signs. "</blockquote>




I didn't mean the cussing being learned from the parents. I meant the lack of respect for other people. There's a bigger picture associated with this story but just the punishment alone - I don't agree with.

justanothamotha Due January 20; 130 kids; Climax, Michigan 5120 posts
21st Dec '12
Quoting [[Breezy]]:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs. Potato Dick:</b>" There are other things that have cursing. ... [snip!] ... for other people. There's a bigger picture associated with this story but just the punishment alone - I don't agree with."

I don't agree with it either. I think if he has to wear a board out front so should his mom that reads "I don't know how to raise a respectful kid & have to resort to public shaming because I don't have any other parenting skills".



My parents raised many children - NONE of them EVER got in trouble at school - none & we were NEVER treated like this. I don't anticipate this from my kids & I have no reason to - it isn't part of how we were raised & it wont be part of how I raise my kids. Even that dad in the video - I get it - but my 15 yr old wouldn't have her own laptop OR cell phone. She would survive without it quite easily like EVERYONE on my generation did. I think those things cause far more issues than what they offer for true function in a child's life. The family computer is quite sufficient to share.

Tarynosaurus Rex San Antonio, Texas 1271 posts
21st Dec '12
Quoting [[Breezy]]:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs. Potato Dick:</b>" There are other things that have cursing. ... [snip!] ... for other people. There's a bigger picture associated with this story but just the punishment alone - I don't agree with."


That's not true. Plenty of disrespectful little shits have parents who teach them to be respectful. You can only do so much and then your kids are going to do whatever they want to. In fact in my high school some of the biggest a*****es had very respectful parents who tried to drill that into their kids. But especially around peers kids are going to be more likely to act like douches.

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
21st Dec '12
Quoting justanothamotha:" I don't agree with it either. I think if he has to wear a board out front so should his mom that reads ... [snip!] ... far more issues than what they offer for true function in a child's life. The family computer is quite sufficient to share."


I had a friend who"s parents thought just like you. She was 17 and still was not allowed to have a phone. Not even one of those 20 dollar phones. That only made her rebel more.Just because that worked on you does not mean it'll work on your kids. It really just comes down to influences & this generation is much more fucked up than ours.

justanothamotha Due January 20; 130 kids; Climax, Michigan 5120 posts
21st Dec '12
Quoting Heeeeeey, Sexy lady. ;):" I had a friend who"s parents thought just like you. She was 17 and still was not allowed to have a phone. ... [snip!] ... mean it'll work on your kids. It really just comes down to influences & this generation is much more fucked up than ours."

EVERY generation says the next one is so fucked up. My gran is 90+ yrs old - she said her generation thought the beatnicks were terrible, the next hated hippies, & so on & so forth. Human beings are human beings & psychology is psychology. Tehre is far more to it than simply not letting them have a phone....it's a whole WAY of being. Of all my siblings - NONE were sexually active in school & in all of our cases (we have discussed this as parents ourselves) ALL of our friends were. These things aren't flukes - but it also is not something you start handling at 12 either. It is allllll about the whole picture. It is like thinking you can handle discipline issues when the child gets in trouble instead of realizing that it's a whole parenting approach, all day, every day, not something to do with how you react when shit hits the fan, it starts well before that.

Tarynosaurus Rex San Antonio, Texas 1271 posts
21st Dec '12
Quoting Heeeeeey, Sexy lady. ;):" I had a friend who"s parents thought just like you. She was 17 and still was not allowed to have a phone. ... [snip!] ... mean it'll work on your kids. It really just comes down to influences & this generation is much more fucked up than ours."


I wasn't allowed to have a phone until I could pay for it myself. A phone is a luxury, not a necessity.

Sarah ♥ K&K 2 kids; South Land, CA, United States 119219 posts
21st Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting justanothamotha:</b>" EVERY generation says the next one is so fucked up. My gran is 90+ yrs old - she said her generation ... [snip!] ... approach, all day, every day, not something to do with how you react when shit hits the fan, it starts well before that."</blockquote>




Good for you guys?



I mean shit, kids have a mind of their own great parenting can only go so far until kids branch out and test their boundaries. Just because he was disrespectful in that moment does not mean it happens all the time or his mom raised someone disrespectful. How extremely judgemental, rude and unfair of you to say. I hope you're child is a prefect angel their whole life because lord knows it would be your fault if they had bad behavior