Reply
I feel like... I'm falling Miss. Tiff Due November 20; 33 kids; Odessa, Missouri 2874 posts
21st Dec '12

Out of love with dh. Any more I can't stand him anything he does Pissess me off to the point I want to punch him. I almost feel resentment?
Why? Idk?
Being there to get me know he's got me I'm his? he use to be my Dr Phil now he's a mute. It bc He says I make shit up twist his words, I'm cr azy. Bc he sexually touched me in my sleep? I thought he'd never hurt me. Is it bc I can't get pregnant.? Is it bc he's not as sweet kind calm & quiet like before? Is it bc we've been together 7 .?
I almost hate him...... :( Idk what to do.

lolajessup Due July 25; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44057 posts
21st Dec '12

Sounds like u two need to "date" again.

Stu Padasso 2 kids; Henderson, Nevada 14638 posts
21st Dec '12

Sounds like there's a lot going on right now. Maybe you two need a break so you can figure out what you really want instead of growing to resent him.

Miss. Tiff Due November 20; 33 kids; Odessa, Missouri 2874 posts
21st Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting lolajessup:</b>" Sounds like u two need to "date" again."</blockquote>




That's possible.

cfxfdfdfdsfdafdsf Vacaville, California 71166 posts
21st Dec '12

He sexually touched you in your sleep? What do you mean by this? And what do you mean by you "though he'd never hurt you"?

Miss. Tiff Due November 20; 33 kids; Odessa, Missouri 2874 posts
21st Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Stu Padasso:</b>" Sounds like there's a lot going on right now. Maybe you two need a break so you can figure out what you really want instead of growing to resent him."</blockquote>




Today I said I hated him& didn't want to be with

Miss. Tiff Due November 20; 33 kids; Odessa, Missouri 2874 posts
21st Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Lovelyyy KD*:</b>" He sexually touched you in your sleep? What do you mean by this? And what do you mean by you "though he'd never hurt you"?"</blockquote>




No further details.

cfxfdfdfdsfdafdsf Vacaville, California 71166 posts
21st Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Miss. Tiff:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Lovelyyy KD*:</b>" He sexually touched you in your sleep? What ... [snip!] ... What do you mean by this? And what do you mean by you "though he'd never hurt you"?"</blockquote> No further details."</blockquote>




Then how do you expect help? Or advice? I mean "sexually touching" is a lot of things and so is hurting. Some husbands "sexually touch" their wives to maybe wake them and have sex. Sometimes it's done in malice and to hurt you. It all differs and depends

Miss. Tiff Due November 20; 33 kids; Odessa, Missouri 2874 posts
22nd Dec '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Lovelyyy KD*:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Miss. Tiff:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Lovelyyy ... [snip!] ... touch" their wives to maybe wake them and have sex. Sometimes it's done in malice and to hurt you. It all differs and depends"</blockquote>




It was UN wanted & when I woke he'd said he was "rubbing" my butt but he did it again &I remembered more, I take sleeping aids, & confronted him that he was lying & doing differently than said, if he ever touched me in my sleep again I'd never sleep in the same bed. He hasn't done it since.



That's how he hurt me.
I was molested as a child.

Miss. Tiff Due November 20; 33 kids; Odessa, Missouri 2874 posts
7th Jan '13

I have set up a therapy session... I can't take this anymore.



This is going to make or break us....

lolajessup Due July 25; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44057 posts
8th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Miss. Tiff:</b>" I have set up a therapy session... I can't take this anymore. This is going to make or break us...."</blockquote>




That's a good step. Good luck sweetie.

Miss. Tiff Due November 20; 33 kids; Odessa, Missouri 2874 posts
8th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting lolajessup:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Miss. Tiff:</b>" I have set up a therapy session... I can't ... [snip!] ... I can't take this anymore. This is going to make or break us...."</blockquote> That's a good step. Good luck sweetie."</blockquote>




Thank you!

KissMeFinnNelson<3 1 child; 2 angel babies; Glasgow, Scotland, UK, United Kingdom 4470 posts
8th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Miss. Tiff:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Lovelyyy KD*:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Miss. ... [snip!] ... in my sleep again I'd never sleep in the same bed. He hasn't done it since. That's how he hurt me. I was molested as a child."</blockquote>




Maybe you both need to go to some kind of counselling/therapy and to establish some boundaries about what is sexually acceptable. Some people think it is sexy and will spice the relationship up to try out things like waking their partner's up with sexual touching. I've woken DH up like that before and he has me and we enjoy it, obviously you don't so you need to make that clear. He may genuinely not have realised it would effect you in the way it has and thought it would be something enjoyable.

Miss. Tiff Due November 20; 33 kids; Odessa, Missouri 2874 posts
10th Jan '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting xTJ:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Miss. Tiff:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Lovelyyy ... [snip!] ... clear. He may genuinely not have realised it would effect you in the way it has and thought it would be something enjoyable."</blockquote>



I will see a therapist & then see about doing a session together. I know he didn't know it'd hurt me like it did but he wanted pleasure & I was asleep. We are working on things still at home.. Ty for all the advice ladies.