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How would you react? DJ, Nick & Emma's mommy Due August 20 (boy); 3 kids; Toledo, Ohio 2173 posts
21st Dec '12

My son is an out of district student at his school, and has been since kindergarten (he is in 3rd grade now). He is a great student, has never any kind of problems at school and gets very good grades. When I went to pick him up from school today I found out he was in an altercation after school with 2 other kids, and I got out of my car and talked to the other parent along with a school employee. The story I was told from the other mom that she was told from her son was that my son spit in her kids face and then called him a f****t, so her older son threatened to beat her ass....She then said when you spit on someone it makes you lower than dirt, which pissed me off...My son could hardly get a word in while talking to this lady, so I apologized to her and we all left...I get into my car and drill my son about what happened and he is hysterical and in tears over it all. I know when my son is lying, and I could tell he was not. He told me this little boy who is in kindergarten spit in my sons friends face, so my son in turn spit in this kids face...Well this kid then continuously called him a f****t and my son kept telling him to shut up, and this kid then went and got his brother who is in 6th grade and this 6th grader told my son "I'm going to kick your ass, and drop you to the floor". I was floored by this and drove right back to the school and talked to the principal about it and had my son explain what happened, because I did not want something happening again after they come back from winter break. The principal told me he would take care of it when they come back from break. I had a long discussion with my son about how wrong and nasty it is to spit in someones face, and it does not matter if this other boy did it first or not, and that he should have gone and got an adult right away. Then my son asked me what the word f****t means....so I kind of explained what it meant and told him it was a VERY mean and nasty word...and now he is upset because this kid called him that. (I asked my son if he had ever heard that word before from friends or anyone else, and he said no...and his dad nor I say that word) and my son is VERY upset over the fact he heard the mother call him lower than dirt for spitting. This mother acted as if her children did nothing wrong, and had agreed with her older son for wanting to kick my sons ass. I can tell just from the short talk we had that nothing will change her mind about what happened. I have been told by a few people that I should go make a police report about the threat against my son, because of all the school violence that has been happening and the schools take it very seriously now, and just in case it escalates into a bigger problem when they get back from break. I am not sure what I think about that, and I am not sure if I should request a meeting with the principle, all the kids involved and the other mother, to make sure something gets done and the problem is squashed. My sons dad is not home from work yet and does not know what happened, and I know he is going to want to pull him out of that school, even though is the best Toledo Public school we have....any suggestions as to what I should do?

Silvia's Mama TTC since Jul 2013; 1 child; auburn, WA, United States 1217 posts
21st Dec '12
Quoting DJ, Nick & Emma's mommy:" My son is an out of district student at his school, and has been since kindergarten (he is in 3rd grade ... [snip!] ... to pull him out of that school, even though is the best Toledo Public school we have....any suggestions as to what I should do?"

I would go with the police report and the meeting with the principle sounds to me like they are trying to scare and bully your Son and that's not okay the other mother should know better

Andi+Andy=Marley+1 2 kids; Fredericksburg, Virginia 4564 posts
21st Dec '12

Honestly, every mother wants to believe and protect their kids. I think you did the right thing by talking to your kid and that all you can do. I'd leave it at that. Kids fight. It's normal. If it keeps happening with the same kids then I'd have a talk with the principal.

Drunk Blair Waldorf 2 kids; Alpharetta, Georgia 19214 posts
21st Dec '12

I would definitely file a police report and have a meeting with the principal after the break. If the 6th grader wasn't involved, I'd say let it go. But because of that, you need to have some proof to back you up.

user banned 3 kids; Washington 15083 posts
21st Dec '12

I was bullied in school and always ended up in trouble in the principles office. I'd have to ride the bus back to the bus garage and be chased home. Then my mom would call, things would get worse and repeat.



Because of my experience, I would make a police report.

DJ, Nick & Emma's mommy Due August 20 (boy); 3 kids; Toledo, Ohio 2173 posts
21st Dec '12

Thank you for all your responses. I think I might go with the police report...If the 6th grader was not involved I would have let it go...but I am more concerned about that then everything else.