And we're in the hospital right now cause he keeps throwing up. No idea why! Could be reflux, could be allergic to the formula, could be lactose problems (all reasons that I've heard) I'm not even looking forward to seeing this bill!
Did she even factor in that one can of formula is $16? Unless the baby has issues, like just about every baby in my family and bf's family and now possibly my son. Then they have to have special formula, my cousin's formula costs $40 per can.
I didn't plan my baby, but when I found out I was pregnant I never would have imagined the medical bill costs! Never figured it would cost this much to have the baby, let alone all the stuff you have to buy. I had over a hundred newborn diapers, I'm down to less than 50 and they are going pretty fast!
Quoting Tay L:" Reading the comments and I see some high numbers! Its expensive having a baby! I didn't see what she ... [snip!] ... all the stuff you have to buy. I had over a hundred newborn diapers, I'm down to less than 50 and they are going pretty fast!"
Babies don't have to be that expensive.
When I have kids I will have a home birth (no hospital bills). Unless it is high risk for some reason.
I will not be using sposies. I will use cloth diapers (way cheaper in the long run).
And I will breastfeed.
And use thrift store clothes.
Having babies is actually not nearly as expensive as people try to make it out to be. Sure if you think you need to have all new stuff and use formula and sposies it adds up, but there's a LOT you can do to cut costs.
Have they checked to see if he's got pyloric stenosis? My SO had it when he was a baby and they almost didn't catch it. He got really dehydrated from the vomiting and had to go into surgery immediately. I'm glad I know he had it so my son can be checked when he's born, but symptoms usually show up around 3 weeks. If they haven't looked into it, it might be worth it.
Quoting Tarynosaurus Rex:" Babies don't have to be that expensive. When I have kids I will have a home birth (no hospital bills). ... [snip!] ... if you think you need to have all new stuff and use formula and sposies it adds up, but there's a LOT you can do to cut costs."
I agree you can do things to cut costs, I honestly don't think I've spent anywhere near what SOME people spend on the first year. I use disposables, but I stocked up with coupons/sales while pregnant so I've only had to buy one box since she's been born (now almost 9 months old). I also breastfeed, so we don't have to pay for formula. However it doesn't make babies cheap by any means. There are random things that you need to do as they grow that costs a good amount of money, once it's all added. We needed to baby proof our house around 6 months, and it cost us probably close to $300 and we still need to buy a new entertainment stand because she's constantly getting into everything.We have to buy clothes a lot because she's constantly growing (yes we buy new, but it's not a huge deal). Her swing also took a crap, so we invested in a jumperoo which was about $100. Granted she may not need the jumperoo, but it sure saves me because she constantly wants to be held. Now we're looking into buying her a portable high chair because we visit relatives regularly (at least once a week), and she needs a place to sit/eat where she can make a mess. Also we can adjust her straps up one more level and it will be time to purchase a new car seat. Speaking of car seat, this doesn't necessarily HAVE to go with a baby, but it does make it convenient to have a four door car so we are also looking into that for the sake of convenience and safety for DD. We have a two door that's pretty old and I'm sure we'd still be fine with using it if we didn't have DD. Idk, there are probably a lot of other things I am forgetting about and I know that not everything I listed is something you necessarily NEED, but my main points are that the first year is unpredictable, and you may have a "plan" before the child is born on how to save money, but you'll randomly come across things that make everything so much easier in the long run and it adds up.
Eh, I do all that and babies are still expensive.
And... They aren't babies for very long.
So there are ways to cut costs, but sometimes things happen and u end up having to change plans.
So far I've bought one box of diapers, a box of wipes, bathtime box (shampoo and stuff), vaseline, baby powder, a onsie, and a diaper bag. Everything else I have I got as gifts. :) (and I only had like 6 ppl show up to my baby shower out of more than 50 ppl). Plus christmas. So when people give you stuff its nice, its also helpful that there are places that you can go to get educated while earning "hours" that you can turn in for baby items. And wic is so helpful with formula! Cause formula is so expensive! $16 for one can, which adds up really fast.
It cost me less than $500 for the first year, seriously lol. I got all the big ticket stuff, clothing and diapers, etc at my baby shower. I breasted for 8 months. I also live in Canada so I didn't get any bills in the mail. The $500 was for things like baby food and formula for a few months, a few clothes and some medications.
Quoting Rd.:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Tarynosaurus Rex:</b>" Babies don't have to be that expensive. ... [snip!] ... any bills in the mail. The $500 was for things like baby food and formula for a few months, a few clothes and some medications."
Yeah when I see those "cost of a baby" things it makes me laugh because first of all babies don't NEED half the shit on those lists. Their needs are pretty dang basic the first few years. And secondly my mom had 4 kids and didn't make near as much money as those lists say just ONE kid will cost nevermind 4 and we survived alright.
I'm sure i'm going to get a ton of crap for this but just hear me out.
I will be 18 in 2 months and my fiancée will be 20 in feb. We have been together for 3 years and have an apartment together. The one thing holding us back from ttc is his fear of how hard it will be. Which is a totally rational fear, it will be the hardest thing either of us has every done. I'm not stupid, I know it will be a thousand times harder than I can begin to imagine.
But it will also be the greatest, most rewarding, most unbelievably perfect thing.
I graduated high school in June of 2013, I doubled up my classes and finished a year early. I am not going to college and am over half way done with my first semester. He is on his second. After two years I will be able to start working right away as will he. We both have jobs now, he make $8.50 an hour and I make $9.00 an hour working at an after school program. After school my fiancée is thinking about working for my dad doing construction making a lot more money with benefits. We get full financial aid and will have no school loans, we even get "living expense" money from school which is $2,000 each every semester. our school has a day care so when I was ready I would go back to school and my baby would be able to go to daycare.
We live comfortably on our own and are best friends. We can without a doubt financially support a baby.
Since I can remember I have wanted a child of my own. My first brother was born when I was ten and my second when I was 11. With the new baby in the house the older of the boys didn't get as much attention from mom as needed. My maternal instincts kicked in, and they have only gotten stronger and stronger as I've gotten older.
Over the past 2-3 years I have found how passionate I am about pregnancy and birth. For a 17 year old I know more about childbirth than many women who are already mothers. I believe that women are made to birth and that it is the most beautiful, empowering, natural thing in this world. I know I will never have a connection like the one I will have with my baby, and I just don't want to wait another day for that.
I'm having a hard time not pushing my fiancée but I know I only want this if he does too. He was okay with me going off of my birth control put still isn't comfortable with "finishing" inside of me. I am willing to wait a year or two but I know I am meant to be a mother and theirs nothing else in this world I would rather have.